Topic : 04/07 Social Taboos: Is This Normal?

I usually agree with Dr. Phil's advice and the help he provides his guests.  However, today was unfortunately NOT one of those days.  I couldn't disagree more with the way he handled his first guest.  I don't understand why some guests on the show are told how destructive what they are doing is, the behavior has to stop NOW and things are put in place immediately to help the family. Then there are some shows, like today, (the children being "emotionally and psychologically" sexually abused) and the show with the little girl being bit by the family dog awhile back) where NO counseling (that we see) is offered and he doesn't step in to help where help is so obviously desperately needed ASAP!  The woman today is out to shock people and I feel that all the Dr. Phil show did was help her to continue to do just that rather than informing her how absolutely unacceptable the adult’s behavior was, it has to stop NOW and step in immediately to get CPS involved!   

I am just curious how the Dr. Phil show decides which guests should get surprised (money, trips, scholarships, etc.), who should receive counseling offers, and who is just sent home in the same shape they arrived in?  I never know what to expect from the show anymore. Sometimes I turn off the TV and feel like the show was helpful to the guest, advice was provided that will hopefully help someone else, and I have learned something I can incorporate into my own life.  Then there are days where I turn the TV off and feel upset, mad, disappointed and totally confused?????  

i would like to be one of the few that will support Margaret's frame of mind about sex.  Sex is a subject that needs to be discussed openly.  I don't think I would like to see my parents nude, and I have.  But maybe if sex  was discussed openly then there wouldn't be so many babies having babies.  I'm still waiting for the sex talk from my mother and I'm almost 40 years old.  I had to learn about my body, feelings, my period from books.  I had no one to talk to  when I was growing up.  I don't wish to have a relationship because I don't know what to do.  there is nothing wrong with women with women or anything else.  As long as the kids are currently happy then it is no one's business what happens behind closed doors.  Who can predict what will happen to the kids when they are adults, but maybe they will have a better understanding that I did.  

I am surprised that Dr. Phil chose something as silly as this to use airtime on. 

However, regardless of who "should" put the bar down. What gives this little vengeful woman to punish another customer because they did not do what she expected of them? Maybe they didn't know that it was their "duty" to put down the bar for her. I never thought that the person checking out was supposed to do this for the next person in line. Even when I have been the next person, as we all have, I have always reached for the bar, as I am adding my groceries to the conveyor belt. 

Even if she is right, she had better stop trying to get others to pay for her groceries before someone gives her a demonstration of real rudeness, which is no more than she deserves. Grow up, no one is here to cater to your whims and fancies, and find something important to gripe about if you must gripe! 

Exactly!!!! It is the person behind (you's) responsibility to put up the bar.  Why would the person in front do it???????   Sometimes no one is behind you .. does she still put it there like some selfish act of  "This is my space and don't invade it - cause I'm so much better than you!!!"   

i can't believe this lady isn't worrying about more important things than this...Like people sneezing on carts and wiping their snotty noses on merchandise.  now that's inconsiderate\! 

The trouble is when someone starts noticing somehing like this --they never see want they want to --they won't notice when someone does do it right. 

Dr Phil must have been desperate for guests because I can't believe that he wasn't harder on her.  

He should have told her to spend her energy on something more important. It's like focusing on how someone ties their shoes!!!  

 Meet Margaret, a stay-at-home mom who's tired of everyone thinking sex is taboo. She says she absolutely loves sex and she'll talk about it anytime, anywhere ... and with all of her kids. This includes showing them her sex toys, her sex swing and her X-rated Web site!  

Welcome to another mother who is creating a sex-obsessed child that will end up having problems as an adult!  I dont think porn and excess exposure to sex is healthy at all for children. They are NOT sexually, intellectually or psychologically developed and premature exposure damage their innocense and pushes adulthood onto them too early. This is really, really bad.  Its like filling a child with alcohol and get them drunk all the time because "its fun to party" in belief that you are offering them "fun".
This lady is a fool and has no clue what she is doing to this kid. She is creating a monster and is damaging this child. In Europe they have extensive sex education in school when children become mature, but its forbidden to expose children to commerical sex materials (porn, magazines, etc). The Europeans seem so much more at ease with their sexuality and have far less rapes and sexual crimes per capita than this country. 

Kelli needs to grow up and get real 

The fact that she would consider someone not putting down the bar such an affront that she would react in such immature and inconsiderate manner is sad.  

If she  has children, is this behavior of hers teaching them anything positive? 

Focusing on such a non issue show a total lack of perspective on her part. 

There are so many real issues to be upset about. Why waste energy trying to make people do what you think they should? Just be the better person yourself, I am pretty sure that something a simple as separating your own groceries from the person in front of you shouldn't be an issue of politeness at all, it seems more like a small issue of personal responsibility. 

 Take the same time that it would take you to slide items into their groceries and reach for the bar yourself novel idea for Kelly I'm sure.  

Where is it written that someone is "supposed to " put the bar down? Give me a break. If the bar is so important to her, then she should, lift that big heavy piece of plastic and place it between the groceries herself.  

What we are "supposed" to be is tolerant, reasonable adults. Adding your groceries to someone else's order because they do not behave in the manner that you think they should is silly and immature.