Topic : 04/13 Engaged Too Soon!

I moved in with my husband the day I met him and we married a year later.  It has now been 35 years and we are still together and want to be together.  It has NOT been easy and we both had to grow and learn, but if the relationship is important both people will do it.

   I'm a 38 year old that wants to tell my story.  I met my husband thru my best friends boyfriend and in two weeks I moved in with him, I knew he was THE one!   We talked about marriage and children and two months into the relationship we found out I was pregnant!   We then got married 7 months later and  this month on the 24th we will celebrate our 10 year aniversary and are still so much in love as we were then.  We have 3 beautiful boys and plan to be married for as long as we both live.  He is a great husband and father,  even when i got real sick right after i had my youngest child, I was in the hospital 2 weeks after he was born and my husband was great!!!!  He was Mr Mom  for almost 4 months with me and our 3 children to care for!!  Including the newborn!!! I think he's the greatest !!!!! 

If Erick & Katie love each other & really work on this marriage, it just might work.  Her sister is behaving like a spoiled child.  She does't talk to Katie because she got married without telling her first.  How rediculous.  So she doesn't believe in love at first sight.   Who cares what she thinks.  The other sister is being another spoiled brat because she is engaged & angry because Katie got married first.  These people need to back off & give them a chance to make it work.  Dr. Phil had him checked out & said he was clean.  So they don't need to worry that he is a criminal or anything like that.  Granted they jumped into this too quick but that doesn't mean that it won't work.  Give them a chance.  Back off.

Sorry, this was meant for the guy who is up North and has the Southern girlfriend.  So the Duh goes to him.

I don't think relationship sucess is dependent on the length of time before you get married. It has to do with how honest you are with your new partner and with yourself about what you want. I met my husband May 31st at a speed dating event. We were married August 27th. He proposed July 7th. We moved countries together, spent all our savings and are expecting our first wee one in a month. The risk was / is worth it. So often the most important things in life just side swipe you.

 

Mad eh? But - we had done the dating thing to death, we knew exactly what we were looking for and knew we found it when we looked in each other's eyes. Why get married? Why not just date? We had friends suggest that to us - but for both of us marriage was important. We wanted each other and the world to know we were now family. Especially with moving countries and then learning about haing the baby. The kind of commitment marriage ensures was what we wanted.

Do you enjoy this?  You must if you haven't left like, oh lets say, five years ago?  Move on... this is not normal. 

Get rid of the negative influences in your life and you will be able to loose weight if  you want to.  Michael is an abuser.  He cloaks his abusive nature behind your weight issue.  He is also a coward, afraid to get a divorce from you because he knows he couldn't get a size two female if he were the last straight male on earth.  The solution to problem is dump your husband and accentuate the positive in your life.

I was engaged at the age of 17 to a 25 year old guy we did get married about a year and a half after being together.  I found out a few weeks before our wedding date that he had cheated on me and decided it would be easier to go through with the wedding then explain what had happened to everybody.  I had twins less than a year after our wedding.  I was 19 and my world came to an ubrubt halt and reality hit me like a payloader.  He was never there and when he was I wished he wasn't.  I was a married single mom!  My husband cheated on me time and time again, including making passes at my 6 year younger sister.  It hurt, my life hurt, my heart hurt, my soul hurt..  I never wanted kids with him and I had taken procautions I was on birth control and we were using protection and I still had twins.  My second son was the same, follwed by my daughter that i had a tubal ligation after.  In total we were married for 7 years and it was the worst 7 years of my life aside from having been blessed with the four most beautiful perfect children in the whole world.  After bringing home a new girlfriend on christmas eve I walked away.  The pain was so bad I could not do it unless, he was gone.  It was the hardest decision in my life, yet the easist.  I am now with a man I love with all my heart and he is my prince charming and I am living in a cinderella world.  The life I imagined and thought was only made up for movies, is now my everyday life.  We have been together for a year and a half and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but we are in no way ready for marriage.  We are enjoying getting to know each other better and better.  We live together and my children finally have a father, not a sperm donor.  I blame myself for not being old enough to make that kind of decision, or confident enough to admit I deserved better.

So now, they'll race to have the first kid, and so on and so on.  I say, don't have kids until you have at least 15 years together under your belt, a home paid off, and money in savings that you can split when all of this blows up in your face.  Oh yeah, I loved the place they decided to make their forever promises together.... wow, now that was special.

I was in a seven year marriage and I am now with my soul mate.  We moved in together a week after we met and have been so in love with EACH OTHER.  I felt more love in the first day with my soul mate then the whole 7 years I was married combined.  I would marry my finacee any minute of any day.   We are just really enjoying being together and learning so much about each other, there is no time to plan a wedding, it would take away from OUR time lol.

When you know you know and I hope that everyone out there feels what I feel and obviously what you feel.

:)