Quote From: gallenIn all sincerity I am asking about your husband's hobbies.
Dr. Phil said to back off, lighten up. I am finding other things to
put my energy into. I have been bitten by the RC bug. It is a
little more expensive than playing cards or watching TV, so
I suggest it to other guys out there with some hesitation.
These next thoughts aren't tied to your response, so please
don't feel like they are directed at you.
I have talked to a lot of the seasoned married men, the sort
that developed selective hearing loss over the years. How do
they handle marital strife. Several guys in my area rebuild engines,
cars, etc... Some of the guys that have it worse take up fishing.
The boats are kept packed and fueled; always ready to go
when the storm clouds start brewing.
I see a lot of women posting that men just need to learn to
love their wives more. Have any of you ever really tried to communicate
with an emotional extreme version of yourself. Image what your husband
must think the next time you go off at him in one of your moods. Did any of
you see the show on Monday? I read post after post about teamwork, roles,
husbands serving wives to make them feel appreciated, blah blah blah!
But what happens when your husband says he'd like you to do something?
All of a sudden the oppressed wife banners and fliers come out of no where.
Protests and riots begin out of no where, and the only thing for your husband
to do is - look at rebuilding that 460 in his Ford truck.
When my husband asks me to do something if it is reasonable I deny him nothing. Now that said my husband is not constantly criticizing me or making lists for me on how to be a better wife. If he did I would be less likely to do what he asked of me. I definitely wouldn't want to be intimate for fear he might be critical of that too. When you give as much as you get you will have a happy spouse. There are exceptions to every rule but it seems to me if you went home to your wife with an attitude of love and acceptance you might get a little more. Like Dr.Phil once said one of the most romantic things a man can do for his wife is wash the dishes. Now that said I'll bet you have a dish washer and how long does it take to load that thing? Maybe you could get a maid to come in and hire a babysitter for one day a month. Let your wife have the day off so she could get her hair done maybe a manicure and put on a nice outfit and you could take her out to dinner. Sounds like a lot of fun could come out of a well thought out day. Sure would be a lot more fun then playing with an rc car.
Dr. Phil revisits the topic of what makes a good wife. Grant and Kelly first appeared on the show because Grant expected his wife to live up to his demanding standards. He wanted a cleaner house, better meals and a sexier spouse. After seven years, his constant criticism and disappointment had her ready to throw in the towel on trying to become the "perfect wife." Dr. Phil’s first talk with Grant and Kelly caused quite a stir as thousands of viewers wrote in choosing sides. How are Grant and Kelly now? Has Grant abandoned his critical ways and his expectation of having a Stepford wife? And why is he no longer wearing his wedding ring? Talk about the show here.
