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Created on : Friday, March 03, 2006, 12:50:53 pm
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Imagine spending $25,000 in one weekend while you’re $80,000 in debt. That’s what Michael’s shopaholic wife, Bridgette, did and her excessive spending is ruining their marriage and family. Dr. Phil discovered that her behavior was just a symptom of a much larger problem. When the couple last appeared on the show, Bridgette revealed a painful secret and the conflict got pretty heated. Dr. Phil sent them home with a camera to record their candid thoughts, but their behavior might surprise you. Then, find out why Bridgette’s children called her a liar, and what sent Michael and Bridgette out of the house in the middle of the night. Can this family in crisis move past the pain and rebuild their lives? Share your thoughts.

 

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March 9, 2006, 4:04 pm PST

03/09 Family Chaos

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ecuse me, but not all americans are rude and i don't think it's fair of you to steroetype in the way u are doing!
I didn't say "you" were rude. And I would take fromyour reply you didn't take the time to read my entire post. Several months ago there was an article in USA Today about how rude "we" Americans's have become, read it? FOR ALL OF THOSE WHO ARE SO QUICK TO JUDGE THIS FAMILY AND DR. PHIL..TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR OWN LIVES!! Does it make you feel better to villify someone you don't even know and haven't lived in their shoes? I would love to see more positive messages about the guest (whoever they might be and Dr. Phil). Seems to much to ask.
 
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March 9, 2006, 4:05 pm PST

P.S.

Money does not solve all problems. Material things are just that, material.  What really matters is what comes from within.
 
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March 9, 2006, 4:10 pm PST

Let's try some common sense

It seems to me that this wife has achieved what she was trying to. She admitted that she was not in love with her husband when she married him, but did so because he was a rich doctor.  What did she expect?  I think she made an amoral decision in the beginning and led her life in the same fashion.  The children of this marriage are the real victims.  They have been raised to turn out exactly the way they did.  No big surprise.  It's unfair of Bridgette be disappointed in them for just growing into the adults that she groomed them to be.  I see her as a very selfish, self centered woman.  Please excuse me for not being able to muster up sympathy for her when all her problems have come from her own greedy chioces. She blames everyone except herself.  She went into this marriage for the financial benefits and that's exactlly what she's gotten.  It amazes me how people rationalize their bad behavior simply by adding the suffix "AHOLICS" to their actions. That way, it's as if they had no control over it.   It's even more amazing how many people accept that excuse.  I also feel somewhat sorry for her husband.  He has to know why his wife entered into the marriage, it's no wonder how and why his rage got the best of him.  

  

I think this woman unworthy of the attention she's recieved.  It's evident that her children don't respect her, and she certainly deserves no respect.  She allowed her self serving agenda to create a highly dysfunctional family with pain at every turn. She should apoligize on her knees to her husband and children instead of calling them names and brow beating them.  If she had ever loved them she would've acted in their behalf instead of her own. I think she is just as guilty of child abuse as anyone who beats their children.  She failed them miserably by her lack of guidance. 

  

When she said they paid $2,400 for their dog, it floored me.  My mother passed away last month after living with me for a number of years in very poor health.  I am faced with the prospect of bankruptcy  after getting so far in debt by taking care of my mother and it takes me well over a month to make $2,400. When I hear this woman whining about her life, it frankly, makes me ill.  Disgust is a fitting word for my feelings toward Bridgette. It reminds me of the saying "You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear."  She had serious issues going into her marriage, how can she expect her marriage to be a good one now?  It was based on deception from the beginning? 

 
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March 9, 2006, 4:11 pm PST

Did anyone else notice?...

I can't really explain it, but did anyone else notice that Bridgette looked more relaxed and her face seemed so much softer in a sense..  She genuinely smiled and there was a warmness between Mike and Bridgette that I have not seen before.  Mike seemed more relaxed as well.  The tension and anger that she had noticably in her face on prior shows was much much less. 

Bridgette, you looked really good on the show today.  So much prettier with a softness about you that was not there on previous shows.  I wish you all the best.  Good luck to you and your family.
 
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March 9, 2006, 4:11 pm PST

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Is the show lacking for screwed up families to be on the show??  I know a few so we don't have to keep watching the same ones making no improvement
Just love how sooooo many are quick to judge others. Have you lived in her shoes or any fof the other familes's  member? How about showing compassion? How about the fact far too many famlies are divorced and even thou this family  has issues, we band together and lend support!.
 
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March 9, 2006, 4:11 pm PST

That Woman is so selfish & self centered.

My son's birthday would be next Tuesday.  He died from the flu and never did drugs in his 29 years of life.  He was a really good young man. This woman cares only about herself.  She loves the attention of being on the show.  That Doctor needs to love his kids and kick that spoiled woman to the curve. Those kids are hurting so bad.  That young man was trying to tell the truth and no one was listening. I would give anything to have one more day with my son.  My mom died 20 years ago from Cancer she was my best friend.  All I have left of my family are my wonderful dogs. and very old father. My ex left me for a younger woman. I am happy and I try to be a good person and have compassionate for people.  this woman has probably never helped anyone in her life.  She is all about me, me, me...I can't believe that Dr. is a ER Dr.  He certainly has no control over anything in his personel life. I feel better about life after watching that messed up woman today...
 
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March 9, 2006, 4:11 pm PST

Of course people will judge...

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again for making a positive contribution to society. Far too many are suffering and yet there are plenty to point fingers and place blame. Wonder what would happen to this family or other situations if "one" lend supportive words instead passing judgment. How you sleep well at nights. And it nice knowing you lack any idiosyncrasies!!! 

if you go on national TV and tell your story.  If these people would show some accountability for their actions I believe more people would be supportive.  I didn't see that from either parent on the show.  Only denial and a "poor me" attitude. 

  

Everyone is entitled to their opinions.  I'm sorry you do not agree with mine. 

  

Good day. 

 
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March 9, 2006, 4:13 pm PST

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This person Bridgette, hardly a woman by my definition ; of a loving, giving, generous, well spirited, and  beautiful being, thats what I think of when thinking of a woman. This lady is none of the above!!  

She is so cold and ungrateful and so very self centered, it's  sad. But that is not an excuse for her lack of judgement and terrible parenting.  She needs to be flat on her butt broke, that will get her to appreciate her husband, and life.  & Maybe it will wake him up to the fact that she is using him. He can't help her, until she helps herself and from the looks and sounds of it, she just wants everyone else to change, not her. She is such a miserable being. What a waste of a great famiily and lifestyle. She doesnt deserve any of it, and deep down she probably knows it. That's why she has to hurt herself and everyone else.  It's a theory .  

  

 If these kids make anything of themselves in their lives, it will be a miracle, and it will be in spite of their up-bringing and selfish parents. And I hope someday they can be proud of themselves.  Besides, they (the kids) will be in counseling well into their  30's, maybe 40's.   

  

Grrrrr ....I could go on & on about this lady, I'll have to stop now, before I start to raging!  

She can bring that out in you.  God Bless those kids! & the poor pets that have to listen to them too!! Ha! 

  

I agree 100%, I can only hope the kids can get their lives together before it's to late. 

          Indiana 

 
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March 9, 2006, 4:19 pm PST

03/09 Family Chaos

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I have been watching this family since they appeared on the first show. All this lady does is whine and complain. I raised my two daughters on $9,000.00 a year when I left my very abbusive husband back in the 80's. Annd she brags about spending $7,000.00 per week shopping. Give us a break. The way she speaks about her children?, has anyone told her she is the one that caused most of their problems. Doesn't she realize that children are the most precious gift one can receive. I believe the kids when they say she has taken them to buy porn... this is an unbeleiveable thing that they chose to do. They want to know why the kids act the way they do, they say they did not raise them to be disrespectful - children only act the way they do when they become young adults because of the way they are taught when they are young. This Dr. husband, he is much to educated to suddenly start accusing his wife and kids for his problems. I think these folks need to live like they have nothing, maybe then they will all appreciate what they have. I had very little while I was raising my daughters and they are college graduates (they paid their own way), they are bothe married to wonderful men and they thank me for not handing everything to them. working hard for things in life make one a better person. She is using this cutting herself thing as an attention getting technique. Maybe loosing their house and all their stuff will bring them down a peg to the rest of our levels. I do not buy either of their sob stories. They can't expect their children to accomplish anything is they haven't prepared them to do so. As Dr. Phil would say "GET REAL". I just can't get to sympathy for these parents. U N B E L I E V E A B L E......
I agree with you! I too left an abusive husband in the 80's and raised my son on my own. And I am happy to say he has grown into a very respectful young man. I wish I would've had the "problem" of spending $7000 a week! Sheesh! I think it's time she gets off the "pity pot!" She doesn't seem to appreciate the things she does have....children, think of all the people that can't have children....a beautiful home to live in, think of all the people with children that have no home and are struggling just to get by.  I don't feel sympathy for the parents at all!
 
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March 9, 2006, 4:20 pm PST

This makes me very sad.

It makes me very sad to see this family. To see the changes the husband is making is very heartening, but the mother has responded with fear; perhaps she is worrying that he will leave her because he is happier.  His wife has responded by drawing more attention to herself through self-mutilation (not to downplay the issue--but it serves the same purpose as drinking too much, which is certainly socially acceptable). She is handling the distress and getting more attention at the same time. She has an obvious diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder.  I am not attempting to blame her, because every poor coping skill was learned, but she is being offered the best help in the world and it would be very sad if she couldn't get herself around to taking advantage of it.  If she doesn't now, there isn't any hope of it getting better.  To not take responsibility for her children's cutting, however, is unacceptable.  

 
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