Dr Phil,
If Grant is a believer, maybe he needs to read Proverbs 31:10-31 in regards to a wife of noble character.
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is
profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the
needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for
her household;
for all of them are clothed in
scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and
purple,
Her husband is respected at the city
gate,
where he takes his seat among the
elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells
them,
and supplies the merchants with
sashes.
She is clothed with strength and
dignity;
she can laugh at the days to
come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her
household
and does not eat the bread of
idleness.
Her children arise and call her
blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her;
Many women do noble
things,
but you surpass them all;
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is
fleeting,
but a woman who fears the Lord is
to be praised
Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise
at the city gate.
Maybe Grant needs to know that his wife may be of noble character even without organizing the closets to his liking or the way she positions the furniture. I think that Kelly should also know that her nobility is far more important that his silly ideas of the perfect Stepford Wife.
I feel that her self esteem and confidence are in grave danger here. If she is trying to work hard and keeping her "house in order" then that should be acknowledged as an accomplishment. Grant needs to give her the respect and praise of being a wife of noble character.
As far as Grant not wearing his wedding ring, I think that Grant is not being honest with himself. He probably dosen't want to acknowledge that he is either interested in someone else or is measuring his wife up against someone else or to other women. He should be honest with his wife because there is no explaining the wedding ring thing away. There is no justification for that. I just hope that Kelly does not think less of herself simply because she has been convinced by her husband that she is less than what she should be.
Dr. Phil revisits the topic of what makes a good wife. Grant and Kelly first appeared on the show because Grant expected his wife to live up to his demanding standards. He wanted a cleaner house, better meals and a sexier spouse. After seven years, his constant criticism and disappointment had her ready to throw in the towel on trying to become the "perfect wife." Dr. Phil’s first talk with Grant and Kelly caused quite a stir as thousands of viewers wrote in choosing sides. How are Grant and Kelly now? Has Grant abandoned his critical ways and his expectation of having a Stepford wife? And why is he no longer wearing his wedding ring? Talk about the show here.
