Topic : 04/17 Dangerous Kids

Dr Phil please don't go this low in people that you place on your show... When you

go onto a web site and post you are warned of what can happen you take your chances

if you don't want to take a chance then don't post on web sites.  WE ARE TOLD THIS
ALL THE TIME......THE WEB CAN BE DEADLY

 I am single and have freinds and groups to talk to but I miss my mother so much
i depend on my aunts too much,I go outside the family
one relative said that she had a dream that sh saw my mother looking over a balcony and she said that she was waiting for me.
Grief is so said and ahrd,I miss her love and caring,life is empty without her. Life will never be normal again.
What do you think of the dream ?

god bless you Annatte when i read your post tears came to my eyes you could not had put it any better  i have been living that same life with my 10 yr old son for about 4 or 5 years but the first of last lear alot changed in our lifes the years before i felt life with my son was easier if i numb with pain pills then i got my self clean and the true hell started it was a change in mine and my kids life my son wasn't ready for i was no longer the mom numb on pills anymore i was trying to take back control of our life and he fought it hard from feb to march the police was called on him 13 times for his voilent rages daily  when things got so violent  where i couldn't control him then one day he woke up sweet and loving everything was fine then within one sec my loving baby was gone it was like the devil took over him the blank look on his face his mind going 100 miles per hour he couldn't keep his thoughts straight he was so angry and didn't know what he was angry at he trashed my parents house (so far i have payed out over $2,000.00 ti repair the damages to my parents home and there is still more to fix) knocked over tables throwing anything he could get his hands on cussing hit puching spitting bitting at anyone that came near him my mother is disable do to a back surgery gone wrong he would go after her i had her to lock herself in the bedroom for her safey my other children trying to help me catch him and restrain him intill the police got there when they  got to the house and seen what was going on  they said no more they called the da in our county he said arrest him for domestic violence to watch them handcuff my baby at 9 yrs old and drag him out to there car killed me as a mother i had never felt so much pain to here him cry mommy please don't let them talke me after that he was arrested 3 more times i was aboult to lose my job for having to leave and go to the school all the time over the dumbest stuff they knew my son was on meds for bipolar and ocd and as they did with others kids at there school with mental disorder they pushed and pushed to get them in a nother school and not have to deal with them they like to have that we have perfect kids emige so it got worse with all the stuff going on in school he had more and more rages night terrors he was getting more and more obsessed about the smallest thing and  also that someone was going to harm him or harm me he started see things again he felt worthless he was convenced everone hated him and wanted him dead they child would shower 10 to 12 times a day even get up in the middle of the night to take a shower and try to wash the bad off of him it was living hell and i got the worse of it he blamed me for making him go back to this school everyday his dr and counsler and case mang. at the mental health center was looking for a resedential home for him be for things go to bad and he really harmed himself or us.  so in dec they expelled him for 3 mths this was a heaven sent after about a month to month in a half of weeking home counsling ( he has at the point he didn't leave the house he was even scared his counsler of 4 yrs was out to get him so she came to the house we took it very slow with him) he started feeling safe again sleeping threw the night we started going to support groups he was go aslong as i was there with him and then started a priviate school in march (payed for threw his public school) my mom went everyday with him for a month staring at 1 hour a  day up to the last days of  school for the year doing three hours and a report card with straight a's that he is so proud of and are plans for next year was to send him back to this priviate school but i was informed the begining of the month his public school will no longer pay for it the said he has to come back there to there school because of the cost i told them over my dead body i will never put my son threw that again no other public schools around us has room for open enrollment student so i am in a battle again with the school my son knows nothing about this he thinks everything is ok for the next school year and as always i have those people as you was refuring to that thinks  they know the anwers if i would get him off the meds he wouldn't act like that ( we are slowing backing off his med as needed our goal is no rages in one year we will work on no meds at all) or like his birth father that hasn't seen him in 6 yrs says he wouldn't act that way with me he needs one week with me and no meds i will straighten him out if you would beat his ass a good one he would stop that crap spanking him doesn;t take the disorder away it makes it worse i would love these people that think they have all the answer live one week with this or see a child go threw a rage and try to control it i have went threw hell and back with him i and i pray he keeps on this road he is on now we have had 2 rages in 7 mnths conpared to weekly sometimes daily but that ones he has had was short we have learned new tecnects is group and he may not at first use them but as i restain him i talk camly and that god lord knows that hard to do as your being cussed at being called all kinds of names being spit on right in your face but i do my best i keep talking to him telling him to calm down take deep breaths and take about playing in the yard with his aunts dogs ( i use this same thing when he is seeing things or after night terrors ) and after about 20 mins or so he is calm and he lays there still is can be and then he comes out of it and is my sweet baby again most of the time he doesn't remember what happen he will ask what happen to this or how did that get broke and we say you did it . so please people don't judge us intill you have lived it

Last week, Dr. Phil did a show on Autism. Autistic chidren are not dangerous or violent by choice. Since they cannot express what is inside their head, they become frustrated. Yes the sickest person in the house controls the house and I know. My 23 year old adult autistic child lives with his parents and 17 year old brother. His 27 year old sister teaches special ed in Hawaii. Dr. Phil, you had parents on this show that need to get out of the why me stage.
Since I was a member of the grow out of its, another show that would benefit
viewers is the one with grown autistic children of how we coped when they were younger and how we are managing the situation now. Noone stays the same age forever chronologically. In the case of my son, he is one age and physically and emotionally he is another. Please heed my post and invite me to be a guest for another perspective on this issue. Thank you. Trudie R. Lehman