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Created on : Friday, March 31, 2006, 12:51:47 pm

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(Original Air Date: 04/05/06) Love -- It can be the best feeling in your life, or it can leave you scarred, wounded and completely baffled. When Jeannie first appeared on the show, she was surprised to learn what men really thought of her. She got a wake-up call from Dr. Phil, but has she put his advice to work and have things changed? Next, Hayley and Chad's romance started to sizzle after their trip to Love Smart Island. When Dr. Phil sends them on an adventure, what does Hayley learn about herself when it comes to relationships, and could you be making the same mistake? Then, Todd, one of Love Smart Island's popular bachelors, is back to face the reality of why he can't find the one. Will he change his game when he meets three new bachelorettes? Plus, find out why men dump women without an explanation, and see a special musical performance that will fill your heart with love. Tune in to find out if you're unlucky in love or if you’re just loving dumb. Join the discussion.

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my_world

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June 9, 2006, 9:01 pm PDT

Hi Todd!

One question, and one question only. Where else can you be reached other than on this board?

Awaiting your response.

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buddhagurl

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June 9, 2006, 10:01 pm PDT

Hi hope this helps

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I disagree. You can be 100% real and someone can still not like you.

I'm not acting out a scene on a date with a guy, and then when I don't get the part, I need constructive criticism from the director as to which lines I fumbled.

'm 100% real, almost to a fault. My friends tell me all the time that I need to "play the game" with guys date. Why? If you don't like me - you don't like me. So be it.

But, I do have a problem when, for reasons unknown to me, a guy I've dated several times, stops calling.

I just went thru a very bad experience-but all i can say is this-this is what i had to learn- IF THE GUY IS NOT CALLING YOU-IT IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM- WHAT EVER THE PROBLEM THE GUY MAY HAVE WITH YOU-IT IS HIS PROBLEM-NOT YOURS-ok? I had to learn that- I hope that helps- Just be yourself and true to yourself- you do not need to play games-

If they do not like the real you-then it is their problem-

Hope this helps-

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buddhagurl

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June 9, 2006, 10:01 pm PDT

Hi hope this helps

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I disagree. You can be 100% real and someone can still not like you.

I'm not acting out a scene on a date with a guy, and then when I don't get the part, I need constructive criticism from the director as to which lines I fumbled.

'm 100% real, almost to a fault. My friends tell me all the time that I need to "play the game" with guys date. Why? If you don't like me - you don't like me. So be it.

But, I do have a problem when, for reasons unknown to me, a guy I've dated several times, stops calling.

If they do not like the real you-then it is their problem-

Hope this helps-

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buddhagurl

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June 9, 2006, 10:10 pm PDT

Hi There-

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It's strange that Dr Phil and Oprah have the same slant on ALL men. But I have to say personnaly, I am not like these guys. In fact I've been hurt by women the very same way women are saying guys hurt them. My wife of 20 years left me for a boy 15 years younger than her, and finally after 5 years of forgiving her, begging for an answer, the only closure I got was, "it really is over". No reason she went with a man married to one lady, kids and living with a second, and my former wife the third woman in his harem. I'm not sure I am going to heal, but....I understand you ladies when a guy does that to you.

Hi Kamgrad-

it would be nice to meet you- If you see this- please click on my profile- and email me - my name is Alison- I am not that kind of woman that you went thru- We can share and hopefully get to know one another-

Hope to hear from you-Thanks

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buddhagurl

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June 9, 2006, 10:20 pm PDT

HI Russell

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Doctor Phil. Dumb Loving is wrong andnot good at all. But however peoples who want to be in love-

is a good thing but becarefull who you want to pick and who you want to date aswell. See you next--

week. Well I had better close now. Sincerley Your. Russell

For me- I want to LOVE SMART- Like you said- You need to be careful- I would rather be alone than with some one who does not treat me the way I truly deserve!

See you next week-

If you want to ' meet me'- email me-click on my profile-My email address is there-Thanks-

Take care- Alison

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June 10, 2006, 12:22 am PDT

Andrea Bocelli

His voice ages well, with today's selections eliciting the sweetness of gentle tears.

The deepest dimension of the human soul expressing the ecstatic communion with self, family, community.

I am loved completely and wholly
I am held in perfect grace

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June 10, 2006, 2:30 am PDT

the jokers

I feel the men brothers on the show are just funny guys like to joke around they are not up tight and the wifes should be happy. They play jokes but they are safe jokes, they wifes should loosen up. Becky she is funny she had me laughing. She just says what is on here mind and I think alot of people think it but won't say it. So as long as u love yourself hey speak your mind. We live one life so would u rather be happy laughing or sad. think about it.

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buddhagurl

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June 10, 2006, 3:22 am PDT

Another way to look at this....

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Want to know why men dump women without explanation? just like that guy said "he's just not into you".

I have been brutally dumped for no reason and I came to realize that when a guy does that -it is his problem and his loss- he is missing out on a great woman- it was not easy to learn this-but i did-

His problem-His loss

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buddhagurl

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June 10, 2006, 3:36 am PDT

One woman man

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Watching the show today clearly showed just how needy Todd really is. Todd needs to break free of the idea that women love to have "weedy flowers" given to them and that they will hold onto them for dear life(only if they are really into you will they do that). Seeing Todd and seeing that he is truly so obviously oblivious to this is perhaps one of the reasons why he is not succeeding in a relationship. Women like to have some security, saying that they are completely independant and that they don't need a "strong" man is BS! Now I obviously can't speak for every woman but the majority that I have talked to really want someone who is going to be there for them..to perform the "nice-ities". As independant as we may think we are we still enjoy doors being open for us. Sorry Todd but come on, you have to look towards yourself, see that you are a really great guy (or so it seems) but you need to find some back bone. Are you the middle child? never truly felt the love from your family? had to work extra hard at it throughout your childhood? I have a friend that has built up relationships in his life and I am forever telling him to relax, enjoy the time with the person he is with and not think "gee is this the gal I'm going to marry? yes, I am married to a great man who makes me feel safe and secure but also respects my need for me time-I also understand his need for space and that is why we work so well together. Dr. Phil, it's all well and good sending Todd on dates but really, don't you think that before you do that you need to sit down with him and find out the root to his insecurities? Key thoughts: relax, don't over analyse, be yourself and don't panic if you're not married by a certain age. It all comes together.

I am a one man woman seeking a one woman man- with the help of reading and learning LOVE SMART-

If you are slow and serious about getting to know someone- there is nothing wrong having the attitude-respectfully-that 'I would like to marry this person- Especially for those of us 40 and older-I am a 41 year old woman-been thru a whole lot- I am a one man woman- I want to have a healthy loving relationship and all that with ONE man as profound and serious as I am- But I will not love dumb- I am loving smart- But I have yet to meet a good decent man- I do not play around or play games- I am seiously learning to LOVE SMART-

I am not insecure- just confident- AND I liked the last sentence- I am myself- and true to myself and working on myself all the time- I want and need to be with a man who truly respects me and appreciates and values me as I would for him- naturally- I have always respected the guys I tried to get to know but the majority of them treated me like crap and I put up with it or gave them another chance-that is loving dumb- but I am now loving smart-THE LAST SENTENCE IS A GOOD REMINDER-THANKS

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buddhagurl

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June 10, 2006, 3:53 am PDT

right on! Arlene!!!!!!!!

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I personally, through my own many years of experience, think men today to not know what or who they want. They all look for a Marilyn Monroe type and don't give a hoot what's in the persons heart or mind. They only think with their eyes. Then they have the nerve to complain when the relationship does not work to their satisfaction. Another thing, I think men have too high standards on what they are looking for. They want the perfect woman in all ways. Do they ever stop to think if they are completely perfect or great looking or irresistable? No!! Men start thinking with your mind and brains and logic and not with your parts below the belt. After time, that wears pritty thin as well. Arlene from Orlando Florida!!

Right on! You go girl!!!!! I agree with you 100%

And to the lady you responded to- Ma'am-The problems were HIS issues-NOT yours- It is HIS responsibilty-not yours- Many woman fall into that trap- You are not his mamma- He needed help-I am sure you did nothing wrong-Let him go -Heal and move on with your life-as you said-

Hope this helps- This is about HIM not YOU-

ARLENE- i have yet to meet a real man who appreciates my heart and attributes-All they are interested in is if I am very attractive and what I have below the neck-They were never interested in the REAL ME and I realized that it is THEIR problem and it does wear pretty thin- Dr Phil wrote the book LOVE SMART - for both men and woman- He talks about TRUE attractiveness and attributes-

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