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Created on : Thursday, March 23, 2006, 07:15:01 pm
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How far would you go to make or save some extra cash? Christy calls her husband, Joel, the ultimate cheapskate. She says they never go on dates, and the last time she received a present from him was four years ago. She says Joel is such a tightwad, she even had to buy her own wedding ring! Then, Nichole says her sister, Amber, is so addicted to cold, hard cash that she even took a dangerous job breathing fire and married a man for $5,000. Amber admits she’s stuck in a vicious cycle and says she can’t get out.Will she be able to change her money-motivated lifestyle? Plus, meet a woman obsessed with scratch-off lottery tickets, and a mom who worries she’s raising a money-hungry son. Talk about the show here.

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March 24, 2006, 10:57 pm CST

Money

the most needed item in this world but yet can be the most evil.............Give me my husband and children any time, even when it comes to millions! We may not have a lot of money but we are happy and fullfilled, we are a loving family with a lot going for us, we go on dates, we do fun things with our children, we give to the church and charities. we are focused on the imporant things in life. Moey is a great asset to have in this life but it isn't suppose to rule our lives for when it does, we will lose everything and will be lonely and lost.......not worth it to me.
 
March 25, 2006, 7:17 am CST

for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health

When my Dad died, I was 9 years old.  My Mom was suddenly left with 3 older children (who were pretty much out on their own and starting their own families), and the four of us younger kids, aging from 9 to 11 years old.  Having been totally dependant on our father's income for all of their years together, our Mother was devastated.  She absolutely had a mental, physical, and financial breakdown.   

  

She actually put a lock on her bedroom door, and locked herself away from us kids for almost a month before our older brother finally came over and helped her face and deal with her depression.  We immediately went from upper middle class, to standing in a welfare line, ONE TIME!!  There was no food in the house, the oil was gone from the oil tank to heat the house, and it was November here in the Northwest.  We were cold, tired, and scaired, but went to school every day hoping that Mom would come out when we got home.  Thank God our brother finally sensed that something was wrong, when he finally came to save her and the rest of us.  He did as she had taught him to do.  He made her look in a mirror, and insisted that she was deserving of more from and of herself in life.  Having 4 kids standing in the hallway hungry and cold may have helped too, LOL. 

  

She looked into our 4 little faces that day at the welfare office, and said "No way!!  I'm not going to raise the four of you to believe that you don't deserve more than this in life.".  She took a night secretary job that paid LESS than welfare, enduring sexual harassment and the nightly fear that the 4 of us were running the streets and raising Hell with the neighborhood (which we pretty much were).  After the first 3 or 4 childcare hires quit trying to keep up with us, as well as a couple of visits to the emergency room for broken bones or stitches for one of us kids, she ended up relying on basically God's angels to watch over us by night, and her belt to inspire us to behave by day. 

  

She worked her way into a secretarial job with the city which helped to pay for her to go to night school, and she eventually earned an Engineering degree.  Mind you, she ended having 7 children,  ending it with the 2 of us twins at the age of 37, so by the time she had to start supporting anyone, much less herself with a mortgage and 4 kids, she was almost 50 years old. 

  

Ultimately she retired after 26 years of working for the city of Seattle (and even earned a couple of awards from the Mayor for her superior service), while having managed to keep a roof over our heads, food in our bellys, and even scrounged the money for the boys to at least stay in sports and boy scouts.  There wasn't anything left for us girls of coarse, but hey,......we were only girls.  In her generation, only boys really mattered when it came to status. 

  

I still remember the cocktail parties when Dad came home (he was a merchant mariner captain), with all of the adults dressed in their mink coats and draped in jewelry galore.  His parents were millionaires, but they never gave him a dime to support us.  He educated and supported us, and followed in his father's footsteps.  He was the youngest man at the time to get his Master Mariner's pilot license for all seas, and we were beaming with pride in him. 

  

I remember the all night bridge games and cocktails, and sneaking handfulls of cashews and bridgemix when they weren't looking.  I remember my Mom letting us play with her precious gem necklasses, bracelets and rings that Dad would bring her back from his travels to Japan and the east.  She only wore them for their cocktail parties.  I remember eating off of Franciscanware dishes as our nightly dinnerware, along with fine crystal glassware.  I also remember Mom screaming for plastic, but Dad saying "not in my house." 

  

I also remember the huge 5 bedroom "house" that Dad convinced Mom to move into for 1 year, before she insisted that he buy back our old smaller and older 4 bedroom "home".  I remember the new Cadillac that Dad bought mom one year, before she insisted that he return it for a Dodge Polara, that same day.  She was always afraid that her children would see them as wasting what they had earned, rather than being responsible, while also enjoying what they could from time to time. 

  

I saw her go from rags to riches, and then back to poverty in the blink of an eye, before spending a lifetime working her way back to middle class, and being the most happy as such.  She now has Alzheimers, and thankfully doesn't remember any of her life's suffering.  She doesn't even remember our Dad, and is slowly losing her memory and recognition of some of her own children.  I pray that I never forget her, or all that she has taught me. 

  

In all that HER life was, it has taught me all of what MY thoughts are of money.  It can make you or break you, but only if you let it.  I have always been happy to work hard to make just enough money to allow me to maintain the little things that make me happy.  Having enough money to have a cat or two.  Being able to see a movie "once in awhile".  Being able to go camping once or twice a year.  So what if at one point I qualified for a bigger home?  It would have meant sacrificing the little things in order to keep the one big thing, so to me it was never worth it.  Unfortunately, my future ex-husband doesn't see money that way, so he has left me for another woman who does have "means", and can "keep him" in a way that he feels makes him more financially "happy".   

  

While I do have fears for my immediate financial security, it is only because I am physically no longer able to to maintain my idea of a comfortable independence.  I have stage 2 hepatitis, contracted from a blood transfusion 21 years ago when my daughter was born, and am starting to feel the daily physical fatigue that it causes.  I am also suffering from a couple of repetitve motion injuries which I have suffered on my job as a rural mail carrier.  Still, I am only happy as long as I am doing what I can, and am able to accept what I can not.  Not that any such acceptance comes easy, because I am by nature very independant. 

  

I have a small (around 1400 sq. foot) 3 bedroom home, which I suppose is 2 bedrooms bigger than 1 person "needs".  I "like" having one extra room for guests or whenever my daughter blesses me with an overnight visit.  I "like" having an extra room as an office, and I "like" my own bedroom, small as they all are.  I "like" having my 2 cats and my 1 dog.  I "like" having a house to clean and maintain, and a yard in which to rip things out of when I feel the need to tear something up, as well as to plant new things when I am in a nuturing mood, with nobody other than my pets left with me now to "nuture".  As a Cancer born in July, it is in my nature to be a home body, and to nuture things and those around me. 

  

Still, while I "like" having all of these things, and I do feel truly blessed to have them, I also realize that I don't "need" them.  I realize that if I do lose it all, I will still be rich in life.  I will still have my family and friends, and I will still be alive and breathing in order to share as much as I can of my time left on this planet with them.  Perhaps that is why I have always been lowsy about taking photos through the years.  I prefer to place memories, in MY memory, which doesn't require a camera or film. 

I actually feel sorry for my future ex- husband, because for all that he stands to gain in his new and future life with this other woman, he is still, and always will be, morally and spiritually broke.  For me anyway, ..........that's just sad. 

  

It isn't just love that money can't buy.  It also can't buy you a true understanding and appreciation for all that is truly valuable in this thing we call life.   When we leave it, all we can take with us is our love, and our memories of who and what we loved.  I plan to be vastly rich in these when I die. 

  

 
March 27, 2006, 2:20 pm CST

03/28 Money Hungry

About this guy Joel, I know that people can get greedy sometimes but this guy Joel, to me, it sounds like he is obsessed with money and he has that written all over him. I mean this guy is addicted to money. He wants more. Imagine him without all that money and it was taken away from him. How would you think he'd feel? (That's just my take on it)
 
March 27, 2006, 2:22 pm CST

Bargain Shopper

I must admit I look for sales and use coupons. I always work 2 jobs, 1 part time and 1 full time to make as much money as I can. I do not turn down overtime. I think this discourages alot of guys from wanting to persue a relationship with me, but, hey, that's the price I pay for independence. I don't have anyone nagging me about bad habits--that's the good thing. The bad thing is-- the ones that are freeloaders come at a dime a dozen! They're around like flies on horse poop! Like men aren't men anymore. They want women to support them.
 
March 27, 2006, 3:10 pm CST

Webmom - with gambling problem

I just finished watching the episode that hate the mom locking her room to do webcam shows for money.  

  

I am also in the same line of work as her, and I can relate to why the business of webcam is so hard to stop, and so hard to even put off for alittle while.  Since all you need is a computer, high speed, a webcam or camcorder, and you can making a fist full of cash in minutes after being set up and advertising  

  

there is tones of webcam sites out there they are hiring webcam models male or female or other (TS or TV) on daily basis. for me is was my VERY first job or source of income and in a very short time I was able to move out and support myself I only 18 years old, 3 years later I am still making a comfortable living from webcam shows, phone with webcam shows, and having my own website.  

  

and YES ! the money is addictive especially if you are canadian making us dollars with almost next to know effort.  

  

But for me I have a positive goal to why I work as webcam model. I want to go university but my parents are no support what soever, so for me to get it done I have to any means nessary and being a webcam girl is 10000000% better then being a stripper in a strip club, or escort aka hooker.  

  

I rather log on my webcam, and never no psychial or personal contact with customers then actually see them face to face. Since the busines is 99% maniplulation that is where you as the model have all the control. and yes it might distory familes and maybe even put a strain on other people financially.  

  

but with the way the job market is. there is very little options for new comers starting out on their own with no financial support to get help, no every has a mommy and daddy who cares about them. and not every has a trust fund, or has a grandma or grandpa about to die and leave them money,  

  

and since the new generation is soo sexualltiy liberating, you can pretty much see 1 in 5 teenages 18 and over getting ready to jump in the webcam career, and yes I say career because you deal with sales, promoting, marketing and keep customers and gaining new customers.  

  

but if you in it for the wrong reasons you will never have a positive goal to pull you back out like school, a car or a house or even retirement.  

  

All these shows are constantly showing the negative things about internet porn bbut not one has a person on there doing it for a positive reason even there is a few out there that treat it like a business, and do not let it become soo far that is ruins thier lives or thier lives of people around them. 

 
March 27, 2006, 3:13 pm CST

Webmom - with gambling problem

I just finished watching the episode that hate the mom locking her room to do webcam shows for money.  

  

I am also in the same line of work as her, and I can relate to why the business of webcam is so hard to stop, and so hard to even put off for alittle while.  Since all you need is a computer, high speed, a webcam or camcorder, and you can making a fist full of cash in minutes after being set up and advertising  

  

there is tones of webcam sites out there they are hiring webcam models male or female or other (TS or TV) on daily basis. for me is was my VERY first job or source of income and in a very short time I was able to move out and support myself I only 18 years old, 3 years later I am still making a comfortable living from webcam shows, phone with webcam shows, and having my own website.  

  

and YES ! the money is addictive especially if you are canadian making us dollars with almost next to know effort.  

  

But for me I have a positive goal to why I work as webcam model. I want to go university but my parents are no support what soever, so for me to get it done I have to any means nessary and being a webcam girl is 10000000% better then being a stripper in a strip club, or escort aka hooker.  

  

I rather log on my webcam, and never no psychial or personal contact with customers then actually see them face to face. Since the busines is 99% maniplulation that is where you as the model have all the control. and yes it might distory familes and maybe even put a strain on other people financially.  

  

but with the way the job market is. there is very little options for new comers starting out on their own with no financial support to get help, no every has a mommy and daddy who cares about them. and not every has a trust fund, or has a grandma or grandpa about to die and leave them money,  

  

and since the new generation is soo sexualltiy liberating, you can pretty much see 1 in 5 teenages 18 and over getting ready to jump in the webcam career, and yes I say career because you deal with sales, promoting, marketing and keep customers and gaining new customers.  

  

but if you in it for the wrong reasons you will never have a positive goal to pull you back out like school, a car or a house or even retirement.  

  

All these shows are constantly showing the negative things about internet porn bbut not one has a person on there doing it for a positive reason even there is a few out there that treat it like a business, and do not let it become soo far that is ruins thier lives or thier lives of people around them. 

 
March 27, 2006, 3:35 pm CST

my mom needs to let go - I have moved out 3 years ago

Well I am 21 years old, I have been living on my own for 3 years now, my mom has letting go issues 

  

When I was 14 she decided to drop me off to live with my dads, and work in the usa so she can make enough to buy a house when she was finish working in the states about 3 years later I was not interested in moving in with her.  

  

Then at 18 I went out and moved out on my own because I felt like I did not belong in the family, and that I was tired of being in the shadow of my younger sister,  

my sister is 18 years old your basically perfect child, straight As, getting scholarships for track and field and academics to almost any school she wants in canada and the usa.  

and my mom has the constant annoying and manipluative way of keep pressuring me to move back home, when I have no intentions of moving back home because I am tried of being in my little sister sucessful shadow.  

  

I know me moving out on my own at 18 was not really the best planned out idea I had at the time, but it was the only way I could get my own indenty and find out who I am as a person, now 21 years old working on getting adult education programs to join into the midwifery program at one of the community universities, and my mom still thinks I am 12 years with no clues about life or respect the fact I pay all my bills, and support myself, threw stress and success all by myself 

Everytime I see my mom it is a constant argument "You should move back home, save up then move out" its like her way of telling me I messed up come back home so I can start over.  

When I know she did the best she could, to raise me to be a young adult, Can dr phil help my mom understand that I have left the ness and I need her move on to being a mom with an young adult child.  

  

It's like she does not want to admit I moved out, and learning things for myself. 

and I really feel that I give in and move back home, my mom will basically push me away to move out again and if I have to do it the second time I will not talk to her again or if she continues to push me to move back home I feel that I have to cut off all communication with my mom all together.  

  

 
March 27, 2006, 11:56 pm CST

Thank You Dr. Phil-You Stand For Women

Dr. Phil, 

  

Thank you so much for bringing light on the issue of webcam adult chat and porn.  So many women are being misled into thinking of that as a legitimate business.  Thank you for showing the dark side of that "industry" today.  No government should be earning tax dollars on the "pimping" of women and the female body.  We really need to call the adult entertainment what it is, "LEGALIZED PROSTITUTION".  This must stop for the sake of women worldwide. 

  

We love you Dr. Phil! 

  

www.standforwomen.com 

 
March 28, 2006, 12:05 am CST

"good reasons for webcam sex business"

Quote From: ddgirl

I just finished watching the episode that hate the mom locking her room to do webcam shows for money.  

  

I am also in the same line of work as her, and I can relate to why the business of webcam is so hard to stop, and so hard to even put off for alittle while.  Since all you need is a computer, high speed, a webcam or camcorder, and you can making a fist full of cash in minutes after being set up and advertising  

  

there is tones of webcam sites out there they are hiring webcam models male or female or other (TS or TV) on daily basis. for me is was my VERY first job or source of income and in a very short time I was able to move out and support myself I only 18 years old, 3 years later I am still making a comfortable living from webcam shows, phone with webcam shows, and having my own website.  

  

and YES ! the money is addictive especially if you are canadian making us dollars with almost next to know effort.  

  

But for me I have a positive goal to why I work as webcam model. I want to go university but my parents are no support what soever, so for me to get it done I have to any means nessary and being a webcam girl is 10000000% better then being a stripper in a strip club, or escort aka hooker.  

  

I rather log on my webcam, and never no psychial or personal contact with customers then actually see them face to face. Since the busines is 99% maniplulation that is where you as the model have all the control. and yes it might distory familes and maybe even put a strain on other people financially.  

  

but with the way the job market is. there is very little options for new comers starting out on their own with no financial support to get help, no every has a mommy and daddy who cares about them. and not every has a trust fund, or has a grandma or grandpa about to die and leave them money,  

  

and since the new generation is soo sexualltiy liberating, you can pretty much see 1 in 5 teenages 18 and over getting ready to jump in the webcam career, and yes I say career because you deal with sales, promoting, marketing and keep customers and gaining new customers.  

  

but if you in it for the wrong reasons you will never have a positive goal to pull you back out like school, a car or a house or even retirement.  

  

All these shows are constantly showing the negative things about internet porn bbut not one has a person on there doing it for a positive reason even there is a few out there that treat it like a business, and do not let it become soo far that is ruins thier lives or thier lives of people around them. 

Lots of girls have needed to make money.  I have a beautiful body and you don't see me taking my clothes off for a buck.  I have been at a place in my life where I only had $20 in my pocket and could have easily turned to this kind of business or any business that uses the female body, but, because I value ALL women more than I do making LOTS of money, I would never even consider doing this.  You can find legitimate work without taking your clothes off.  Manipulating men and women with your sexuality is wrong no matter how you look at it and justifying that you will be able to turn your life around is ludicrous due to all the actual damage you cause along the way for so many people that you don't even know or even stop to think about.  The worst part is that you hurt yourself the most but because you have lost your own personal value, you find ways to justify it, like saying "everybody else is doing it".  The legacy of American girls is at stake due to the very attitude you have.   May Dr. Phil do everything in his power to bring this "industry" to an end.  This is nothing more than LEGAL PROSTITUTION when sex is involved. 

  

www.standforwomen.com 

  

1 in 4 women are molested in the U.S. according to Dr. Phil!  The porn industry is a DIRECT cause. 

 
March 28, 2006, 4:41 am CST

RED FLAG...wake up girls !!

Paying for your own wedding ring ????? Come on now......no one needs a man that bad. It also burns me that he is able to spend on everyone but his own wife. Please, women out there......if you are not the most important thing to him BEFORE you are married, what makes you think you will be AFTER ????  You cannot change a man nor should you change who you are to fit him.  

 
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