Quote From: sprucydI've been watching the shows this week about "The Perfect Wife" and I just cannot stay quiet any longer! These men are way out there, and I'm shocked since they are so young! Is the world taking a step backwards in equality?? These men think they EMPLOY these women, not treating them as an equal partner. Sounds to me like these men got married to have someone have their children and then take care of them for them, not to have a partner to enjoy the kids with and grow old with. All they really want is a maid, not a wife! Since when in the last decade or two (or three!) did the definition of "wife" been described as cleaning woman(the house isn't clean enough), babysitter (because the men choose to work over 100 hours a week), laundry service (make sure his shirts are hung exactly this way or that way AFTER doing laundry for 3 young kids and herself); and not just a cook, but a GREAT cook EVERY DAY!!! What century are these men living in?!?!?! And when are they going to take a look at themselves and see none of them come even close to being "good" husbands, let alone "great" husbands!
I've got a solution to the whole problem....make the men stay home with the kids all those hours they would normally be gone every single day for a whole week!! Let's see them deal with the kids, cleaning (which I'm sure they haven't even got a clue what just cleaning involves, dusting, sweeping, mopping, vaccuming, scrubing, should I go on??), laundry (folding, hanging up, putting away, starting all over again), dressing the kids (I'll bet none of these men have ever changed a diaper), feeding the kids (how many times a day?), grocery shopping, and all the other shopping that must be done such as for clothes, shoes, household items, cooking at least three meals a day (and probably more for whenever these men decide to come home during their whole 4 hours of being home), keeping the kids busy and entertained (taking them for walks, to the playground), picking up toys on a constant basis, breaking up fights between the kids....should I go on? I am already tired and we haven't even gotten through one full day yet!!!
C'mon Dr. Phil, why haven't you suggested this and made these men (although I have a more realistic word for them...ungrateful chauvanist pigs) learn to appreciate what their wives do the hard way?! I'm disappointed in you Dr. Phil. I thought for sure you would think of this to put them in their place, to learn to appreciate all that these women do every single day, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Please, PLEASE Dr. Phil, do it. They won't even come close to what their wives accomplish. And hopefully it will make their wives learn they don't need to meet someone else's ridiculous expectations to be someone good.
My little brothers are single (24 and 26, around here a lot of people are married by that age) and my father talks about what kind of women they should marry all the damn time.
He suggests to them constantly that they should never marry american women, they are too independant and feminist. He thinks they should go to countries where the women are more subservient to find find wives.
I wonder what year it is when I hear these conversations. My father also has a lot of opinions on how a wife should behave. Cooking, cleaning and sex. He's one of those guys who thinks a woman should roll over and have sex everytime the man wants whether or not the woman is in the mood or not. And he actually said to my brother the other day: "Marry a woman who loves you more then you love her."
Seriously people, on a side note, if you want to raise a feminist daughter then act like my father...
The letters keep coming in! Dr. Phil revisits the controversial topic of what defines the role of a wife. Ken thinks his wife, Diana, is lazy because she can't keep the house up to his standard of cleanliness. Ken works two jobs and keeps his spouse financially comfortable but doesn't understand why Diana, a stay-at-home mom, can't keep a cleaner house. Diana is pregnant with their third child in five years and says she's doing the best she can. Then, meet "Anne," who performs nude shows online to bring home the bacon. Her husband, "Rob," disapproves of his wife's method of income, but he hasn't stopped her from doing it. Now that Anne has had an affair with one of her customers, is it too late to save their marriage? Share your thoughts.
