Topic : 08/02 "I Love Myself!"

The thing that blows me away about this whole deal is that no one seems to grasp is that when you damage a child early on, you come up with these behaviors. When a child is DE-valued by the parent...or becomes "invisible" the damage is so severe that the adult  may never recover.  It took 67 years for me to even half way recover, Ill never be whole, and thats the way it is, Ive reached a place where I'm safe..and after all that damage thats a good thing !  Any parent who lays this "your world less "on a child is beneath com tempt in my estimation.  

First, kids have no idea of how life works, its up to the Parent to teach it...some Parents have a habit of saying "Well, you know that"...point is the kid DOESN'T know it ! They were never taught, and thus, they DINT know.  Parent must never assume that a child knows something, unless the Parent teaches, the child does NOT know. 

Kids who are left in the dust, or only have a frail grasp  on Family interactions, never fully develop a healthy relationship. Its not their fault, they were taught early on, that they have no value. How can one be expected to develop  normally when they believe they have no value ?  

Women who fall in this crack have so little self that they will grab onto, and hang onto, someone who abuses them. Its all they know, and they have no escape unless something makes Thom realize that they can get out, that they dint want to...or have to ,live this way !  

The children of such Parents have no self either, and God only knows where that will lead them. When you have no "Self" your just lost.  

The child who finds themselves in Shannon's position is one who really needs to find someone, or something that will separate them from the abuse she is going through. If she cant, the damage will be so serious that surviving it will be almost insurmountable. She knows there is a serious problem that will arrest her development..hopefully someone who saw the show acne help steer her into a Program that will help.  

As for the Dad and that woman who says shes a Step-Mom......you BOTH need help !  In my opinion, both need a serious intervention from Family services....ggggrrrrr  

I read in horror how Shannon's step mother has treated her and how her dad has turned on her. It is clear that not only did nobody help this girl grieve the passing of her mother but they rubbed it in her face by having someone move in and marry her dad within a year.  

for the dad ... shame on you for not being there for your daughter and for being the kind of person you are accusing your daughter of being. it is clear your daughter has valid hurt feelings and that you have done nothing but add to her pain.  

shannon - the best thing you can do for yourself is to put your nose to the grindstone, do well in school, get a job and move on with your life. know it is not about you, that your dad has failed your miserably and that your step mother doesn't deserve to be a part of your life. your best revenge will be to go on to lead a healthy and prosperous life.