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December 3, 2007, 9:01 am PST

Dead beat Mom!!

I have seen men walk out of their children's lives and unfortunately it almost seems normal. I also see the Title "Dead-beat Dad" used on forums throughout the Internet. What I see little of is "Dead-beat Mom". My Ex is just that a dead-beat mom. First, my daughters have lived with me for over two years now. I agreed to allow my ex into my home to visit them mainly because when they would go with her she wouldn't bring them back till 10pm or later on school nights. She kept saying she would bring them back earlier but never did. A year or so back she started a relationship with a man in jail and thank God some how a letter came to my home from him to her. I found out she sent pictures of my daughter to him in jail. Lets say I was not very nice at that point. Leading up to me finding out about the jail house love she was not calling the kids as often, she would say she couldn't get them on the weekends and when everything came to light she was sitting at home waiting for him to call from jail and didn't want the kids. Now in the last 14 days she has displayed the same behavior. She said she meet someone and she stopped visiting the kids everyday until she stopped coming all together and then didn't call for 6 days to even ask how they were. All of these changes have taken place over the last 14 days. There is so much more to this than I can fit but I'll try to sum this up as best I can. She has gotten the kids on the weekends and we agreed that she would not leave them with someone while she went out partying. I said if she needs to go out then they can stay home with me. I come to find out that the weekends she has them she has left them with someone and went out. She has them for a whole 48 hrs and she needs a break so she can go out. I have them 24/7 and I don't need a break so I can go out. I look at it like this. My children are growing so fast I want to enjoy playing with them and tickling them while I can. They are little only once and I want them to enjoy there childhood and remember it as happy and fun, full of hugs and kisses. What hurts me the most is that my daughter told me that mommy doesn't play with us, she sleeps all day, she's on the couch all day sleeping, I ask her to get me and sissy breakfast and she dint' get up for a long long time and my tummy hurts. I  confronted my ex and she got nasty with my daughter now I don't want to let them go with her, I don't trust her with them. She has lied to me since the day I meet her but now her lies are affecting my children. My ex has bi-polar disorder and her behavior lately is just weird and when I asked if she was on her meds. she said not for six months. She had no running water in her home for ten months so I would bath the kids at my home while she had them on the weekends. All of a sudden she said she meet some guy and 3-5 days later she got the water fixed. She got her water fixed for some guy she just meet but not her children. What I can't figure out is why does she want them when she leaves them with others and she goes out or sleeps all day doesn't do anything with them and lets them go hungry. I say they should stay with me if she wants to go out and/ or sleep all day and not feed them. I've recently contacted an attorney and am filing for full custody. I am asking for her to be evaluated to make sure she is competent enough to care for them because of her behavior and finding out she is not taking her meds. And requesting she take parenting classes. I am so afraid for my daughters health and well-being. I fear they will be put in a dangerous situation while with there mother and it is my responsibility to protect my daughters. I am so nervous about going to court and feel she is such a liar that she may be allowed to take them alone and they will be harmed. Any advice legal or other wise would be greatly appreciated.
 
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December 3, 2007, 2:15 pm PST

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I have seen men walk out of their children's lives and unfortunately it almost seems normal. I also see the Title "Dead-beat Dad" used on forums throughout the Internet. What I see little of is "Dead-beat Mom". My Ex is just that a dead-beat mom. First, my daughters have lived with me for over two years now. I agreed to allow my ex into my home to visit them mainly because when they would go with her she wouldn't bring them back till 10pm or later on school nights. She kept saying she would bring them back earlier but never did. A year or so back she started a relationship with a man in jail and thank God some how a letter came to my home from him to her. I found out she sent pictures of my daughter to him in jail. Lets say I was not very nice at that point. Leading up to me finding out about the jail house love she was not calling the kids as often, she would say she couldn't get them on the weekends and when everything came to light she was sitting at home waiting for him to call from jail and didn't want the kids. Now in the last 14 days she has displayed the same behavior. She said she meet someone and she stopped visiting the kids everyday until she stopped coming all together and then didn't call for 6 days to even ask how they were. All of these changes have taken place over the last 14 days. There is so much more to this than I can fit but I'll try to sum this up as best I can. She has gotten the kids on the weekends and we agreed that she would not leave them with someone while she went out partying. I said if she needs to go out then they can stay home with me. I come to find out that the weekends she has them she has left them with someone and went out. She has them for a whole 48 hrs and she needs a break so she can go out. I have them 24/7 and I don't need a break so I can go out. I look at it like this. My children are growing so fast I want to enjoy playing with them and tickling them while I can. They are little only once and I want them to enjoy there childhood and remember it as happy and fun, full of hugs and kisses. What hurts me the most is that my daughter told me that mommy doesn't play with us, she sleeps all day, she's on the couch all day sleeping, I ask her to get me and sissy breakfast and she dint' get up for a long long time and my tummy hurts. I  confronted my ex and she got nasty with my daughter now I don't want to let them go with her, I don't trust her with them. She has lied to me since the day I meet her but now her lies are affecting my children. My ex has bi-polar disorder and her behavior lately is just weird and when I asked if she was on her meds. she said not for six months. She had no running water in her home for ten months so I would bath the kids at my home while she had them on the weekends. All of a sudden she said she meet some guy and 3-5 days later she got the water fixed. She got her water fixed for some guy she just meet but not her children. What I can't figure out is why does she want them when she leaves them with others and she goes out or sleeps all day doesn't do anything with them and lets them go hungry. I say they should stay with me if she wants to go out and/ or sleep all day and not feed them. I've recently contacted an attorney and am filing for full custody. I am asking for her to be evaluated to make sure she is competent enough to care for them because of her behavior and finding out she is not taking her meds. And requesting she take parenting classes. I am so afraid for my daughters health and well-being. I fear they will be put in a dangerous situation while with there mother and it is my responsibility to protect my daughters. I am so nervous about going to court and feel she is such a liar that she may be allowed to take them alone and they will be harmed. Any advice legal or other wise would be greatly appreciated.
All of your concerns are valid. Your ex sounds unstable and selfish; a dangerous combination! It is so disgusting that she didn’t get her bathtub fixed for months; but when she meets a guy, she gets it fixed to keep him happy.
In the beginning of your post you describe the children being with you and their mom just coming and going as she pleases; but towards the end of your post, you said you want to file for full custody. Does that mean the kids live with you, but you don’t have an official, legal agreement? In my opinion, obtaining full custody would be in the best interest of your children. Those precious kids deserve a stable home, where they know they will be fed and cared for. It is understandable that you are nervous to go to court, you know that your ex is a good liar and she could pull the wool over a judge’s eyes. But, you’ve got to keep yourself looking at the positive side! You are doing the right thing by your kids and that is all that you can do.
Have you considered asking your ex, straight-out, ‘would you give me full custody of the kids?’ From your description of her, it seems like she might be the type of person who would be fine with that. You are doing her a favor by lessoning her responsibilities. (How pathetic!) Until you get into the courtroom, I urge you to keep a detailed diary of when the kids go to visit their mother and what they say when they get home. The water story is a good one to jot down; it says a lot about her character. (Or, rather, lack of character) It isn’t good for children to see mom having men come and go from her bedroom. Your ex doesn’t have the children’s best interests in mind at all, she puts herself first.
Again, your concerns are understandable, but take comfort knowing that this is the best thing that you can do for your children. It is your responsibility to protect them, to raise them in a healthy environment so that they will grow up to be happy, healthy people. I also suggest that you seek family therapy for your children, because they may feel torn about their mother; although she doesn’t feed and care for them, she is their mom, and they might need professional guidance on how to deal with their conflicting feelings. I wish you the best!
 
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December 11, 2007, 9:58 am PST

What do i do?

My X wife has a 23 yr old self admitted drug addict, alcoholic bi-sexual girl living the house with her and my 12 yr old daughter. This 23 yr old girl has pictures of herself and other girls in sexually provocative displays. There is a picture of this girl and my 12 yr old daughter with the caption "i wanna do a b&e and i'm not talking about bacon and eggs thou that sh". I contacted several bi-sexual an lesbian women all over the united states and have been told this comment is sexual in nature. My x wife refuses to discuss this with me. I have reported it to the Dept. Of Justice Cycer Tip Hotline, the FBI, the State Police,  and even tried to reprt it directly to the local Detective that handles internet crimes in this city. For the past 2 yrs the local police dept has ignored threats on my life from my X wifes boyfriend who has an extensive criminal and domestic record. No one has done anything. I began reporting this on 11/26/07. I tried to persue this through the courts prior to reporting it. When I contacted my attornry regarding this in October I received a letter from him dismissing himself from my case. What do i do?
 
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December 16, 2007, 10:10 am PST

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My husband and I have four children. Two are his 16 daughter and 13 son. One is mine boy7 and we have one together 4 daughter.  We have visitation rights to see his kids every other weekend and for 6 weeks in the summer. He pays his child support loyally each week and has since the very beginning. Our problem is we never get to see his kids. They move all over a lot and now at this time we don't even know where they live.  It is every year we go through the same thing, they come over for a couple months and then the next year they don't want to come. My step daughter is only 10 years younger than me and blames me as the reason they won't come over. My husband has treated my son as his own since the very beginning. My son knows him as his father since he knows no one else to be so. My step kids treat my son like crap. They are mean to him and don't invite him to do things with them just my daughter.

The point: My step kids mother allows them to do drugs with her and drink and party. We have tried to be an influence in their life, but as soon as we try to set guidelines their mom rips them away. In my opinion they don't want to come over because they have rules here and because they don't like me or my son. They stopped coming around this last may and haven't been over since. We are still paying child support but where are our rights to see these kids.  We are at ends wits about what to do. We want to see our kids. Oh and to top it all off my step daughter just went and got a tattoo on the back of her neck. And both the kids have a myspace account. My step daughter has a picture with her saying she is drunk. And my step son is posing as a 15 year old. What do we do about that? Any help or thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks.
 
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My husband and I have four children. Two are his 16 daughter and 13 son. One is mine boy7 and we have one together 4 daughter.  We have visitation rights to see his kids every other weekend and for 6 weeks in the summer. He pays his child support loyally each week and has since the very beginning. Our problem is we never get to see his kids. They move all over a lot and now at this time we don't even know where they live.  It is every year we go through the same thing, they come over for a couple months and then the next year they don't want to come. My step daughter is only 10 years younger than me and blames me as the reason they won't come over. My husband has treated my son as his own since the very beginning. My son knows him as his father since he knows no one else to be so. My step kids treat my son like crap. They are mean to him and don't invite him to do things with them just my daughter.

The point: My step kids mother allows them to do drugs with her and drink and party. We have tried to be an influence in their life, but as soon as we try to set guidelines their mom rips them away. In my opinion they don't want to come over because they have rules here and because they don't like me or my son. They stopped coming around this last may and haven't been over since. We are still paying child support but where are our rights to see these kids.  We are at ends wits about what to do. We want to see our kids. Oh and to top it all off my step daughter just went and got a tattoo on the back of her neck. And both the kids have a myspace account. My step daughter has a picture with her saying she is drunk. And my step son is posing as a 15 year old. What do we do about that? Any help or thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks.

One more thing... My step kids mother doesn't work or try. She has had several men in and out of the kids life just in the past 6 years. She gets metro, food stamps,medicaid and child support. She is not teaching these kids any responsibility on how to manage life. Their mother lies and tells people that she has cancer and is dying. She started that about 6 and half years ago. She did this so no one would find out that she was actually injecting crystal meth into her arm. We took emergency custody that year and the judge gave them back. HMMMM now what do we do??? Help.
 
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December 20, 2007, 5:31 pm PST

I cant believe this happened!

How is it that a man can beat his girlfriend to the point she has to seek shelter and go into hiding , and with his twisted mind and well acquainted mind of lawbreaking, He has been able to get full custody of the (now 7 year old ) child who has many medical problems and needs her mom.  I am beside myself on this matter.  My girlfriend just called me in tears again!  Her daughter who at the age 2 was taken away from her by her x has taken this jerk back to court several times to get her daughter back and he has money and is able to pay for good lawyers so she gets railroaded and now is not able to see her daughter even when her daughter is in the hospital having surgeries on her failing kidneys.  I know you all don’t know the entire story but mark my words, I know this Lady and I know her X.  She has other children one who is a teenager (a straight A student ) and another boy who has CP - to which she is such a good mom , her son with CP has risen above much of his disabilities.  Her other children (by a different man) are living proof on how great THE MOM is.  She is also in the medical field.   There is no reason this man should be able to play the courts and alienate her from her daughter.  He has lied to the courts over and over!  When Cps was called on this guy (more than once) he lied to them and gets away with it.  Because mom doesnt have good representation the courts do not listen to her even when she shows them proof the the man is a liar.

Today mom was stripped of her rights and the father was able to change the daughters last name to his.

 

The Daughter that we are talking about has failing kidneys.  The father would not allow the mom to see her when she has been in and out of the hospital.  This little girl is being used by this man and brain washed .

Someone needs to step in to help - Anyone have any information that would help.

I would love to see this horrible man get questioned by Dr. Phil. 

This has all gone on in the Hemit, Ca. Courts.  She of corse lives in a different county but still must keep it in the same court.

 

 

 

 
 
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December 30, 2007, 8:39 pm PST

NOT HAPPY ABOUT THE SITUATION

MY HUSBAND AND I JUST FOUND OUT HE HAD AN 11 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER. WE HAVE 3 KIDS OF OUR OWN 12,9, AND 2. THE MOTHER JUST CAME FORWARD AFTER 11 YEARS. MY HUSBAND HAD NO IDEA. WE WOULD HAVE TAKEN CUSTODY IF WE WOULD HAVE KNOWN 11 YRS EARLIER AND MAYBE WE WOULD HAVE PLANNED OUR LIVES A LITTLE DIFERENTLY. MY HUSBAND AND I BEEN MARRIED FOR 10 YRS NOW. AFTER WE FOUND OUT IT WAS HIS WE INVITED HER OVER ONLY BECAUSE HER PROBATION OFFICER SAID SHE COULD COME. YES THE 11 YR OLD IS ON PROBATION. SHE SUPPOSE TO COME FOR THE SUMMER, BUT ONLY LASTED 4 DAYS AT OUR HOUSE. HER MOTHER IS A DRUG ADDICT AND HAD NO INTENTIONS OF TELLING MY HUSBAND IF CPS DID NOT GET INVOLVED. THE 11 YR OLD IS SASSY, WANTS TO FIGHT THE KIDS AROUND HER AND STEALS THINGS. MY KID ARE NOT INTO THAT STUFF AND NEITHER R WE. TO US SHE IS ALREADY MOLDED BY HER MOTHER. SHE ACTS MORE OF A MOTHER THAN A KID BECAUSE SHE WATCHES HER 5,3, AND 2 YR OLD WHILE MOTHER GOES ON HER SPREE. SINCE SHE COULD NOT BE A MOTHER HERE AT OUR HOME SHE GETS ANGRY AND SLAMS DOORS AND WANTS TO FIGHT, I CANT HAVE THAT AT OUR HOME.SHE TALKS ABOUT SEX AND MY KIDS R INTO SPORTS AND SCHOOL. I DONT WANT THAT TROUBLE IN OUR FAMILY. I WILL BLAME THIS ON HER MOTHER FOR NOT TALLING THE LITTLE GIRLS FATHER.  CPS IS INVESTIGATING HER CASE AND SHE STILL NEVER TOLD ABOUT THE GIRLS FATHER BECAUSE SHE DORS NOT WANT CHILD SUPPORT TO BE TAKEN AWAYFROM HER GOODS. THE LITLLE GIRL PO TELLS ME THER IS NO HEAT IN THE HOUSE THEY LIVE AND NO FOOD BUT WE SEND HER CHILD SUPPORT PLUS EXTRA FOR X-MAS AND LITTLE GIRL HAS NEVER LAID HER HANDS ON ANY OF IT. R WE WRONG FOR TERMINATING ALL RIGHTS TO THE LITLLE GIRL AND KEEP SENDING HER CHILD SUPPORT AND LET STATE HAVE HER BECAUSE WE HAD NO PART IN HER LIFE FOR 11 YEARS AND FROM OUR EXPERIENCE WITH HER ITS NOT GOING TO BE GOOD FOR OUR FAMILY.
 
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January 3, 2008, 7:54 am PST

2 yr old telling stories....what a mess!

   I am so sick of drama from my ex! I had to call the cops on him yesterday......
He made allegations that my bf of 5 months hit my 2 yr old. He says she hits herself sometimes and when he asks who hits her like that, she says (my bf's name). Now, a little background info on this whole situation....
My ex and I have been split since April when he was cheating on me a yr ago. It only took me meeting someone new 3 months after I left him to "see the light" and want me back....but I'm not willing to go through that again, no trust at all....of course my ex wants to beat the snot out of my bf because my ex feels my bf "ruined our family" and if my bf wasn't in the pic I'd go back with cheater and liar ex. I told him that would never happen.....can't do it for the kids and wouldn't do it for any other reason, so it would never happen, new bf has nOTHING to do w/ it. But of course ex needs to blame someone so my bf is blamed.
Recently my ex has been civil at drop off/pick up of our 2 yr old. We have our own agreement on visitation and never went to court over it. But now things are getting really mesy and I called legal services to file for custody of my daughter.....just to get it in writing because I'm so afraid my ex will not bring her back to me tomorrow for my weekend because my ex INSISTS my bf hit my daughter. I KNOW HE DID NOT and would never...... he is a very good dad to his own 1 yr old and very good to me. I watch how he plays with my daughter and she loves my bf. She doesn't stop asking for him or his son when they are not at our house and she is not afraid of my bf at all when he is with us.
But my ex is a cop and says he interviews kids all the time and knows my baby is being hit, or was hit, by my bf......all I hear is "she is consistant with her story.....I do this all the time.....I was trained to do this...." crap. He also tells me to "step up and be a mom" beacuse I insist my bf is innocent.
My ex wants to talk to my bf to see if hes telling the truth, but I don't think my bf should be involved.....I think this is just a way for ex to get bf in front of him and badger him about "ruining his family", but now since I called the cops on my ex standing outside my house yesterday yelling for my bf to come outside and "talk".....my ex went to child protective services to file a report against my bf! This is crap and they will find that out, but why is my ex being such a dick?! Hes the one who screwed up in the first place, and he's been seeing other ppl since we've split, but still "wants his family back"......
I am so stressed I don't feel like I'm even really here......I feel numb and I am SO SCARED I won't see my baby til something goes through court, and that could be a month.....if you know what I mean! I miss her to death after a day.....I couldn't handle a month! help! Any comments, suggestions or advise? Please be honest....I appreciate that......thanks!
 
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January 15, 2008, 3:30 pm PST

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My husband's ex sounds a lot like this women but I don't understand why your friend is living with her and her new husband.  I bet you will say for the kids but it sounds like it may be better for the kids if he had his own place where they wound not be exposed to the mother as much as they are now.  They will always be a part of her life but maybe they could have at least one somewhat stable home with your friend, if he is any better.  I can tell you that the things you are talking about can and will affect the rest of the children's life.  If it is very bad or abusive I think you should do something for the children's future.  They are still young and may not be too damaged if things changed now.  Your friend really needs to step up to the plate and get his life in order so he can save his children.  Someone needs to be the hero.  These people sound young and really immature and the kids will pay the price.  Is there any kind of drug or alcohol problem?  If so, it will only get worse from here.  Do you ever say anything to your friend about your concerns?  If he cares about your friendship and certainly his kids, I would think he would be willing to consider he possibility that they are not doing this right and try a new approach.  I really believe that it is up to us (society) to protect the innocent in our world.  If you feel like this is a bad situation then you should do something.  Those kids should really be more important than your friendship.  I am not saying I know what to do but there has to be a way.  Talk to a social worker or someone that can step in and force them to grow up if they are not willing to on their own.  This is a hard place to be.  Just listen to your heart.  It sounds like you have a good one.  Never settle for anything because of fears.  You have to live with yourself from now on.  Just weigh the situation and what you can do to make it better.  It's easy for me to say because I am not in that situation, but I have told my step-children that my responsibility is to them.  I don't care if they get mad at me for standing up for what is right and that I will love them no matter what they say or do.  One day they will appreciate that I held them to a higher standard and I am sure your friends will to.  Even if they don't act like it now.  I know those kids will thank you.  Hope I could help.  Good Luck!!!
well.... his ex  and her husband got a devorce, she has her own place and is now remarried.  I have called social services many times throughout years and my friend and the ex husband have too. I'm told that they are saying (since she moved) that they don't have juristiction and yet they won't help him find out who does. She's in the country so we don't know what county she's in. The only time the Police seem to do anything is when she tries to claim that my friend did something bad to the kids. I know he hasn't. The social services have been trying to get a hold of her, possilby because of all the reports we've made and now it seems that she has claimed yet again that my friend did something bad to his oldest daughter. They are going to charge him. We are all worried about what she is doing to those kids and to make it worse the guy she married seems to be getting her to smoke pot and is controling her... what might he be doing to the kids?! The mother chopped the oldest girl's hair for telling her teacher that  her new daddy likes taking pictures of her and that he's making a film with them about a dead chicken. This poor girl has been through alot ( I don't know if my other post said it) she was burned when she was 6. They had to shave her head to get skin grafts and she had been in the hospital for around a month.  I really wish something could be done. My friend doesn't have his licience because of child support so he is working close to home which is minumum wage at KFC. Of course now that this accusation came up, he has to move out cause his roomate (the ex husband) has a son... who my friend was watching as part of his rent. I swear this woman is out to ruin everyone's life, and yet I'm also not sure she understands how bad what she's doing is.   She keeps getting away with everything and others get burned... so to speak.  ....    She was ordered to go to counsiling.... her foster mom (who sees her as her daughter) took the position of her counsiler... that's not help... and I think it's illegal too.   I really wish Dr. Phil would get involved here... I think it's the only way to get things rolling ... the child services aren't doing their job.  I know my friend didn't do anything bad to his daughters... or to anyone else, I've known him for 10 yrs and I've had my experiance with bad/sick men... he's not one of them... but just the same.... something has to be done to help the kids involved here.... no matter who is to blame!   This situation is what makes me hate the gov and the system... this is one time that the system isn't working......   I feel like doing something drastic to get the attention on this.... but I don't know what
 
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   I am so sick of drama from my ex! I had to call the cops on him yesterday......
He made allegations that my bf of 5 months hit my 2 yr old. He says she hits herself sometimes and when he asks who hits her like that, she says (my bf's name). Now, a little background info on this whole situation....
My ex and I have been split since April when he was cheating on me a yr ago. It only took me meeting someone new 3 months after I left him to "see the light" and want me back....but I'm not willing to go through that again, no trust at all....of course my ex wants to beat the snot out of my bf because my ex feels my bf "ruined our family" and if my bf wasn't in the pic I'd go back with cheater and liar ex. I told him that would never happen.....can't do it for the kids and wouldn't do it for any other reason, so it would never happen, new bf has nOTHING to do w/ it. But of course ex needs to blame someone so my bf is blamed.
Recently my ex has been civil at drop off/pick up of our 2 yr old. We have our own agreement on visitation and never went to court over it. But now things are getting really mesy and I called legal services to file for custody of my daughter.....just to get it in writing because I'm so afraid my ex will not bring her back to me tomorrow for my weekend because my ex INSISTS my bf hit my daughter. I KNOW HE DID NOT and would never...... he is a very good dad to his own 1 yr old and very good to me. I watch how he plays with my daughter and she loves my bf. She doesn't stop asking for him or his son when they are not at our house and she is not afraid of my bf at all when he is with us.
But my ex is a cop and says he interviews kids all the time and knows my baby is being hit, or was hit, by my bf......all I hear is "she is consistant with her story.....I do this all the time.....I was trained to do this...." crap. He also tells me to "step up and be a mom" beacuse I insist my bf is innocent.
My ex wants to talk to my bf to see if hes telling the truth, but I don't think my bf should be involved.....I think this is just a way for ex to get bf in front of him and badger him about "ruining his family", but now since I called the cops on my ex standing outside my house yesterday yelling for my bf to come outside and "talk".....my ex went to child protective services to file a report against my bf! This is crap and they will find that out, but why is my ex being such a dick?! Hes the one who screwed up in the first place, and he's been seeing other ppl since we've split, but still "wants his family back"......
I am so stressed I don't feel like I'm even really here......I feel numb and I am SO SCARED I won't see my baby til something goes through court, and that could be a month.....if you know what I mean! I miss her to death after a day.....I couldn't handle a month! help! Any comments, suggestions or advise? Please be honest....I appreciate that......thanks!
I am a monitor for my great nieces visitations with her mom. Her ex has a girlfriend who miss treats this child, she lets her son bite my niece, and makes her call her momma. My opinion is boyfriends and girlfriends who choose to PLAY HOUSE have no rights or business regarding their partners children who have 2 parents who are co-parenting If you know for a fact that your BF did not hit your child than it should be no problem when you visit your child to have your BF go away for that time that you have with your child, just one on one time. you are lucky the visits are not monitored and you have the pleasure of having your child with YOU over night not just 3 hours 2 days a week. My niece lives in the same house with this person she tells us she is being hit, and bit. I have pictures to take to court next month to prove this. PUT your child first.....forget the BF if it is creating problems back away and focus on your son.
 
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