Topic : Bullies

I agree with the writer who suggested this was not the place for this subject. I believe there is a forum for mental illness. Maybe someone there can help them advance beyond  the age of 8 or 9.  May God help them.

Bye.

I've been pretty shocked lately by the way I see friends of my daughter treating one another.  They are 13 and 14 which just seems to be a very insecure time for many girls.  When we have different girls with us they always talk very badly about the girl or person who isn't with the group at that time.  My daughter never says anything negative when I'm around but may give into peer pressure when I not there.  I think she's insecure about her friendships because she's knows how critical her friends are with each other.  She's also been bullied by different "friends" over the years.  I worry that she'll go into high school not having confidence or knowing how to pick people who are going to be "true" friends.  I talk to her about it but she doesn't open up as much as she used to.  Any suggestions? 

Hi Courtney,

I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with this issue, too.  I don't understand why people have to be so mean to one another.  I hope things are better for both you and my daughter over the summer. 

I've seen some people object to the use of the word pedophile, as in referring to their sexual preferences. So I am asking, what would you perfer:

1. Person who finds children sexy

2. Fantasizer of children

3. Kiddy licker

4. One who blames children for seducing them

5. Sexualizer of children

6. Person who feels they are not a risk to society, despite their knowledge that kids turn them on.

I would say Pedophile is a pretty nice way of putting things compared to those. I mean, we can come up with other names, as I've displayed above, however you must know by now those names would be far more demeaning than the politically correct term Pedophile.

Bullies are everywhere it seems like. All bullies are ,are just selfless minded weakling. That try to make everything bad for everyone else. It takes a lot to stand up to one to. It is also hard to ingnore a bully. But it can be done. I hate it this saying though "sticks and stones may break my bones ,but words may never hurt me."

Words can hurt to. Just as much as sticks and stones. But if we pull together we can get away from the bullying soon enough.

The main reason a child is bullied is because he is different in some way whether it be because of a lisp or a disability or because they may have a well-known parent--there is a whole spectrum of differences.  A good way to approach the situation would be to go to your child's class and make a presentation on whatever the difference is, just to help the class better understand what is happening.  For example, in my grade school class, there was one girl who had eye surgery.  Her dad came to class and talked a bit about it and then gave us all eye patches to wear if we wanted, just like his daughter.  If anything, her disability was glorified by the experience.  --from Ron