Topic : 04/07 Social Taboos: Is This Normal?

I have friends who are not Christian, don't even believe in God and they think these people are just sick too. That has absolutely NOTHING to do with it. They have no idea what this kind of thing in early child hood does to kids. I have seen it and it is BAD news ! ! I think they need some serious help and the kids removed for awhile !!!!!! 

I view the "threesome" as individuals who are unattractive on the inside and the outside, looking for anything that will give them their "15 minutes of fame".   The "adults" are selfish, egotistical and their arrogance is demeaning to the very morality of the family fiber. 

I, too, am "open" with my children (both girls ages 9 & 13) and we discuss "conservative, taboo issues" because  I do not want them to be unaware or naive.   Children deserve to experience an innocent childhood.  You could begin to inform the 14 year old, but your personal pornography  

that you are so hornily proud of doesn't need to be part of the cirriculum! 

They are not providing their "education" with age appropriateness.  You do not teach a 5 year old Metaphysics!!!  There is a level of maturity before one is mentally capable to process and handle such topics. 

I wish that the fact that Margaret EMBARRASSED her 14 year old by telling the classmate that her daughter couldn't come to the phone because she was masturbating, had been addressed.   

GROCERY STORE SEPARATORS:  I think the real problem behind the woman who is frustrated with the grocery store separators is not the separator, but the need to controll others.  This woman does not realize that most people are not uptight about whether a separator is used at the check-out and would never even think it offends somone else if it is not used.  They can not read her mind, but she expects them to do so.  Then if they can not, she punnishes them for their "bad behavior" when they don't realize she is miffed at them.  She is the rude one, not them.  Here is the solution:  This lady needs to always put the separator behind her own order, and she needs to announce to all in line behind her that she will be extreemly unhappy if someone else's stuff ends up on her tab.  She needs to announce to the grocery store clerk that if anything from another person's order is on her bill, she will get the management, and expect a discount for bad service.  Now she sounds like a nut, but everyone will be in the clear about what she expects when she goes shopping.  If she feels that paranoid, she can ask the checker to shut down the check-stand while she checks out, and ask other shoppers to go to another stand.  I have done this for other reasons berfore.  I have told the checker to shut their light off, and I have told other shoppers politely, "I will be a long while, you should really go to another stand or you could be here for a while."  Usually people look at me, roll their eyes, or say, "thanks for the tip", and then go to another check-out.  I only do this when I have a long-winded price check and don't want people in line to be delayed or get mad at me.  But I would be very upset if someone secretly added something to my order that I did not know about in order to punnish me for something I did not know offended them.  I would much rather be told by her to back off and divide my order than be unknowingly punnished.  How does she know if I can afford that extra pack of $7.00 batteries?  I can tell you now that I can't, I'm usually on a budget, and when I get home, and my husband looks at the receipt he will expect me to take them back if our budget is tight and that could lead to an argument at home and a huge inconvenience for me.  Where is her guts?  She should have the guts to say that she wants to controll my shopping habits, tell me to get lost, straighten out, etc, but not impair my shopping when I don't even know I have offended her.  ESPECIALLY WHEN SHE HERSELF HAS POWER TO TAKE THAT LITTLE PLASTIC THING AND PUT IT BEHIND HER ORDER - SHE  CAN EVEN PUT 2 OF THEM, SEVERAL INCHES APART FOR GOODNESS SAKE, BUT STOP TRYING TO SECRETLY CONTROLL OTHER PEOPLE.  I hope that someone does this to you several times and you end up haveing to return to the store for all the times you have caused someone to purchase something they did not know they were purchasing.  Shame on you for expecting others to read your mind, and then being passive agressive about punnishing them.  I personally think that your problem is bigger than the check-out.  I think you want to controll people on a large level and you think that being sly and sneaky is the only way you can gain controll over others.  You need to examine your underlying issue of controlling others and learn how to controll yourself first, and how to approach people in an upfront way about what you want and expect.  I think you are a jerk, and I bet your jerkiness does not stop at the check stand, I bet a million bucks that you do other little secret things to "teach people a lesson" and they do not even know they did any thing wrong to beging with.  Why don't you try asking someone to use the little black thing (or change other behaviors)?  I have had people hand me those little dividers and politely say to me, "I don't want our things to get mixed up..." or "I just wanted you to be able to reach it so you could start putting your stuff out..." and so forth.  A bit of kindness would go far, lady, so instead of sneaking in behind you and punnishing you for something you don't know your doing wrong that bugs me, I am asking you nicely as I can, "please tell me when I am about to do something that bugs you and I will glady try to accommodate you, If I am able."   

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TO THE WOMAN WHO DRESSES IN CLOTHES HER KIDS HATE:  Honey if you can FIT in such clothing, wear them AND GO HAVE YOUR PICTURE TAKEN IN THEM!  We all need to feel as young and look as good as we can.  If your kids are embarrassed, let them pick you out an outfit to wear to school, pta meetings and plays, and wear "their" outfit when you are out with them, otherwise, be who you are. 

I was in the grocery store,a couple of months ago.It was near closing time,and,as is usually the case,I was in a big hurry(I needed a few baking items to make a dessert for my boyfriend's company Christmas party,the next day).I was the only person at the checkout lane,but,while the cashier was ringing up my groceries,an,obviously quite INTOXICATED guy started to place his items on the belt behind mine.You guessed it!NO GROCERY DIVIDER!!!!Now,until this incident,I had never given this subject much thought.I always use the divider-it is,obviously,just GOOD COMMON SENSE!!!!!!When it came to the last item of mine to be scanned(a dozen eggs-an ESSENTIAL ingredient when baking a cake)the drunk  had placed his stuff so closely behind mine that the girl had to inquire as to whom the eggs belonged.At the same time I spoke up to claim MY eggs,the drunk,slurring,said"Thoshe are my breakfasht."I said,"Are you sure?"(KNOWING they were MINE.)He said"Yep,they're mine."and just grinned a big,toothless grin.I was PISSED!I didn't have time to go back and get another dozen(they were turning out the lights)but,I wasn't gonna get in a fight with a stupid drunk over a dozen eggs,either.So,I gritted my teeth and said,"Whatever"and left.I was forced to go to a convenience store and pay out the ass for eggs!This all could've been avoided!I want the Lady On A Mission to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN YOUR CRUSADE TO RID THE WORLD OF IGNORANCE!!!And,I LOVE your solution-in fact,I consider it PURE GENIOUS!!!Putting other items on someone's purchases not only costs them more on their bill,it will make them THINK about how this could be avoided,therefore,adjusting their behavior and  providing them the TOOLS to be a better grocery store customer(as well as,simply,a better human being)!I LOVE IT!!!I'M WITH YOU 100%!!!!!KEEP UP THE CRUSADE!!!!