Quote From: momisme2I just want to give you the biggest hug then send you on a mini vacation! hint hint Dr. Phil
Ive read your posts and feel humbled by them. You seem such an honest loving compassionate woman! I can imagine how upsetting the anxiety and frustration are for you. Im sorry youre hurting! :(
You asked Grant what specific areas of improvement you needed to work on and he couldnt answer you. You asked for specific dinner requests and he had a hard time answering you. Why is that, Kelly? That seems an important question to be asking.
Has Grant started wearing his ring? If no, why do you believe he doesent wear it?
Do you think the house is a shambles and Grant has reason to feel the way he does? Or do you think you do a fairly good job considering you have three young children?
Do you think there could be any merit to Grant having a possible disorder?
Does your family support you emotionally?
What does your father think of all this? Your mother? Brother and sisters if you have any?
Sorry for the third degree! If you feel up to it would love to hear your answers!
You asked Grant what specific areas of improvement you needed to work on and he couldnt answer you. You asked for specific dinner requests and he had a hard time answering you. Why is that, Kelly?
Honestly, I can't speak for Grant but he just seems overwhelmed. My personal interpretation was that one or two things was too specific and it was too much. (He would probably tell you he did not know where to start LOL).
Has Grant started wearing his ring? If no, why do you believe he doesent wear it?
Grant has not put his ring back on, however the ring is very big. I am not sure what the real issue is there, but he hesitates to have it reduced so much and mess up the engraving. I am hoping to see the ring back on that finger soon, but I don't want to push. That seems to slow things down.
Do you think the house is a shambles and Grant has reason to feel the way he does? Or do you think you do a fairly good job considering you have three young children?
The house is far from a disaster. It is attractive and I get many many compliments on it.
We do suffer from a lack of storage. I am trying to be creative. The children's stuff certainly adds up and it is also hard to know what to keep and what to get rid of. My hidden spaces like closets and drawers are worse off than the rest of the home. In general, what you see looks good. I really enjoy flylady.net. I am learning just to get rid of stuff. I do love clothes!!! It is very difficult to clean with the little ones. They are 1, 3 and 4. They can almost undo anything! They all nap at 1 pm however, and it is nice! I am trying not to clean when they lay down because then it feels like that is what I do from the time I wake up till I go to bed. I don't think that our home should cause the grief to Grant that he claims to feel from it. I am making a concerted effort to declutter the home and to have it organized very well. It is not just for Grant. I appreciate it too, but I am not convinced that I will have a much happier hubby post "spotless home".
Do you think there could be any merit to Grant having a possible disorder?
I don't see that Grant has a severe disorder. I see that he is unhappy and pointing the finger at me.
Does your family support you emotionally?
My family is great. I have 4 siblings and they all support Grant and I. I have one big brother who chooses not to watch the show because he wants to keep liking Grant LOL. They make sure I am okay, but thay also know Grant well and they know that part of it is Grant being Grant.
What does your father think of all this? Your mother?
My father passed away last Fall- just a couple of weeks before we taped the first show. The show would have been close to impossible for me if my father were present. He thought the world of Grant and was very proud of him. I was his baby and he would not have managed that very well. My mother supports this whole deal. She is all for plowing through it now as opposed to later.
Kelly
Dr. Phil revisits the topic of what makes a good wife. Grant and Kelly first appeared on the show because Grant expected his wife to live up to his demanding standards. He wanted a cleaner house, better meals and a sexier spouse. After seven years, his constant criticism and disappointment had her ready to throw in the towel on trying to become the "perfect wife." Dr. Phil’s first talk with Grant and Kelly caused quite a stir as thousands of viewers wrote in choosing sides. How are Grant and Kelly now? Has Grant abandoned his critical ways and his expectation of having a Stepford wife? And why is he no longer wearing his wedding ring? Talk about the show here.
