Topic : 06/12 On the Outs With In-Laws

  

The two women spend their lives trying to have the last word.  3 miserable people, not counting the kids.  I had a mom in law that drove me nuts, luckily we lived 3,000 miles from each other.  Perhaps the couple should consider a move, if they can't focus on anything but the battle. 

I missed the part about why the kids are in foster care - can someone tell me? 

  

I thought my MIL was crazy, but this woman is a vindictive, evil woman! 

Doesn't anyone see how manipulative and hateful the wife is. I can guarantee that she doesn't help the situation at all. She is bitter and hateful. So may the MIL be, but someone has to step up and act like an adult here and none of the three of them are doing it. My first MIL didn't like me much, but we were able to be friendly and respectful despite the feelings. My New MIL is a gem!!! Where is the common decency anymore. I couldn't stand listening to any of them!

I think the daughter-in-law is just as bad.  She wasn't worried about getting help she was to busy looking at her self in the camera...   I felt sorry for the mom in ways...... 

What ever the mother in law did....remember that she has not spoken to them in 1 year....how can she still be causing the trauma the daughter in law speaks about...To me she looks like the controlling and vindictive one. The man just does not have a back bone and he is now doing any and everthing to please is wife even if its lying..Can you see how the daughter in law controls the son.

  

I was truly amazed at the immaturity demonstrated by the two women on today’s show. I was saddened to see both women were blinded to the reason as why they were on the show, which was to try to create some sort of ‘peace; and all I saw were lies and accusations flying back and forth. I don’t believe Anna-Laura really wants to save her marriage; it seems she is using her marriage as a pawn to fight her mother-in-law, and prove she is ‘right’. Interesting body language demonstrated by her arm around her husband, she reminded me of a dog with a bone. If you really love him so much, why again are you divorcing him?  And to the mother-in-law, stop telling lies, if you really care about your grandchildren, in the end it really doesn’t matter who is right or wrong does (I’m sure your grandchildren don’t or won't remember in the future unless you continue your behaviour). Both women need to step back, refocus to what are the important issues; family and being good role models for their children. Both are being poor role models for their children… it is time for them both to wise up and grow up. 

 

Kudos to Dr. Phil to be able to sit and look so calm the whole show, I think I would have run off screaming in frustration... 

  You gotta nother one-its wimp not whimp. Okay, I'll shut up and go away now

I haven't read all the posts yet, so don't know if anyone has mentioned this or not.  I read Toxic In-Laws : Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage by Susan Forward.  It really helped me in seeing not only how my MIL was acting, but how I was responding to her.  Now I can laugh to myself when she makes her snid remarks.  They still irratate me, but I can see how she gets more upset by not being able to make me upset.  We have even moved over 2000 miles away from her, but she still gets to me.  I spent 5 weeks with her last November when our son (2nd child) was born.  That was tooooo long.  I appreciate the help, but come on!  I do try to keep in mind when speaking to my husband about it that this is his mother.  If he was complaining always about my mom, I would be hurt.

All this talk about the mil and nothing about the wife!  Was I the only one who saw through her??  First she files for divorce and then says "I'm not going anywhere"  Then when DR Phil asks her about how she said she wouldn't abandon her children and now they are in foster care she totally blames Morgan for it, saying "I didn't make that decision.  I am not the custodial parent"  Well you can't tell me she just had absolutely no decision in that matter.  And then she gets all defensive when the mil calls him a Wuss on national tv, and she goes on to say she won't kick him out because he can't afford to live on his own because he doesn't have a good enough job!!  Way to kick him in the n*ts there lady!!  Tell the world he can't support himself!!  He looked like a little injured puppy up there that whole time and I know why!!  Between the mom and the wife, this guy doesn't get a break!!  Geez...