Topic : 07/20 Love, Lies and the Law

I wish I could of called in and tell that cop he was a lier.They have a code between them I had for two years had a fellow cop tell me all about it while he made my Daughter  and my life Hell. He Managed to get my grand kids takin away with all his backing and lies and controlling ways. He was only the father in law to my Daughter. I have not seen my Grand kids for over 5 years now. He Went to court and had it where I can't even see them. I stayed out of the fight and Nevered had a problem with them till all this and they backed stab me . I could not do anything about it I was told by a lawyer. They went into court and lied about me and I don't know why. Had to be real bad for me not to have contact with my grandkids. So he used all his contacts and being a cop to get his son his way, Now he still plays games with my Daughter. She live in VA and he and kids are in NJ. She calls to talk and he won't let her she sets up appointments to talk are come to see and he waits till she comes there and then no she can't. He uses the kids all the time like that and he is so wraped up in his games to see in the long run he is hurting those kids. I love them so much and am so afraid iam going to die before I ever get to see them again. All i ever did was love them and gave all I could to help them when They needed it. And that **** Told lies about me and I hear he tells the kids we don't love them. If he was a better person Parent I would not care as much I would feel my Grandkids where fine but the way he is They are not. And They need the right kind of love in thier lives.to be happy. So all you cops out there with your code to each other. I want you to know you help to hurt Children. I lost all the respect I had for a Police officer with this you help him and his father to hurt and use my Grandkids and I will not have respect for that. So I know for a Fact it is so they do help and stick up and by each other and don't care who gets hurt. So that man is a lier!

I have always thought Dr. Phil was right on the money with his reading of situations.   I not only think he missed one look that Jim gave Sinden at the end.  I think he missed a whole lot of other looks that I recognized as being someone who thought he was getting away with something.  There are way too many of these guys in positions in which they can control the power over their family and wife in particular. 

I hope Dr. Phil re watches the tape of that show.  I also hope someone makes him aware of the case of Julie Rea Harper who was accused of stabbing her 10 year old son to death.  Her chief accuser was her policeman ex-husband.  She spent 2 years in jail then was released by a technicality.  She was retried this past week and found innocent.  The prosecution and Law Enforcement still think she did it and refuse to even investigate Tommy Lynn Sells who killed people across the county and confessed to Diane Fanning that he had killed Joel. 

Sells told someone that he was hired to kill Julie and thought he had done so and was surprised when she attacked him after he stabbed Joel to death.  But since the police never did a proper investigation in the first place it is doubtful this case can ever be resolved.  But Thank God and Diane Fanning, Julie can now get out of the shadow of the false accusations.  I can't imagine anything worse that having a child murdered, unless it was to be falsely accused and tried for committing the crime.

All of my information comes from Diane Fanning, her book, Through the Window, about Sells, and various articles. 

I see Jim as they same type of husband.  And I know why Sinden has to act nice to him.  I really hope Dr. Phil's people  follow up on this and keeps very close attention on the situation.

hi there,

 

 just to let you know i am no longer where i used to be thanks for the support.

... thinking they have to minimize this crap and stay with these creeps in order to SURVIVE.  The boys/men growing up in these abusive situations often take on the role of perpetrator because they falsely believe that they *must* in order to survive, too. 

So, because it's SO deeply rooted in our psyches, it is harder than heck to stand up to, let alone honestly look at and work to heal. 

Not only that, but it sure seems like there are a LOT of men in power throughout our country and world who *get off* knowing that so many people are being SO horribly abused!  We *could* start teaching our kids in elementary school what is abusive and what is appropriate behavior.  We *could* start working with families with very young children and help teach them better ways of parenting and also work with them to heal them.  We *could* make it easier and safer for ANYONE in a dangerous relationship to "tell" on their abuser and be RESCUED and kept TOTALLY SAFE while the law figures out what to do w/ their attackers.

But we don't do ANY of this!!!  ... WHY NOT?!

Because Someones are seriously **getting off** on maintaining this status quo!!  I wouldn't be surprised if sicko slime lawyers are one big group working to keep our society so screwed-up and court-centered.  Nor if there are a LOT of sicko shrinks out there, getting their jollies off assaulting their patients.  And probably a bunch of sicko judges who love punishing victims for leaving their perps ... "legally" punishing them. of course.... 

Like you, I also used to think the tragedy of abuse would be a lot easier to "fix" until I heard so many horror stories from so many victims abused by not only their "loves", but also by the very people and entities who have the sworn DUTY to protect them!!

A LOT must change, and soon!  Got any ideas on how to stand up to They Who Secretly Want The Abusiveness To Continue?
PS - sorry I was SO late replying but I don't check in very often ...

Are you seriously defending this woman?  She admits to striking her child with a belt!  Did you miss that bit?  She should be taken directly from the show and thrown straight into jail where she belongs.  She is a child abuser, plain and simple.  Fortunately, the kids have a father who actually cares and has taken some steps to protect them from this monster.  But why does the law do nothing to punish people like this?

This woman thinks it's okay to hit kids with a belt.  There is nothing her husband can possibly do to her that is worse than her hitting her kids with a belt.  She can get away from a husband.  What can those poor defenceless children do to protect themselves.  If anything, his occupation as a police office appears to have prevented him from ensuring that the law prosecute her to the fullest extent for her crimes against the children. 

my wife and i are getting a divorce she is telling alot of lies but the one that stands out the most and hurts the most is that she is telling everyone is that she is scared for her life. she has no reason at all to even think that way -i bet i can figure out what some of you folks are thinking  that there has to be some truth to this but you are wrong, when we were trying to get our marriage back in order with a marriage counsler she aditted  to the counsler and me that her lawyer told her to say this as to help her case. my problem is the doctor patient confidentiality. she is going to lie on the stand about this and we all know that you cannot lie on the stand is there any way at all that the doctor can tell the court the truth about what she said to he and i