Topic : 06/12 On the Outs With In-Laws

I was truly amazed at the immaturity demonstrated by the two women on today’s show. I was saddened to see both women were blinded to the reason as why they were on the show, which was to try to create some sort of ‘peace; and all I saw were lies and accusations flying back and forth. I don’t believe Anna-Laura really wants to save her marriage; it seems she is using her marriage as a pawn to fight her mother-in-law, and prove she is ‘right’. Interesting body language demonstrated by her arm around her husband, she reminded me of a dog with a bone. If you really love him so much, why again are you divorcing him?  And to the mother-in-law, stop telling lies, if you really care about your grandchildren, in the end it really doesn’t matter who is right or wrong does (I’m sure your grandchildren don’t or won't remember in the future unless you continue your behaviour). Both women need to step back, refocus to what are the important issues; family and being good role models for their children. Both are being poor role models for their children… it is time for them both to wise up and grow up. 

Kudos to Dr. Phil to be able to sit and look so calm the whole show, I think I would have run off screaming in frustration... 

I think you are wrong, my daughter-in-law has moved through our family like a mac truck, mowing down everyone who gets in her way, but to hurt her as much or more than she has hurt us would only be bringing the rest of us down to her level. It started before my sons wedding when my daughter could not afford a hundred dollar tux for my four year old grandson to wear as ring bearer, she was told by my daughter_in_law that he would be replaced. My grandson thought his uncle hung the moon and was really excited to be in the wedding and would have been crushed, so my daughter managed to borrow the money and get the tux. At the reception, my daughter_in_law got angry at the groomsmen and made them all leave the reception. My son no longer speaks to his former friends.After returning from their honeymoon, they were living with my daughter. One evening while having drinks with my son and his new wife and five other friends, my daughter-in-law said that she hated my four year old grandson so much that she wished someone would smack him so hard that he would fly up against the wall and die. I did not tell my daughter what she said, but my sister did and my daughter made them move out. My son asked me to lie to my daughter and say his wife didn't say it. That ended the relationship between my son and daughter and between my son and his nephew. I could go on and on about how she has hurt us, as I write this "they" have decided that I am dead to them and want no contact with me.  I really have no idea what I did this time.  All I do know for certain is that to say nothing is the better way. To tell either of them that I don't want them in my life anymore would just bring me down to their level and trying to hurt or manipulate her like she has done our family would just give her more power. Anyway my choice was to just walk away and not say anything anymore. My son is my son and I love him very much and this situation hurts me to the core, but what else can I do? He is sticking by his wife, as he should and I am after all just his mother. Any contact I would try to make with either one of them she would consider harassment. So I keep silent. I have not seen or heard from either of them since October 2005 and don't expect I ever will again.