Topic : 03/09 Family Chaos

If one feels the need to attack then that is their right. You might not have condoned the husband's rage (in your words ) and yet there isn't anything in your message that speaks about his conduct, which means it was acceptable. How much have you read on emotional abuse? What makes emotional abuse so devastating is that one party is the controller and the other suffers the effects. I have no knowledge of the family receiving support..do you know if they did? What I hoped to get across with my messages is, unless one has been in one shoes..one shouldn't  pass judgment on them. If one has reached an certain age we probably have our own issues. Would you be willing  to display your issues on national TV? 

I CANT BELIEVE ALL OF YOU PEOPLE WHO ARE SO NEGATIVE, AND SO JUDGEMENTAL, AND SO SHALLOW TO JUDGE A FAMILY THAT YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT.  I THINK ITS GREAT THAT THEY ARE GETTING HELP FOR THEIR PROBLEMS.  ALL OF THEM HAVE ISSUES, TRUE THAT, BUT HOW MANY OF YOU WOULD AIR YOUR PROBLEMS TO THE WORLD FOR HELP.  AND THEY ARE CRYING OUT FOR HELP, AND IT'S DR. PHILS JOB TO GIVE THEM THAT HELP.  I APPLAUD THEM FOR TRYING TO GET IT RIGHT, AND I LOOK FOR AN UPDATE ON WHAT PROGRESS THEY ARE MAKING.  EVEN THEIR THERAPIST SAID THEY ARE MAKING PROGRESS.  REMEMBER ROME WASEN'T BUILT IN A DAY, AND I DON'T THINK THEY CAN FIX ALL THEIR PROBLEMS FROM A COUPLE OF SHOWS.  IT'S ABOUT PROGRESS, AND THEY SEEM TO BE MAKING PROGRESS.  I THINK THEIR ARE ALOT OF "HATERS" ON THESE MESSAGE BOARDS, AND PROBABLY ALOT OF JELOUS PEOPLE THAT ARE SO UNHAPPY IN THEIR OWN LIVES THAT THEY LOVE TO HATE ON OTHERS WHO ARE TRYING TO MAKE A CHANGE.  SHAME ON ALL OF THE HATERS! 

Bridgette, Until you completely quit your own lying and and quit blaming your ugly behavior on your husband and your children, you will be very, very, very unhappy and lonely. You have to be one of the most narcisscistic, whining, angry, lying, drama queens I've seen in a good long while...and I'm a family therapist! As of today's show, I believe about 10% of what comes out of your mouth. And, that's being generous. Your children are in crisis because of what you and your husband have and have not done as their parents. Your blaming them for your problems is utterly and absolutely ridiculous. YOU are the cause of your problems. Period. Your children deserve so much better than what you have been and are doing to and for them. Make up your mind that you will NOT call them any more names, just for starters. They are your children and they deserve your respect. Your son is not lying about the porn. You know it. He knows it. Everybody watching the show knows it. Until you are ready to get completely honest with yourself and Dr. Phil, NOTHING is going to change for you and your family. 

I've got to tell you. I work approximately 45-50 hours per week for an agency with seriously disturbed families and their children. I currently make $30,000 per year for the privilege. I have two graduate degrees and spent 6 years in graduate school to get them. I live in a small, 800 sq foot home and drive a 4 year old automobile. I shop the salesrack at the department stores or not at all. I cannot afford a vacation this year. I have to pay for my own health insurance and it takes quite a bit out of my paycheck. But, given that, I wouldn't trade places with you for anything. Your big house, Mercedes, designer clothing and expensive jewelry are worthless when you are as miserable and isolated as you have chosen to become. And, YES, you have made the choices that have led to your being miserable. YOU and nobody else. Get honest and get healthy. The day that I hear that  you are putting your children's well-being ahead of your own, I will know that you are on the road to recovery. The day that you show up on the show and don't start off blaming everybody else for your problems, we'll all know that you're well on your way to recovery. It's gonna take a lot of hard work for you to even begin to heal, but if you really want it, it is possible.