Topic : Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 12:46:10 pm
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June 14, 2008, 4:41 pm PDT

Need legal help and advice

My 16 year old grandson is now living with my husband and I since April and we need advice to get custody of him.  He does not want to live with his mother anymore because she constantly puts him down and says he will be like his father. He told her, he did not want to live with her and she told him to get out of her house.  He was failing in school because of all the tension he had at home, he pulled his grades up just barely to pass to the next grade.  He has improved his attitude since living with us and he wants to stay with us. Please help me get the necessary legal advice for the State of Florida.

 

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June 19, 2008, 8:49 pm PDT

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I have been raising my grandson for the past year. He is an adorable grandchild, the love of my life. My daughter had him when she was sixteen. I was shocked that she could just move out of our house (last month) and leave so quickly. It was as if one day she decided she no longer wanted to deal with the baby. I think my rules also caused my daughter to move out. She hated the curfew times and rarely did any chores around the house.  My grandson turned one year old two weeks ago.  My heart sank when she showed up to the party without a gift. I just couldn't and still don't understand how she could leave everything and just "go."  The other day I found the ultrasound photos.  They brought tears to my eyes. I am feeling very lonely right now. Is there anyone out there who feels like me or has gone through this? My husband is very supportive of the adoption. I never realized how long adoptions take..........even within the family. 
Wow where to start.  I am sitting here crying because I totally understand the only difference is it is my sons child and eventhough my son is around everyday the mother would rather party with her mother, smoke weed and pop pills, than be a part of her sons life.  He just turned 2 a few weeks ago and his mom didn't even bother to show up.  What is up with all these mothers do they not know how damaging their choices are to these babies.  Good luck and I wish you the best.
 
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June 20, 2008, 10:53 am PDT

Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

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Hi! We to are not allowed to see are granddaughter's 13 & 15 I miss them so very much. we were lucky we had them in our lifes for the first 13 yr's so I guess we should  feel lucky. I was wondering how I would get to your web site cangrands would love to join Thank you in advance Lynn Dennett 

Hi my sister went through the same thing, they were not allowed to see their grandaughter after 3 years the parents split up and that was it.  When she was 21 she found them, she lives in South Africa and they live in Rhode Island but she still found them and they have a relationship again.  Just giving you hope for the future and know that it must be painful too.
 
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June 28, 2008, 6:36 pm PDT

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 I have 2 of my grandchildren, that I am raising. I have had them both since birth. Morgan is now 3 years old. And Trinity is 18 months. I have adopted Morgan, and Trinity's adoption is in process now. It is not an easy thing to do, but it is very rewarding. All I have to do is look into their little faces and I know I made the right choice. It is much more difficult  now, then when I raised their mother and her sister. I do not have the energy now, that I had then. All the things I thought I would be able to do when my biological children were grown, will probably never happen now. For me, it was a good choice, I love the girls very much, and I am never lonesome or bored.nor will I ever be able to retire.

YOU are so fortunate to have such blessings from God in your life. I have one son and he had one little girl who just turned 2 years old on June 6th and on June 17th he and his wife voluntarily terminated their parental rights to my precious granddaughter. They were pushed into doing it and my daughter-in-law brainwashed by the CPS worker and both of them put down so much and treated so unfairly and made to feel like they did nothing right when it came to caring for their little girl even though she was doing fine at home with them. It is all such a big mess! I couldn't get her becuz the CPS Worker does not like me and her husband is the sheriff of the county and I don't have the money for an attorney to fight to get her.

I called our Senator on friday and then was told to contact the attorney general and talked to that person and then from there it was suggested that I file a formal complaint on that CPS Worker. I am going to do that on monday morning!  Any other suggestions would be much appreciated. I have got to get my granddaughter!  I need prayers. 

 
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July 10, 2008, 6:45 pm PDT

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     hello!! my husband and i are raising our 16 year old granddaughter, well the main problem is that as long as all is going well for jessica(granddaughter) life is good but if not, all hell breaks loose!! she yells and screams and tells us that she wishes we would die. my husband had a heart attack about 4 years ago and she actually told him that she wished he would have another heart attack and die. lately she has been hanging with the neighbor kids none of them is 21 mind you but there is always booze there and pot. i just don't know what to do anymore. she is getting out of control. i think that she's bi-polar but a doctor hasn't diagnosed her. most days i really wiat for her head to spin around!! lol she has been through a lot in her little life. we had her from the time she was 3 months until about 5 years ago, her mother came home to visit and we thought she had changed, that she would take good care of her, jessica wanted to go live with her mother, biggest mistake we ever made. her mother moved to missouri and lost custeody of her 4 kids. it took 3 years of fighting the courts to get jessica home. but we can't keep letting her get away with all that she does because of what she's been through. we really need dr phil's help!!!! thanks for letting me vent, glenice
 
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August 31, 2008, 4:48 pm PDT

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I have been raising my grandson for the past year. He is an adorable grandchild, the love of my life. My daughter had him when she was sixteen. I was shocked that she could just move out of our house (last month) and leave so quickly. It was as if one day she decided she no longer wanted to deal with the baby. I think my rules also caused my daughter to move out. She hated the curfew times and rarely did any chores around the house.  My grandson turned one year old two weeks ago.  My heart sank when she showed up to the party without a gift. I just couldn't and still don't understand how she could leave everything and just "go."  The other day I found the ultrasound photos.  They brought tears to my eyes. I am feeling very lonely right now. Is there anyone out there who feels like me or has gone through this? My husband is very supportive of the adoption. I never realized how long adoptions take..........even within the family. 
Hi i am in the same situation as you. We have adopted our grandson. I have had him since he was 4 months old. His mother decided she no longer wanted to be a parent. She admitted she had him for the extra money, and to get a better place to live. She done some terrible things to him. Starving him and leaving him in his cot all day to cry. He is a lovely little boy and he is our pride and joy. i cant understand how anyone could hurt a innocent baby like that.
 

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September 6, 2008, 10:50 am PDT

Cry for help, bring the babies home and stop all this playing with their lives

On May 22, 2007 my handicap daughter, thru lies and deception was forced into handing over her two children to two Mississippi couples, who have no biological ties to the babies. John & Holy received custody of my granddaughter Kathrine born on 8/29/06 age 8 months cause No. 2007-0409. Chris & Karman received custody of my grandson Johnathan born on 9/11/04 age 32 months cause No. 2007-0459. I asked the court to reverse that decision base on the facts stated in rule 60 of the Mississippi Rules of Civil Procedure. The Petition did not meet the legal requirements for guardianship. The judgment constitutes an informal adoption contrary to law. After finding out my lawyer was incompetent in my eyes I hired another attorney on 10/12/07. Thru the efforts of this attorney I found out that on 1/11/08 John & Holly separated and file for divorce on 2/5/08 cause # 2008-077 and also in cause #2005-0909 the same couple lost their own biological child Caitlin due to illegal drugs. I requested my attorney have the children removed to a safe place till all of this can be handled. He did not do as I requested but instead filed for an extension of time on the cause. I failed to see how this protected the health and wellbeing of my grandchildren so after again requesting he have the children remove to a safe place he also was fired. DHS was called in to investigate this matter on three occasions but they also failed to remove the children to a safe place. The same judge who signed the order to remove Caitlin from her home signed to place my granddaughter in the John & Holly home. I have file for an emergency hearing cause # 2008-0001 & 2008-0002 to ask the judge to place the children in a safe place. The hearing was set for 6/25/08 but the opposing attorney claimed to be sick and put it off till 7/8/08. This attorney was in court on 6/23/08 was did not appear to be sick. I believe that this was a legal ploy to prolong and endanger the health and wellbeing of my grandchildren. I have now placed myself in debt to hire yet a third attorney. The legal system in Jones County, MS and their DHS system have endangered the children. I have not received a detail statement of their billable hrs or a refund for all unused portions of the $7,000.00 I paid the first two attorneys and since I am a school teacher in St. Tammany Parish school system I fail to see why in the year 2008 no one cares about the children. The courts need to follow the systems put in place to protect the children. Through the efforts of my third attorney my handicap, mental retardation daughter has her parental rights back because declared incompetent to have signed the papers due to her mental retardation granddaughter Kathrine but the judge left my grandson in the hands of Chris & Karman, people who have no biology ties to him. He and the family are missing out on what I believe is his right to be with his mothers and bilogylically family. I am desperately asking for emergency help in this matter.

 

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