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Topic : 02/21 More Wifestyles

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Created on : Friday, February 17, 2006, 03:07:28 pm
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Dr. Phil revisits the topic of what makes a good wife. Grant and Kelly first appeared on the show because Grant expected his wife to live up to his demanding standards. He wanted a cleaner house, better meals and a sexier spouse. After seven years, his constant criticism and disappointment had her ready to throw in the towel on trying to become the "perfect wife." Dr. Phil’s first talk with Grant and Kelly caused quite a stir as thousands of viewers wrote in choosing sides. How are Grant and Kelly now? Has Grant abandoned his critical ways and his expectation of having a Stepford wife? And why is he no longer wearing his wedding ring? Talk about the show here.

 

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February 21, 2006, 12:32 pm PST

Urrgh

 Why is she still with this bozo? I know she loves him and wants to save her marriage, but honestly, is it worth all that?
 
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February 21, 2006, 12:32 pm PST

OH MY GODDDDD

IS THIS AMAZING OR WHAT?? 

  

HE IS NOT WEARING HIS WEDDING RING? BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T DESERVE IT,PRETTY MUCH HE HATES HER BECAUSE SHE IS NOT A STEPFORD WIFE??? 

  

OH MY GOD 

THIS IS SO MUCHHHHHH  HOW CAN SHE PUT UP WITH THIS IDIOT!!!!!! POOR WOMAN HAS NO SELF STEEM, I WONDER IF HE HITS HER , IT IS HARD TO LIVE WHAT YOU HAVE AND GO LIVING THINKING ON WHAT YOU COULD HAVE OR HOW WOULD YOU BE IF YOU WERE NOT MARRIED TO HIM,  BUT IS NOT IMPOSIBLE, YOU DON'T DIE BECAUSE THE MAN THAT YOU LOVED ONCE, DOESN'T REALLY LOVES YOU AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE HIM. 

  

LEAVE FOR YOUR CHILDREN THEY WANT A HAPPY MOM, NOT A ANGRY, FRUSTRATED WOMAN, BECAUSE  SHE WILL BE IF SHE STAYS. 

  

PLEASE DR. PHIL  DIVORCE IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD, PLEASE HELP THIS LADY 

  

  

 
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February 21, 2006, 12:32 pm PST

How Wonderful

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I think this story says it all. By Jo Ann LarsenLarry and Jo Ann were an ordinary couple. They lived in an ordinary house on an ordinary street. Like any other ordinary couple, they struggled to make ends meet and to do the right things for their children.They were ordinary in yet another way they had their squabbles. Much of their conversation concerned what was wrong in their marriage and who was to blame.Until one day when a most extraordinary event took place."You know, Jo Ann, I've got a magic chest of drawers. Every time I open them, they're full of socks and underwear," Larry said. "I want to thank you for filling them all these years."Jo Ann stared at her husband over the top of her glasses. "What do you want, Larry?""Nothing. I just want you to know I appreciate those magic drawers."This wasn't the first time Larry had done something odd, so Jo Ann pushed the incident out of her mind until a few days later."Jo Ann, thank you for recording so many correct check numbers in the ledger this month. You put down the right numbers 15 out of 16 times. That's a record."Disbelieving what she had heard, Jo Ann looked up from her mending. "Larry, you're always complaining about my recording the wrong check numbers. Why stop now?""No reason. I just wanted you to know I appreciate the effort you're making."Jo Ann shook her head and went back to her mending. "What's got into him?" she mumbled to herself.Nevertheless, the next day when Jo Ann wrote a check at the grocery store, she glanced at her checkbook to confirm that she had put down the right check number. "Why do I suddenly care about those dumb check numbers?" she asked herself.She tried to disregard the incident, but Larry's strange behavior intensified."Jo Ann, that was a great dinner," he said one evening. "I appreciate all your effort. Why, in the past 15 years I'll bet you've fixed over 14,000 meals for me and the kids."Then "Gee, Jo Ann, the house looks spiffy. You've really worked hard to get it looking so good." And even "Thanks, Jo Ann, for just being you. I really enjoy your company."Jo Ann was growing worried. "Where's the sarcasm, the criticism?" she wondered.Her fears that something peculiar was happening to her husband were confirmed by 16-year-old Shelly, who complained, "Dad's gone bonkers, Mom. He just told me I looked nice. With all this makeup and these sloppy clothes, he still said it. That's not Dad, Mom. What's wrong with him?"Whatever was wrong, Larry didn't get over it. Day in and day out he continued focusing on the positive.Over the weeks, Jo Ann grew more accustomed to her mate's unusual behavior and occasionally even gave him a grudging "Thank you." She prided herself on taking it all in stride, until one day something so peculiar happened, she became completely discombobulated:"I want you to take a break," Larry said. "I am going to do the dishes. So please take your hands off that frying pan and leave the kitchen."(Long, long pause.) "Thank you, Larry. Thank you very much!"Jo Ann's step was now a little lighter, her self-confidence higher and once in a while she hummed. She didn't seem to have as many blue moods anymore. "I rather like Larry's new behavior," she thought.That would be the end of the story except one day another most extraordinary event took place. This time it was Jo Ann who spoke."Larry," she said, "I want to thank you for going to work and providing for us all these years. I don't think I've ever told you how much I appreciate it."Larry has never revealed the reason for his dramatic change of behavior no matter how hard Jo Ann has pushed for an answer, and so it will likely remain one of life's mysteries. But it's one I'm thankful to live with.You see, I am Jo Ann.
I love your story. Mutual respect and appreciation are so important. It's a shame that it takes so long to learn that lesson.
 
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February 21, 2006, 12:33 pm PST

02/21 More Wifestyles

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I think the perfect husband is what makes a perfect wife! 

 There is no such thing as "perfect" wife Or husband.

Making a list of what she should or shouldn't be doing?  This guy treats his wife like an employee.  He's small in spirit, controlling in nature, and above all, not a great pick for a husband.   If he doesn't change I hope Kelly moves on.  Life is too short to spend it with such a person.
 
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February 21, 2006, 12:33 pm PST

Struggling!

 You know, I am trying so hard to turn over a new leaf and not get too excited at guests that bug me. Then, they went and put Grant back on the TV . To sum it up the best I can, I REALLY dislike that guy .Now, I will sit here with my tongue between my teeth NNNTTTHHHHH!!!
 
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February 21, 2006, 12:34 pm PST

Get out Kelly

I can't believe that Kelly is still with Grant. He is a controlling, manipulative individual and I feel scared for her, and quite frankly he is seriously in need of therapy. If he is this bad now what would it be like with a child. I have just finished watching a programme on A and E discussing wives and their controlling husbands and what happened to some of  those wives....way too scary.
 
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February 21, 2006, 12:35 pm PST

Cut to the Chase

Grant is a jerk! This guy has no regard for his wife and the contributions she makes to their lives (or perhaps I should say HIS life).  This man is critical, mean, condesending, opinionate and totally miss guided.  The fact that he complains because "she chases after kids all day" - notice he doesn't say "our kids" and the house is not to his liking demonstrates how truly selfish this man is! You want the house clean, then YOU clean it!  You want the dishes loaded a certain way, then YOU do it!  One is never better served than when one serves oneself.  So get off you high horse, do it yourself or hire someone to do it.  Maybe then his wife will feel like being Betty Crocker in the kitchen, Xaviera Hollinder in the bedroom and Martha Stewart in the rest of the house.  In the mean time, I think pharmaceuticals would help him with his obsessive-compulsive disorder (the obsession with his wife's perceive failings and the indefatiguable compulsion to NAG NAG NAG NAG!  I'd kick his a@@ to the curb!
 
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February 21, 2006, 12:36 pm PST

He is a joke right?

I am a newlywed and I am a housewife.  He does not expect near what this guy does. There are more things in the world to worry about then painting the kitchen pink, or learning to hip hop dance.  This guy should be lucky that he has a wife taking care of his children and making sure they are healthy and safe.  He needs to view his behavior as if someone were trying to control his children and there every move.  He would not want to see his daughters life being ran as though she were a caged animal.  It makes me sick to think that a man can still be this old fashioned and this controlling.
 
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February 21, 2006, 12:37 pm PST

perfect looking people

I am reminded of a neighbor, their house was perfect, not a weed in the yard, white picket fences, the wife wore outfits, not clothes, the kids seemed too clean.  My friends and I referred to them as the "perfect people".  Of course we didn't really KNOW these perfect people.  We assumed we were perhaps too imperfect for them to hang with.    Then one day as we were walking along, we saw the Dad in the driveway, he was quite drunk, he almost dropped the baby, he followed us to another neighbors house, in his underwear!  He was a pilot and proceeded to promise us (3 women) airline tickets all over the world.  We were afraid to ask in return for what exactly.   

  

Needless to say, we then referred to them as the "perfect LOOKING people".  Quite a difference.   

  

This will be fun to watch, show starts in about 20 minutes.   

Love, Luanne    

 
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February 21, 2006, 12:40 pm PST

Reality

 Simply put Grant get real.  You don't wear the wedding ring becasue you want to still be single. You have so many issues with Kelly because it's an excuse. You don't want to be married and it's your way of getting out of it. There is a  good chance that you are cheating on your wife and it makes you feel guilty. SO you have a hundred excuses why she is not the perfect wife. Why SHOULD she be the perfect wife, you are NOT the perfect husband. If you were .... you would be helping her when you get home. You be anxiuos to come home to your wife and kids. You would be there with her in the trenches at home making it work. Instead of spending all of your time and energy JUDGING HER.  IF YOU ARE SO UNHAPPY WITH HER, DIVORCE HER, GO GET CLONED AND THEM ENGINEER IT SO IT'S FEMALE,. That way you can marry your PERFECT self!!!!!!
 
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