Topic : 06/23 "Stop Ruining Your Child!"

  Steve is a tortured man who has trouble dealing with his own past.  I have never remarried because I have lost faith in how todays woman grabs control of a relationship and uses the power to poison how things are to be.  Men  are  human first and when you have a loss of a child it more often then not destroys relationships.  I am an angry person today and day after day it gets worse. There is no way to replace what has been lost. Over the past years women have created problems in the home and it is the man who is the villanized. We have no idea how to react when cornered. We were taught to provide and not  argue with  women it's rude.  Now show after show is a rehash of women goin poor me.  When it becomes apparent then hopfully  the women will begin to act like women. Couples have children and when they are out of control it's the mans fault.  Children are with fathers 25% of their youth but it his fault because he is man.  No, this is not true in a larger amount of homes but it is true.  The no father figure or handicapped did not turn me to crime. Yes I have my moments and I thank God for watching over me.  I have all kinds of exscuses for being  abusisve and those reasons had me walk away from my family.   I still live as a single man and hope one day to be reunited with my daughter.  

YOU KNOW ITS ATTITUDES LIKE THAT, THAT KEEP THE DIVORCE RATE IN AMERICA UP!  THAT AIN'T RIGHT TO SAY THAT SHE NEEDS TO GET OFF HER BUTT AND KICK HIM OUT. 

THAT COMMENT WAS WHAT CAUGHT MY EYE BUT THEN TO READ THE REST OF IT........OH MY! YOU GOT ANGER ISSUES YOURSELF HONEY. MARRAGE IS NOT SOMETHING TO JUST CHUCK OUT THE WINDOW AND I THINK THE GIRLS OF TOMMOROW SHOULD KNOW THAT AND NOT THAT THEY CAN 'JUST KICK THEM TO THE CURB' A MARRAGE IS WORK  AND THAT MAN NEEDS HIS WIFE AND HIS KIDS HE JUST HAS NEVER BEEN ALLOWED TO ASK FOR HELP LIKE MOST OF THE MEN IN THIS WORLD  

I WOULD BE VERY DISSAPOINTED IF THAT MARRAGE DOESNT MAKE IT I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR AN UPDATE ON THEM  

Protecting children means getting them away from their abusers until the abuser gets his or her act together.  If the abuser happens to be the children's father, so be it.  Protecting children is a higher priority than keeping the marriage together.  I'd rather see more divorces if that means fewer children are living with their abusers. 

The situation with Steve is truly sad. Obviously the children should not be subjected to adult stress and venting. However, the mother needs to step in and relieve this environment. This man has suffered a loss that is unlike any other in life. I know because I have experienced the same. Individuals react differently to an experience such as this without even realizing what they are doing. I have seen some deal with such trauma with anger, sadness, withdraw and many other emotions for which are almost uncontrollable. Will everyone see the circumstances for what they are; a reaction to a horrible trauma. He needs love and support just as the children need the same. If I could suggest to the wife/mother, please, instead of condemning his actions; let him know that you understand his feelings but this is not a productive outlet for those emotions. He can be more responsive if he felt understanding and a little logic like "let me help because I know you just don't feel good at this time". To all those suggesting that she boot him to the door, you should rethink this strategy. Surely this family can overcome this trial with a solution that will include a mother and a father in the children's lives. 

Don't misunderstand me because I'm not judging you. It seems that you're carrying quite a load yourself. I feel sure with a little guidance, a lot of love, God and time everything will be just fine. 

                                                                                                     May God Bless You