Topic : 04/18 Ask Dr. Phil and Robin

why are we so judgemental in church?   isn't that the one place we should be supportive and kind?  i bet that little  boy was a stud! 

I also missed the end of the show.  I know the name of the lip gloss is Laura Mercier...but do we know the color she uses.... 

Thanks 

I also missed the end of the show.  I know the name of the lip gloss is Laura Mercier...but do we know the color she uses.... 

Thanks 

So, I had to join just to reply to this question!   

I was born in IL, but moved to TN when I was 2.5.  When I went to college in Ohio, though I knew my friends didn't really believe the stereotypes they did think about them.  We would also laugh about them a lot.  Especially when I went home on breaks and watched talk shows where I would be mortified that my friends would watch and think that was what East Tennessee was really like!  It's just so easy to see Beverly Hillbillies and believe it even today, especially watching Springer and shows similar.  (BTW, I love "Appalachian Emergency Room" skits on SNL.  And yeah, though I hate to admit it, some of it really does happen.)   

So, now to answer your question.  Dressing in the formal Southern tradition is mostly a throwback to the Antebellum South and not a redkneck-compensation thing, but I can see where you might possibly think that especially given the fervent dialogue on this topic.  You can even see in the language of those who support this mode of dress terminology mimicking the Old South:  manners, classy, southern way, etc.  In many areas of the South, tradition--and in many ways appearances--still means more than any type of modern conformity.  Though there may be some who follow this mode of dress to attempt to increase their social status through appearances (i.e. "redkneckish" or more probably feelings of financial inadequacy), many are drawn to this type of dress for the idea of the formality of the Old South.  Others don't really care about the meaning; they (and by this I do mean the mothers) just want to fit in. In the days when Old Money families had nothing left but big houses filled with antiques,  they still had heirloom hand-me-down clothes.  The style of the Old South has adapted but never discontinued.   

Though over a century of immigration and emigration has changed drastically the demographics of the entire country,  the "South" still is and may always be different.  BTW, I am referring to the "South" as a cultural identify as I think did most of those who referred to it in other posts though they spoke of it in mostly geographical terms.   

So, these have been the ramblings of a former social scientist now turned stay-at-home-mother of an 11 month-old boy who can be seen wearing a melange of bubbles, jon-jons, t-shirts, shorts, blue jeans, polo shirts, sweater vests and khakis purchased rarely retail and mostly at end-of-season sales, outlets and ebay.  I even have a black velvet bow tie already purchased for next Christmas!  Though his closet runs the gamut from play clothes to Southern little boy to little man, I try to dress him properly for the occasion be it church, mall or playground.  

What's the big deal, anyway?  At least the foo-foo-dressed kids are covered!  If we are going to have an attitude toward what people wear to church, I'd vote for gently educating the younger set in matters of modesty, esp. during warm weather.  I'm glad that the scantily-dressed youth are in church, but I don't think they get it about how distracting their skimpy outfits can be or how their excessive displays of skin are tempting the opposite sex into lustful thoughts when their minds should be on godly things.  

I didn't even look at the website.  That is so expensive!  I don't even pay that much for my clothes.  I can buy 3 tops for myself with that kind of money.   

Dear Robin,    

    I need your help....   

1. My mother is always getting in to my husband and I's stuff like when we disagree about something she is always there what can i do?
2. How can I find out how to work on things if we can't have anytime alone?