Topic : 02/21 More Wifestyles

First, I wonder *how* Grant would like it if Kelly refused to wear her wedding ring?  Grant seems to be the type of man (and I use that word loosely because Grant doesn't seem like much of a man to me, more like a bully) who wants his cake and to eat it too.... 

Kelly please throw this jerk out and move on!  Don't let him continue to browbeat you or to make you feel *less* worthy!  He's not worth it! Nobody should browbeat someone like Grant continues to do to you where they make you question your own value and make you feel worthless.  I'm sorry, but you deserve better!   

As for Grant, there's only one God and let me tell you buddy you aren't even close!  Lighten up, get your head out of your six!  I would love to hear *how* perfect you think you are, you condascending putz!  

Don't give him the power Kelly, move on, & gain your self-respect back.  Grant isn't worth it!  

I have raised 6 children, and have felt very frustrated when I could not keep up. The more overwhelmed I got, the harder it was to live up to other peoples expectations. I am older now. Some of my children are grown and the only thing that really matters are the memories I have of playing with them and loving them. Sometimes I was irresponsible with the house work, but in the big picture it was not important.  

If it is such a huge issue in your marriage that everything be perfect, simply hire someone to come in and clean for a couple of hours each week. You do not need to feel inadequate as a wife if you do this.  You will be more able to keep everything under control with a bit of help. ( I am fairly certain that the Stepford wives have cleaning ladies)  

Our children are now grown. When they were small I strived to work a full time job, take care of the children and keep a very tidy home. As our children grew over the years, they didn’t care if the house was clean as long as we were with them during ball games, band trips, wrestling matches, dance classes, etc. We realized that the house wasn’t as important as the memories we would miss if I spent all my time keeping house rather than keeping our children close at heart. My house was never dirty, just out of order occasionally. 

Four years ago, we lost our son. I am so glad we attended those functions with our children and made memories that are now irreplaceable rather than staying home to clean and organize our house. Since our son has been gone, we spend every single moment we can with his daughter. If the clothes are not washed and the dishes are not done, it really doesn’t matter. We may not have TOMORROW and we never know when that may come. 

I believe as Grant matures, he may understand the importance of family and friends if he doesn’t drive Kelly away first. I hate to say it but, he should treasure every moment he has with his family because we never know what God has in store for us in the future. 

   I believe a wife was created to respond.  If a husband is loving his wife, if she is a priority to him and he shows it, if he shows her respect and is genuinely interested in her life, ideas, up and downs etc, she responds to him positively.  I don't think men understand that they actually hold the key to their wives hearts.  Being genuinely loved by your husband, the most important person in your life, does sooo much.  It gives you energy, you can hardly wait for them to come home from work, the friendship is refreshing and all to say, a wife would do almost anything for a genuinely loving husband.