Quote From: wizardstree i'm a 45 year old male, i was once very close to walking in your husbands shoes. the questions you need to be asking yourself. what do i want and need out of your life? will he satisfy you in every way needed by the time your old? what do you see in him, you can never find in somebody else?
what i would suggest for the both of you. if, he is the one you want to be with for the rest of your life.
to do this, you both need to be on the same page, same level of understanding. next go back to a time in your life, when everything was perfect. such as a time when you were a child, before you heard bad words or were aware of thing that were not good for children.
go back to when you lived liked a five year old, if, you have to. the point is that you need to start over. the only way to do this, is to reinvent yourself for who you really are.
think about this theory. from the day we are born. we are affected in one way are another. by the age of two, we have learned the most diffcult things to learn, walking and talking. next, we start school to meet different people. with each passing day a little change takes place inside us. the next thing we know we're 25 years old and somebody we shouldn't be.
stop and think for a moment, growing up in the country without any outside contact would create the same kind of person growing up in a city, filled with bad things.
your husband did'nt invent the things he does. somehow along the way he was introduced to the things he does. he has found a off-way of thinking which gives him a feeling, i call this personal self-made values.
reinventing, once you find that place go back to the town you lived in and go through your mind about the things you did as a kid. while doing this, keep somethings in mind as you reinvent yourself(the real you)or(finding yourself)you must never watch televsion, listen to the radio or read any reading material its very important to keep your mind in focus.
in focus- its alot like trying to quit smoking, yet you hang around with smokers. so, stay focused on the reinventing. you do not have to move back to that town, a simple little visit will do. by combining a feeling with a way of thinking. you will be on the right track to changing.
next, everything you do, you can share with anybody. a child, a preacher, your mom, the pope, because it is good stuff. if, you find your doing something and can't share it. it will affect the change.
next, get out and show compassion and help somebody in need.
if, he is not willing to live as a child. for a child has compassion and isn't afraid to speck freely. then you need to move on without him.
also one more thing.....
You say that I need to ask myself some question well to quote you "will he satisfy you in every way needed by the time your old?" "what do i want and need out of your life?"
Ok here goes.....I do not mean to offend I just have a difference of opinion, that being said,
There is no one person who can provide everything you will need out of life. So by asking that question you are setting every person in the world up for failure. There is only one person in this world who can satisfy your every need and since religin can be contraversial and this is not my website I will not press the issue. In my humble opinion though....God is the one and only thing in life that can satisfy your every need. I know for a fact there is no one person in life who can satisfy your every need. If there was everyone on earth would be a happy camper. Also to ask what do I want and need out of life......Once again any one person cannot provide everything you want and need out of life. If that were the case we would all be billionares with no problems. Anyways......Back to my original question.....What should I do in my situation with my husband?? I still love him but not in the same way i used to. I believe that this relationship is very unhealthy and is getting nowhere real quick. Any advice??
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