Topic : 02/27 Twisted Love: The Aftermath

I think Dr. Phil should check with this couple again in another 6 months, or maybe even a month.  Charlie seemed very insincere and was saying exactly what Dr. Phil and Tracy wanted to hear...That boy's gonna cheat again !!!!!  What he said on the show to Dr. Phil and what he was saying in his kitchen to his wife were two different things. As Dr. Phil said, " he is one slick, articulate dude !!!"  I hope she does get help in finding herself and then she will realize she doesn't need a man who "actually surprised himself !" in the bedroom...UGH!  She deserves better !  

  I can't belive that Grant had a list of seventy five things a wife should do.  This is the 21st century.  Thank God!  I would not put up with him at all.  I really believe the way boys are raised by their mother has a huge influence, on how they treat their own wives.  There were definitely some other issues going on that were not on the show.  Kelly seemed sweet and she could do much better.  I watched the 2/28 show.  Her self esteem must be really low.  It is unfortunate to see anyone put up with a spouse who is obviosly not appreciating all she does do. 

I am engaged  

Fact #1: People always want what they can't have! People alway, always ALWAYS want what they can't have! 

Tracy, if you really want to keep Charles (and God only knows why you would) you need to  

MAKE HIM LEAVE! 

Think about it...if he didn't want you, he would have left already.  Tracy, you are a beautiful, intelligent, articulate, sweet woman.  You have a beautiful home and wonderful boys. Why would he want to leave that?  Of course, he doesn't...so he hasn't. 

Once you MAKE HIM LEAVE, guarenteed, he will start focusing on YOU. ( He Will! He Will! He Will!)  Right now, he already knows where you are, what you do, who you are with and sadly, what you will put up with to have HIM in your life.  You are no mystery.  Tracy, you need to turn the tables.  You need to MAKE HIM LEAVE.  He will probably run to the other woman, which will be difficult for you, I know, but then at least You will know where he is and what he is doing (which he is doing now anyway), but  he will start wondering who YOU are with, what YOU are doing. You need to have minimal contact, and discuss only the necessary things.  Don't tell him where you spend your days.  Pull back! Pull away!  Change your hair! Change your daily routine! Meet more people!! Put some mystery back in Tracy! Charles' ego will not let you go!!  He may not act like it, because he is obviously very manipulative, but he's made no differently than the rest of the human race, he will want you once he understands he no longer has you. But by then, (fingers crossed here)  you may have gained some perspective, gotten used to him being gone and decided you ARE WORTH MORE! 

Fact #2: Nothing makes you forget someone faster,  than someone else. 

LADIES - Send Tracy, via Dr. Phil, letters on guys you might know who would appreciate a beautiful, articulate woman in their lives - even as friends!  

GUYS - If your single, send Tracy a note telling her she deserves better than this. Let her know she should not be settling for this. 

Fact #3: As Dr Phil says, you teach people how to treat you, and Same Sex Role Models are the strongest for their children. 

Tracy, you are teaching your sons that this is an okay to treat women.  Charles is demonstrating that this is how women should be treated. Your boys will suffer from that lesson when they are older. Good luck!! 

Whew........Most women and some men on these message boards are issuing  extreme venom. 

The real problems faced with most women is they have unresolved anger and contempt for men because of cheating or they were dumped. 

Please continue to send your hate on these message boards....it will help you vent your anger. 

I admit, a huge mistake.   

Also,   keep in mind we have four boys to raise ....yea I screwed up, but  now realize we have another chance to make amends as a whole family. 

Much to your dismay,  Tracy & I are renewing our vows on our 20th anniversary. 

Please send your prayers and positive thoughts to charlesontheshow@yahoo.com. 

We are "paying it forward" to spouses who are experiencing the effects of an affair.  

 No its not our job to judge a person on what they do in their marriage, But to have someone sit here and admit that they are sleeping with another womens husband, and dont have a care in the world on what  kind of damage this may have on the family is just wrong!! 

 What im saying isn't passing judgement on anyone, it takes two for this to happen, Im just saying that this women is wrong. she has no respect for anyone, not even herself! And yes i do belive in Karma.. It's turned around and bite me in the azz plenty of times.!