Topic : Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

I wish there was something more substantial I could tell you.  One thing I can tell you is it is hard to say but it is YOUR daughters life.  I know as we sit here and look at her choices it is both confusing and painful.  We just can not understand why someone with all the love in the world would make a choice that is so dreadful for them and the life of their child.  For now be grateful that you can get on a plane to seen your grandchild.  It will NOT be that way forever.  Do what you have to do for now. And remember to pray. 

I am here today because my 20 year old son came home yesterday to announce his girlfriend of about 4 weeks is having his baby? I have always talked openly about protection and sexually transmitted diseases with my son...I don't know where it all fell apart.  I have been divorced for 5 years now, my son still has somewhat of a relationship with his Father.   

 I asked to meet my son's girlfriend when they first started dating because he was spending A LOT of time away from home.  He said she wants to move slow so she was not ready to meet me yet...so I waited a couple more weeks and asked again....well I still have not met her, even after the pregnancy announcement.  My son has attempted to pressure her into meeting me and she broke up with him so he backed off ........and has asked me to just back off."she is just not ready/willing to meet me yet"........ 

Can Any Body Smell a Rat...I think so.  He said she is 29??? My son is very Innocent and somewhat insecure and I think he just wants to belong to someone...he has no idea what he is in for...He moved to her apartment yesterday, he is uncomfortable talking to me when she is around.  I have seen a change in his personality...Mom you call me too much and you are holding me back???  Yes, I pay for the tuition and books and bought the car he drives (he does pay his car insurance and a small car payment) .I asked to talk with her over the phone....she refused!  What the HELL is going on..I can not think, sleep why wont she meet me??  My head is swirling around with ideas.  My son tells me she is about 3weeks pregnant??? he would 'nt really know.  He has a part-time job and has now decided to quit school.  Not that he was that interested in going in the first place. 

Has anyone else had this happen??  Any idea why she REFUSES to meet me.  I have never seen or talked to her.  My son has always introduced me to previous girlfriends.  He wants me to meet her he has even shown me where she lives.  But I know if I just showed up, I would lose that battle and maybe my son.  I have heard him tell her he wants her to meet me.  He said Mom what can I do?  Also he thinks he is going to marry her "do the right thing" 

I may not be a grandparent raising a grandchild. . .but I am a grandchild who is currently being raised by her grandmother.
I give my grandmother alot of credit. . .
I love her more then life itself, I truly do and I know it must be hard. . .she pays for another person. . .a growing teen's groceries, she takes care of my school clothes && recently Im battling a severe case of strep, so she had to pay for my perscriptions and hospital bills, I mean I just...I would be very lost without her and I cant even imagine how hard it has to be to deal with me (my teenage moody moments) && my growing expenses.  

So to everyone out there who are grandparents taking the responsibilities for their grandchildren...Thanks. 

<33 Britt. 

I was raised, for the most part, by my Grandparents. I thank God for these two amazing people EVERY single day!  

My father died in a car accident  when I was just 4 months old and my mother, age 20, was left to raise me on her own. She made plenty of mistakes but my Grandparents were my constant. They suppored me in everyway possible and I moved in with them at the age of 16 when my mother decided to marry a man who was not fond of me. 

Now that I am 28, the things that I admired most about the time I spent with them are endless. They never said a cross word about my mother (though I'm sure they thought it) They never held what they had done for me over my head. They attended EVERY sporting event I was part of. They supported and continue to support me in EVERYTHING I do!  

To ALL you Grandparents raising your Grandchildren... THANK YOU! Someday they will realze what you have done and be just as grateful to you as I am to mine! GOD BLESS!!!!