Quote From: grown_upI was very shocked about the single mom exposing her children to sex toys and everyone walking around naked. I have a 14 year old son and I respect his right to privacy which he expects. There are certaing things that even though these grownups are comfortable with, the children should be able to decide for themselves when age appropriate. I feel that these children are being "forced" into a lifestye that is optional for adults. I am definitely concerned that the children's innocence is being taken from them - that is abuse. It is really no different than a pedifile exposing children to sexual behavior, which is a crime. Children don't have choices and don't have voices, expecially a 3 year old. What happened to respecting our children's right to their comfort level and age appropriate behavior in their presence. These kids aren't learning about "love" in my opinion. They are being brainwashed to believe this alternate lifestyle is okay. And I've never heard of a real mother telling their children "you're stressed out - go masturbate". Doesn't that teach them that sexual indulgence at a young age is an appropriate way to "cope". What happened to basketball or other age appropriate behavior. I think these people are adults according to their age but very immature and selfish in their parenting. No, this is not normal and I think it's opening pandora's box. This can make them more vulnerable and more likely to become victims of people preying on children - I mean after all, their parent's have taught them sex is okay at any age. These kids are going to grow up confused and hurt. Parenting is a huge responsibility and it is decisions - all decisions should be weighed for the child's best interest, not the parent's agenda. I think these adults are very misguided about putting the children's best interest first. They just want to enjoy themselves and to hell with what they are exposing the kids to. This mother will reap the seeds that she is planting and I hope that her conscience will kick in because her children will most like grow up to be grossed out by her and remember their childhood with disgust OR be very sexually active. Has anyone talked to them about the rate of STD's among teenagers in this country? Come on Mom - step up to the plate and don't put your children through this. If one of my child's friends called, I wouldn't tell them if he was in the toilet. If I was her child, I would file with the court for my freedom from this family. This is VERY unfortunate for her children. There is a time for everything and childhood should be filled with childhood memories, not memories of naked parents and sex toys. Enough said.
wow, that's a bit harsh. mom not creating taboos around sex and pedophile abusing children...c'mon!
"I feel that these children are being "forced" into a lifestye that is optional for adults....are being brainwashed to believe this alternate lifestyle is okay"
how is that? because it's not your lifestyle? cuz some people might say that raising a child with all the christian sex taboos, or catholic shame about sex is 'forcing' children into a lifestyle that is optional for adults, or 'brainwashing' children into thinking it's ok and normal to be ashamed of sex and your body and your desires etc. I'm assuming you don't hold the same views about, say, catholic parents? why not? would you say it's abuse to raise children catholic, cuz they're too young to decide for themselves, and that all children should be raised agnostic, so they can decide for themselves when they are of an appropriate age?? just seems like a double standard is all, when you judge a way of parenting as abusive, simply because you don't understand it, or wish to raise your children that way.
"This can make them more vulnerable and more likely to become victims of people preying on children - I mean after all, their parent's have taught them sex is okay at any age. "
I don't think she's teaching them that HAVING sex is ok at any age, she's simply teaching them from a young age that one's sexuality is normal and natural and nothing to ashamed/afraid of. and in my experience (both as a sexual abuse survivor and social worker working with young children who've been abused), knowledge makes children LESS vulnerable to child predators. I have known too many children whose abuse continues for years because they simply didn't have the language to tell anyone what was going on. or they had learned that sexual things were secrets, that sexual behaviour was shameful etc etc. If a child knows from a young age "this is your nose, this is your foot, this is your vagina, this is your elbow" and so on, and no part has more shame associated than any other part, and the child is talked to about what constitutes sexual behaviour and what does not, and is given boundaries like 'noone is allowed to touch you in that sexual way'...I would say you have a child that is very well prepared to be safe.
I definitely think it's important to respect a child's space and boundaries and comfort level with any topic, and I don't think it's appropriate to expose a young child to actual sex etc, but i don't think teaching a child to link shame, secrecy and sex is doing a child any favors. I know from experience that an uninformed child is a very, very vulnerbale child.
Admit it, you've judged people for doing things you considered inappropriate and abnormal in public. Meet Margaret, a stay-at-home mom who's tired of everyone thinking sex is taboo. She says she absolutely loves sex and she'll talk about it anytime, anywhere ... and with all of her kids. This includes showing them her sex toys, her sex swing and her X-rated Web site! But that's not all. Margaret is in a relationship with another woman, Jen, and Jen's husband. Now that she's pregnant, both women say they plan on breastfeeding the baby. Then, meet a husband who sometimes uses the F word six times in one sentence! Plus, meet three kids who think their mom dresses too sexy, and follow a woman's quest to change people's behavior in the grocery store, one shopper at a time. Join the discussion.
