Topic : 06/09 Loving Dumb

 Hi,  

   I am hoping that Jeannie (from the show) sees this e-mail message.  I think you and my brother  would be a great match.  That is if you're not so shallow as to look for a man that's good looking enough to be on the cover of GQ.    My brother is 45 years old.  He's never been married and has no children.  He has worked the same job for over 25+ years, owns his own home free and clear as well as his Lincoln Navigator.   He doesn't smoke, he's neat in appearance and he's very kind and wise.  He's got a good sense of humor but he also has a serious side.  He can be a lot of fun in the right circumstances.   He likes movies, eating out, dancing, family etc.  He works the evening shift at the air force base in Enid, OK., repairing the flight simulators.   For that reason he doesn't get out too much and doesn't meet many women.  He's been serious twice in his life....but he's very cautious and takes his time in everything he does.  Perhaps too long for the other two girls?  He would make a very steady husband and a good father except that he's now been hurt twice and he's gun shy.  In fact, you'd probably have to call him to make the first date because he's had just as bad of luck with women as you've had with men!   I think you'd be a cool sister-in-law!    Do you happen to live in the Mid-West , as he's probably not going anywhere and he doesn't think that long distance relations work?   Waiting to hear from you!    Thanks......signed:  Big sister looking for a sister-in-law!  :~)    

I am 31, single, NEVER married and believe it or not NEVER had a relationship....I have tried everything to meet someone......NOTHING works. I love travel and have been all over the world, and enjoy photography, I have NO debts of ANY kind.....doesnt ANY nice girl want me?  

Dr. Phill, 

Why is it that all of the singles you use on your show are skinny and very attractive?  I know that physical appearance is important however, there are plenty of singles out there that are attractive but may not be skinny or the fitness type.  I am sick of people saying that in order to find a match you must not be overweight.  Why can't people learn to stop being so superficial and realize there is more to a person than their physical size? 

With all the talk by DR Phil about asing intelligent  questions  when you first meet someone, why couldn't the guy on todays show be given some meaningful questions to ask the three women? 

Dr. Phil, why is it that it is always the man's fault when it comes to calling the other person back or letting the other person know how they feel? I am 46 years old, live alone in Ontario, never been married, and yes have dated and have had relationships. Just so your women readers here know, I have been in 3 close relationships and I have not been the one to do the dumping. I have been the dumpee.   

In all cases the women have said I have been too loving...too 'clingy' (as your readers put it)...I have been too willing to do things for them.  I guess you could say I was more than willing to do as I was told. My last relationship actually ended by my female partner sending me a registered letter saying she did not want to see me any more and to stay away, don't come around anymore..etc.  She only lives 3 miles from my house and rather than call she sent a registered letter? If a man did that I am sure that yor readers would be raking him over the fires and calling him all sorts of names. 

I have been wanting to find someone to join me in my life here for a long time but have not been that lucky enough. I have a good job, I love to travel and have done a lot of it. I have my own place but am also the first to admit that I am not perfect...no one is. I have medical problems that I never hide, after all I am 46 yrs old and they are not real problems..(diabetes, celiac, heart) as they have not stopped me from travelling around the world. But women see them as problems...they will use anything it seems to break off a relationship...and I am sure some guys will do the same.  

But there are those of us out there, both men and women who I am sure, would really really like to find that other person to join us in our lives. We will just have to keep on looking.  If there are any women out there though in the Oshawa Ontario area, well I am in your neighbourhood here...Get in touch. 

Thanks for the encouragement! Things have been so awesome for me, Since this show even I have lost another 10 pounds I have been working through Self matters & I have made so many changes in me it is amazing, the person I was in the first show. Like I said I remember her but WOW I am so different, Life is so good for me single or not, I have been on several dates since this show.. I did all the love smart things It was AMAZING how much it works.  FOr me Dr phil has been a blessing, He knew what I needed when I didnt know. He got me a Personal trainer, who is Now one of my dearest Best friends, she needed me as much as I needed her, he got me a Gold's gym membership, a Nutrionist Robert Reames who is AMAZING ( yes I say that alot Haa) and A therapist who walks me through self matters. All these things I took as a huge blessing & took the ball & ran with it.  

If I never find the One, I am cool with it. I am so happy with life, with myself with my friends & family My new job.....I hope my blessing rub off on others. I hope every one gets a chance to read love smart it really is a great guide to how the "Game" of love should be played...  

Like I said Not only am I playing the game right I also have changed the Bait haaa.  

I honestly can't believe that there are actually "real" men out there! 

I was pleasantly surprised when I heard Todd's story.......  he seems to be the male version of me! 

I'm amazed!   

In this fast-food nation, it's nice to see that there are still people out there who want to hold onto more traditonal values. 

cheers, t