I suppose no harm will come to asking a few questions?
I am a 46 year old male and have been a member of your site for several months. I began posting on the "Depression" message board, and then as I have already stated, I eventually requested a message board be set up regarding child abuse. It's called "A Child's Voice Connection.." under "News and Current Events".
Having said this, obviously for me to have found the Depression message board I am dealing with depression. More specifically, Major Depressive Disorder, along with Anxieties, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia or Diffuse Pain Syndrome, and on top of all of this, I am experiencing complications from a neck surgery which was done in August, 2005.
I have been deemed not able to work by my employer, but I was released to return to work with no restrictions in February, 2006. Although I am still suffering from severe pains in my neck, (not my wife,,ha ha ), in my shoulder areas, and pains and numbness radiating into my arms and hands. In summary, contrary to the doctor's opinion, I experience pain from tilting my head down, and I have tried to convince my doctor of this, but after the last visit in February, they basically threw me away, and refused to believe or to treat or do further studies related to my pains.
Other symptoms are morning paralysis which varies in severity. But most mornings I am incapacitated until late in the day. I feel I have been sentenced to this life of pain and depression with the doctors telling me there's nothing else they can do. This has devastated my life, and caused severe stress on our entire family situations. I know my wife is discouraged and somewhat depressed because of the long-term health issues that have prevented me from participating in life's activities to any degree of normality.
My employer has pushed me to the side, and although I am currently still receiving some benefits, I contacted, or attempted to contact three individuals after the February visit. I was able to reach only one, who told me that he did not want me coming back to work if I was still in pain, he wants me to be well. Two other individuals never returned my calls, one of whom this individual instructed me to contact.
I do not know my status with this company, and I am scared to death of losing my job and/or benefits. I have tried hard to get a home based business started to no avail. I have lost money for three years straight, and the IRS will not recognize the third year. I am in the fourth year of losses.
I have grave difficulty dealing with the little things in life, and am very unmotivated, and worry and fear constantly. I miss doctor's appointments because some days I just cannot get up and go, and other days I may not have reliable transportation. My time has been consumed by first my incapacitation of about 60 to 80% of the time, and trying to find answers to my health issues, as well as attempting to get some kind of business started in order to secure our financial situation.
I seem to fail at everything. I realize this is a direct result of my health issues. I also believe that years of harassment and ill treatment by my employer, specifically or mainly my supervisor, and others, which I feel is based solely on my disabilities; these events have adversely affected my health over time. I strongly feel that the impact of the continuous abuse has broken the last straw of my ability to function normally as a human being.
My questions are:
- What resources are available to assist me in putting my life back together including my health, my financial situation and my ability to establish a reliable and sufficient means of income?
- Should I continue my campaign against child abuse during the course of my attempts to deal with these other issues?
- My son just called me while I was typing this to inform me that my wife's car is broken down again.....What can I do to get my finances in order and get my credit re-established in order for my wife and myself to have reliable transportation?
Many people do not understand the difficulties one faces with depression, and how it affects things such as concentration, decision making, impulsive spending or decision making, etc. Despite the fact that we have a decent income currently, I never know from pay period to pay period, I have mismanaged money seriously and not realizing the impact or repercussions. And it's not lavish spending; it's going to three different places and buying small insignificant things that just add up. And before I know it, bam! I can't make our payments, much less afford any new payments.
DR Phil and Robin, do you or your team have any suggestions? Please keep in mind that I have serious impairments with concentration and the other issues afore stated.
djmatt
Dr. Phil has reinforcements today – Robin joins him in answering your questions. First, Joan is single and in her 60s. She admits that she lies about her age while dating online, because she believes if she told the truth, she would only get responses from men in their 90s. Dr. Phil puts potential suitors to the test to see if Joan's theory is right. Next, Brian says it's time for his wife, Cristi, to stop dressing their son in “girlie,” “foo-foo outfits.” Did Dr. Phil disapprove of the way Robin dressed Jay and Jordan? Then, a mother of two insists on having girls’ night out, but her husband says that 4:00 a.m. is way too late to come home. What's really at the heart of their issue? And, a mother who took away the keys to her son’s motorcycle wants to know if she should give them back. Plus, does Dr. Phil ever do anything wrong? Robin spills his secrets. And, find out what beauty product Robin wears that stays on all day. Join the discussion.
