Topic : 04/07 Social Taboos: Is This Normal?

I was horrified at the thought of the emotional damage you are doing to those precious children. We are supposed to protect our children from those that want to do our children harm. You are the ones that your children need to be protected from. If anyone else allowed your children to see nude or provacative pictures of them, you would call it sexual abuse. It is illegal to show minors the type of photographs you allow your children to see of you on the internet. Have you even tought of the emotional damage it will do if one of their friends finds the website and circulates pictures of you in their school? How often do your children bring home friends? If you really want the best for them you should be discreet in your sexual activities. No one cares who you sleep with, it is only a problem when your kids are forced to endure the aftermath of your completely selfish behavior.  

 I love the fact that after three kids you can look that good. I am soo jealous. I hope that your kids can learn to be as comfortable in their skin as you are. I know that kids will alsways find something about you that embarrases them. You should try showing up in sweats for a change, and then ask the kids which they prefer..

 Masturbation is a private matter. It is a good idea to let you children know that it is a healthy and ok. It is NOT ok to tell their friends that they can't come to the phone beacuse they are masturbating. I think that is the bigger issue

My thoughts exactly! I am one who likes to use the dividers. I was at the grocery store yesterday and remembered this segment. I looked for the dividers and where were they? Up by the cashier! I had to push my cart up and reach around the load on the belt to reach them, then I had to push my cart back so I could place the divider and unload my groceries from the cart.

 

So, to the lady...no, that is too nice a word...to the wench that adds merchandise to someone elses bill (very mean and vindictive, I must say!), How about talking to the grocery store manager about training the cashiers to push those dividers to the front of the belt so a customer loading it can use them?!?!! Did it ever occur to you to that dividers aren't used because they can't be reached? Instead of punishing people like me who are unemployed or on a limited budget, take positive action!

This woman really angered me.  She sat there laughing, "tee hee, aren't I cute?"...if she's got the guts to place something like a package of batteries (a $5.00-$6.00 item) onto someone else's bill, why doesn't she have the guts to say, "Excuse me, can you hand me the divider, please?".  I also don't feel that it's my job to pass it along to the person behind me -- I'll grab it if I want it, and if I can't reach it I'm certainly not afraid to ask the person in front of me (or the cashier) to pass ot down.  Sometimes I place it at the end of my order -especially if there's someone right behind me that's so close they're blending their things with mine.  The CONSIDERATE thing to do is to allow a little space between yourself and the person if front of you anyway.  People have other much more important things on their minds than worrying about passing back the grocery divider.  And this woman doesn't add a package of chewing gum to the order -- she adds batteries, an item that costs enough that they'll have to make a return trip to the store.  There's no doubt in my mind that that is her intent -- she's going to punish them by taking $5.00 out of their pockets and then cause them to drive back to the store.  But, life is strange and full of unanticipated twists and turns -- what if the person is involved in a terrible accident on the way back to the store?  What if they're hit by a drunk driver?  Many things can happen as a result of people possibly doing things that they would not have done otherwise if not for the RUDENESS and passive aggressive behavior of this woman.  She needs to remember that maybe the person in front of her has a sick child, or is fighting cancer, or is running like crazy between a full-time job and caring for her elderly parents, or is clinically depressed, or is going through a painful divorce...etc., etc.  As far as I'm concerned she has no right to talk about the "rudeness" of others -- she puts the fact that they didn't hand her the divider to shame.  It's one thing to think to yourself, "gosh, that person should have handed me the divider" -- it's quite another to act on that thought by taking money out of their pocket and causing them an inconvenience.  She ought to be ashamed for herself, and she ought to look into treating her passive agressive nature, as well, which I suspect is more pervasive in her life than in just this instance.      

Oh come on, that's not the same and you know it. A fart has double the gross factor. Blowing one's nose does't smell. Would you rather listen to the person, that needs to blow their nose, snort the snot up into their nasal passage then down their throat?

I have allergies and sometimes I can't wait until I'm away from others before I HAVE to blow my nose. It can cause some serious breathing, and sometimes choking, issues.

If it's the sound that bothers you then think about what it sounds like when someone snorts snot. You don't have to picture what is in the tissue, if that's what grosses you out.

Personally, I've never opened up food items and walked around the store eating them.. BUT, I've had to open up a box of kleenex at a store, then pay for it afterwards, because my son had a runny nose and I was out of kleenex.  I figured it was better to do open the box before paying for it, than to let my son go around the store with his nose running freely.

 

The bottom line is, if someone is eating something before they pay for it, there could be more to the story... Perhaps they have a health condition and it's dangerous for their blood sugar to drop?  It could be lots of things.. I figure that as long as they're not popping open say,,, a can of sardines or something really obnoxious like that, then it's no big deal - as long as it's paid for in the end.

I have a small home party company that sells adult sex toys. Our policy is that no person under the age of 18 is allowed to be in the home (not upstairs, not in their room- not in the home period) while the party is going on. NO ONE UNDER 18. No infants, no 16 year olds, no kids hanging out in their room NO ONE UNDER 18! This is printed on all of our invitations, and all of our consultants know that this is the rule. If I find out that one of our consultants has demonstrated at a party with minors in the home, they WILL lose their paycheck, and job.  We carry all of the toys and lotions you can imagine, and many that you can't but we do not allow minors anywhere near any of our business.  I don't even open the delivery boxes until my children are asleep in their own rooms- at that point, I divide the orders and pack the shipping boxes.

 

I will teach my children about sex, but I do not think I will be as assertive in my views as the woman on your show. At 3 and 5, they know the names of their private parts, and that they are private.

Gee...for someone who claims to be so confident in "being yourself" you certainly do seem to have a need to defend your actions.  So much so that you went on national television to do so.  I just love it when people who are behaving in a way that they know will get them negative attention act like they are shocked when they get it.  Face it...you dress that way because you feel like you are lacking in other areas that would make you a valuable, desirable person.  Even the fact that you had to mention that you "have dated some famous people" shows your insecurity. As for your children's confidence, you're right.  They did exactly as you taught them...show the entire world your private business.  That's not confidence...it's a lack of propriety...which they learned from their mother.  Concerning your "life before you had them,"  when we choose to become parents, we forfeit the right to behave as if we do not have children.  Absolutely every single thing a parent does every day of their life has an affect on their children.  To try to profess anything less is lying to yourself.  Teaching a child to read before kindergarten is inconsequential to their success or adjustment in the adult world.  But the example you set, and the embarassment you have caused them, will have a profound affect on their adult lives.  You don't have a right to impose your "free spirit" on your children's lives.  You have a responsiblity to put their best interests first every day, all the time.  Even if that means changing the way you have "always" behaved, dressed, acted, or even the friends or relationships that you have in your life.  Parenting is all encompassing and your children are the ones who will pay the ultimate price for your desire to be "comfortable being yourself."  Saying that you have always been a certain way is no excuse for continuing on that path if it is not what is in the absolute best interest of your children.  I am a mother of three teenage daughters and I learned this the hard way.  Get real.  You won't regret it.  Stay selfish, and you will regret it forever.  And regret never goes away.

I actually forgot about this segment until I was at the grocery store tonight, I usally do put the divider down before I put my groceries on the belt or I just don't do it, depends on how much stuff I have but this evening, I didn't even start putting my groceries down but the guy in front of me was nice enough to do it after his order, I said thank you, he said your welcome and life went on, what's the big deal! Who cares who puts the thing down, when one thinks about it, just do it, it takes less effort to put the divider down, smile and go on...I know for myself, I have more imporant things to think about then that silly ole divider..........gee, I know you don't read these things Dr. Phil, but you certainly are one popular dude, some people would do anything to get on your show and who chose this person to be there anyway!? Could they not find something a little more serious then this! Chuckle chuckle. LOLLLL