Topic : 04/12 Dangerous Love

Quote From: tracey05

hmmm...I posted before viewing.  I don't wish to retract my comment -still, whether together or apart, I wish them as well as humanly possible.  Hope they receive the guidance and support they so obviously need.

 

I don't feel anger or disgust, but more sympathetic to those involved. 

 

Michelle doesn't even appear to be 17.  More like 12 - 13 at best.  Her Mom wasn't able to confirm her daughter's "maturity" so, one way or another, difficulties are certain to occur.

 

 

 

 

Quote From: juliebgg

And I can't believe how narrowminded your posts are! You accuse everyone else of babbling when it is you who don't know what you are talking about.  You are encouraging an emotionally fragile and immature 17 year old to stick it out with a guy that is clearly using her based on your situation which you can't see beyond.  I wonder what the percentage of successful marriages where there is a 17 year old involved is.  I imagine it is pretty low.  Especially with people like Michelle.  So stop harping on everyone on here.  It is you that has a very narrow focus and you are giving Michelle poor advice if you are telling her to stay with him based on your situation.

Quote From: juliebgg

Just because you were one of the rare exceptions and your marriage of a 17 year old and a 37 year old happened to work out does not mean that Michelle's or any other 17 year olds would work out.  For the most part 17 year olds are way too young to be married.  They don't have the judgement of an adult yet to make such an important decision.  I think that most times it would be based on lust rather than love.  And alot of 17 year olds would choose someone based on the car he drives, his looks, and what he wears.  That is the level that most 17 year olds are on.  Michelle has demonstrated that she has extremely poor judgement by using drugs and dropping out of school. Her parents are basically absent from her life-if not physically then certainly emotionally.  The mother is in outer space.Michelle is also lazy and can't hold a job. The guy is a user capitalizing on her situation and using her as a toy for his own gratification. So who are you to say that they should be together if they are "happy"?  Michelle has run away from a horrendous home situation and she needs serious counseling and several years of growing up before she can make an informed decision about a marital partner.  You need to stop generalizing and not apply your situation to Michelles.

Quote From: sanlace

I really wish Dr Phil spoke to Chuck more about the abusive affect this relationship is having on michelle, and I think he was too soft on Chuck. I would have liked to see Dr Phil get all worked up like he normally does when these stories involve children.