Quote From: donotbefat
I've been reading many of the posts pertaining to Christy's obesity. The majority of the respondents seem sympathetic toward her and scornful of her husband.
I can only assume the reason for the above, is that probably most of the respondents are overweight or obese themselves.
Nevertheless, let's talk real here.
When someone becomes fat or obese, lots of things about their physical as well as emotional self change.
1. When someone becomes fat or obese, so does their tongue.
So when they go to bed and lie down on their back, all the extra fat within the neck area and the increased size of the tongue all falls back into the throat, often causing breathing problems as the throat area becomes blocked by fat. One of the results of this is snoring, loud snoring. Another result is sleep apnia, and the fat person consequently needing to sleep with a contraption over their face making them sound and look like Darth Vader. This noisy device helps them to breathe through the night as they sleep.
Now I ask you, does this sound like a sexy sight? Is this what you envisioned for yourself and your mate when you hooked up with them?
2. When someone becomes fat or obese, they are in constant pain.
ALL obese (and most fat) people live in chronic pain. People who are in pain are not in the mood to be fun or sexy. And they usually don't even feel like any unnecessary movement at all. The pain is screaming loud and clear from the extra stress on their joints and bones. The extra pounds they drag around cause them to be slow and lumbering in their movements.
Does this sound like someone who would be creative and inventive during romantic moments? Does it sound like someone who would even be interested in romantic moments at all? Orteven a jog around the block? Probably not!
3. For the fat or obese person, there is a strong emotional component to living with chronic pain, causing the fat or obese person to be depressed, short-tempered, sleep-deprived, irritable, angry, and sorry for themselves.
Does this sond like someone who will be an upbeat, energetic and interesting person to be around? Does this sound like the person you would intentionally choose as the parent of your child? I think not.
So, for all you people out there who continue to feel sorry for Christy who has packed on an extra 90 pounds, and for those of you who continue to blame her husband for not being supportive enough, try getting fit yourselves. Fill up your plate, then cut the portion in half and scrape it off for the dog. Eat less and exercise more and reduce your weight until you are proud of the way you look and feel. Then, if you can actually do this, let's see if you still want to baby Christy for her over-eating choices.
I agree with you to an extent. I am obese and I know that the things you say are true about the discomfort that goes along with fatness.
But you need to change your attitude about it just a little. A lot of people have over eating disorders, they are more deadly and more prevalent than anorexia or bulimia. Anorexia and bulimia are probably looked at by you with compassion, and that is good because it's a disease that a person is INFLICTED with. So you should try to have compassion...any empathetic human being would.
Most people who are fat like me KNOW they are fat, KNOW how to lose the fat, but they are stuck inside the dark world of eating disorders, food rules them, it's all they think about, it brings them joy, it fills a hole...on and on...ALL the same things that other ED's contain. I KNOW how to lose weight, but I also have depression, so I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I AM losing weight, but it's hard....it's going to be a long road because I am in a downward spiral and many other women are too.
The other thing you missed about this show is that this man, Christy's husband isn't just concerned with weight. He is concerned with a lot of other stupid superficial things, shaving toes and haircuts and what not. This isn't about Christy's weight in this case...this is about a controlling and unhappy man.
No one wants to baby Christy...they just might have an iota of empathy, something you are greatly lacking, something that humans MUST have in order for society to work correctly. Imagine yourself in her shoes..really do it. Really...do it. She's aware that people like you dislike her simply because of her weight, I'm aware of it too...it hurts and it doesn't make giving up "food as a friend" easier when people like you are rude.
Think about it.
(Original Air Date: 04/06/06) Dr. Phil speaks to people who are searching for the perfect body. Gina admits to an obsession with plastic surgery and has a long wish list of procedures she'd like to have done in her quest for perfection. Her fiancé, Jason, finds her the picture of perfection and says she needs to stop. With their wedding on the horizon, second thoughts are creeping into Jason's mind. Then, Michael's wife, Christy, repulses him and he can't even kiss her. Christy is trying to lose weight so she can look attractive for her husband, but his repulsion makes her feel unworthy. Should Christy lose weight and try to look more like a model, or should Michael accept her just the way she is? Talk about the show here.
