Quote From: mogirl227Big time denial. Most women who complain about their husband's behavior, and then justify why they do it, are in a huge denial. Like a woman who would say her husband has a drink or two, instead of 'he's an alcoholic'.
Hey, we did a lot things when were kids. That doesn't mean it's acceptable as an adult. Any MATURE man, and any man who isn't self-centered will NOT spend hours upon hours playing a game that never ends. And yes, being married 26 years does give me a better perspective. Marriage is a partnership. We both work TOGETHER. Sure, we disagree and NO neither of us leaves the room. We talk about things and if we don't agree on what we consider 'big' or important things, then we don't do them. Just because some kid plays video games at age 5 and has cutesy pictures of himself and his father, doesn't excuse the fact that he is a married man and with that comes responsibility. To his wife, to his kids, to his employer, etc. It's time to GROW UP. My brother-in-law started out the same way. Innocently playing games on line until the wee hours of the morning. Then came chat rooms, then e-mails and phone calls, then 'business trips', and finally an affair. His wife, despite her efforts to get him to stop with the gaming crap, was ignored. Fight after fight did no good. It came to a end when she confronted hiim, called the number on his cell phone and told the 'honey' that he was a married man with a daughter. BIL came home with his tail between his legs, and is now remorseful for what he's put his familiy through. All of this took 4 years to culminate.
I don't think I actually justified it. I think I was responding to your post and telling you basically that you have no right to judge a person's character on a little snip it of time and i didn't and don't appreciate you telling my husband he needs to grow up or telling me that one issue defines who his character is.
I didn't have us come on the show so overly opinionated people like yourself could berate and judge a situation that you know VERY little about. My point in pointing out that he has played since he was 5 was to prove the point that it is something that has been a part of his life for a very long time and thus it doesn't prove that he is trying to escape me.
Also, my husband is not your brother-in-law but if you don't think that I haven't had those same concerns, think again. This is an issue that needs to be resolved and that is why I wrote Dr. Phil for his advice not YOUR opinions.
NOTICE I HAVE IN NOW WAY JUSTIFIED HIS BEHAVIOR, all I have done is asked you to please refrain from juding a person's total character by one simple issue. It's just not right.
Merging two lives is never easy, but what do you do when you constantly fight the same battle? Darcy says she's tired of fighting with her military husband, Jeff, about disciplining her kids from her first marriage. She wants his drill sergeant inspections and interrogations to stop, or she's ready to call it quits. Jeff says she needs to tighten up and follow through with consequences. Whose job is it to discipline the kids? Then, they're $80,000 in debt, but nothing is going to stop Angela from pursuing her dream of becoming a country music star. She and her husband, Keith, have moved 13 times in the last two years, and have amassed $80,000 in debt -- a constant source of arguments. What advice does Dr. Phil have for this singer and her spouse? And, Nicole says her husband, Jeremy, is so obsessed with playing video games that he is neglecting his family. Will Jeremy see the negative effect his gaming is having on their marriage? Join the discussion.
