Topic : 09/01 Slave to My Spouse

Mindy, you could find meaningful things to do with your life that could be your time.  Drinking, drugs, flirting.... not for a married woman. (not really for any woman who respects herself) You will never feel satisfied until you make some better choices with your life..... 

I would spend my time trying to figure out why I want to harm myself and my marriage. Find a group at a church for hurting people.  Look at what the Bible says about life.  

I find that a safe and committed marriage is more fun than the 'wild' life... I've had both. 

Good luck in building a life for yourself. 

Momma needs a break!  Get this guy his own friends, and  his own night out. The more he cries about it the more he pushes her away. The week is tiring, if she wants to let loose by drinking, partying and keeping a little piece of herself, Go for It!   Her husband should to lighten up, she is coming home to him. Dr. Phil is very old school, maybe this is not reasonable to him. If you marry someone who likes to have friends and have a good time then expect  this in a marraige and go with it. My fiance and I pick seperate nights(poker night and girls night out) and a night together(going to see a movie, concert or game) every week. This has been working for us for 5 years . I have three children, if I don't get my one night out a week I go crazy.  

The excuse of Terri's bust is too big for her to do housework is crazy.  I was much larger than she is and I still looked after my two toddlers and did all the housework.  If it is such a problem for her she should be looking into getting something done about it.  It is convenient that her husband works from home but he does need time to work, not just look after the kids and do housework.  Terri needs a reality check. 

 I am the 1st to admit, my housework skills are lacking, and I am not proud of that fact. 

Granted, I only have to worry about myself and my spouse, as we don't have children in the mix. 

But, I believe it is something every woman should do, with their husband's help of course.  

Marriage is a total partnership, and cleaning the house is something that should be discussed  

even prior to the wedding. If one person wants to be in control of finances, and the other doing housework, that's the choice they have made together,  but if its one person doing ALL the work,  

and the other is doing nothing, then that's not fair.  

 And, the one about the wife going out partying, and doing cocaine, that is just NUTS!! She claimed 

she did it at home with the kids around?? What kind of a mother does that? For one thing, she is 30 years old, not 21. I mean, I am 26, and I already feel too old to be out partying until all hours of the night!! I got that out of my system long ago! Occasionally going out with friends is fine, and really fun, but at some point you have to tell yourself, "Hey, I am getting a little old for all this!!" 

I know how the guy feels in the home where the woman comes home and doesn't do anything to contribute to the house. i think its a crock when the lady cant atleast find a simple task around the house. It really helps the partner. And as for the laundry, the lady can sit on the couch and fold the dam laundry. I do it all the time while watching tv. I crawl out of bed and make it up before I go out of the room. It makes it easier on the man. As for the guy i very much commend u for the job ur doing with the children and house. wish we alot of men more like you.  For the woman, QUIT FINDING EXCUSES FOR NOT DOING THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE! U AINT THE ONLY ONE HURTING IN THE HOME.  

First I'm a bit surprised on how Dr. Phil handle this couple. He didn't address her doing Coke at home with kids around, just seemed to side step that.. 

second: Mindy you need to grow up. your 30 or in your 30's & you act like your in your early 20's. You agreed to take on the responsibility of 1. being a wife, 2. being a mom to your own kids & 3. being a mom to a step child. You are being a horrible roll model not only for your own kids, but also for your 16 yr old step daughter. Way to go. If you want "time away to yourself" then have enough respect for your husband to wait until his day(s) off so he can be at home for the kids instead of waiting until he leaves for work to go partying like a teeny-bopper.
I'm a mom of soon to be 4 kids, 35 (36 in a few months).  When i met my (second) husband, I gave up my 'single' friends (who were mostly male), I quit "partying" (not that I did much anyway), but one hobby that I did a lot was horse back riding & working horses I gave that up when I had my 1st child (8 yrs ago) in the sense that if I didn't have time to ride or work a horse, then I didn't do it. If my husband (who works graveyard leaves for work at 7:30 pm & gets home by 8...1/2 drive one way) doesn't have a day off & my parents are busy doing their thing, then I don't have time to work or ride a horse. But my kids & my husband come first before MY enjoyment. I have also dealt with a 15 yr old step daughter from hell for 3 yrs. I still didn't run away & pretend I was single & childless. 

If you don't want to put your family BEFORE yourself, then get a divorce now before you continue to hurt them. Go shack up with your girlfriend & party & snort coke until your little heart desires.