Topic : 08/02 "I Love Myself!"

Parents are clearly from the 50's.  Total denial of everything.  Shannon needs to be perfect in order for them to accept and love her.  What happened to a parents unconditional love.  I realize that it's been very hard for them, but I never heard her father or step-mother say that they love her.  She's gone through hell and I'm sure that the parents never actually sat down with her and asked how she's feeling.  She's 15 and acts like a normal teenager, unlike her sister who will probably conform to whatever the world wants her to belive or her parents.  This step-mother will never take the place of Shannon's real mother.  Did she ever ask Shannon if she could join the family?

oh and everyone must be like you in your perfect little crowded home?  how about - you were not there - you did not see Shannon's early life - you don't pass judgments ...

I can't beleive what I'm hearing!!   I have been involved in a couple of Step families!!!  What is wrong with the step mother and the father.  How can he sit there a act that the daughter is the problem..!!   Please Dr. Phil  - Tell the parents how wrong they are!!!!  Tell the Step Mother to leave!!!!

I feel sorry for the gal because "the family" is acting like really rude and psycho and not giving her any chance. The step monster will NEVER give her a chance so I hope that gal eventually when she is older marries a man and moves OUT OF STATE and enjoy her happy life elsewhere. I 

m not sure therapy will help the father in his brain to be normal and ACTUALLY LOVE HIS DAUGHTER...instead he lies to her and leaves her in Mexico for a year!!!(HOW CAN YOU EXPECT HER NOT TO TRUST AND BE NICER TO STRANGERS THAN YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!)   

I had 2 step monsters and totally understand where that gal (forgot her name) is coming from. I live out of state with my husband and daughter and we are very happy out here and away from "the family's" crap. GOOD LUCK IN LIFE.......... 

Try to focus and get other hobbies to help keep you sane from your families crap. I performed stand-up comedy for a few years.......

As I watched the show today, I could not help but to think about the father of Shannon. I wonder where I would be today if I had treated my boys the same way. As a young widow, with young children I know that children and adults grieve very differently. I know if I had even thought of bringing  in another "parental" figure into my house my children would  act just like Shannon does, they do not they are well adjusted little boys.They are little boys who are able to show emotions and move on like every other boys. Shannon needed stability and safety and her father gave her a reason to distrust him and his wife....   

   

I am sorry this father was unable to hear Dr. Phil because if he had he would of heard that as a parent  we can only do what we think is "right" at the time. The opportunity is to receive the knowledge to be a better parent. That was what Dr. Phil had offered. I would hate to be Shannon  on the flight home.....I  hope this family is able to address their grief and use that grief to learn to love each other.  

I am not taking sides at all, but just saw the part where the step-mother had to throw in about Shannon's grades at a time when it wasn't appropriate at all.  It just seemed as though the friend saying there was no problem in 4 months of Shannon living with their family (other than normal teen problems)...that the wicked (sorry, but it really looks this way now) step-mother wanted to throw something negative in to the picture--again. 

  

It does not seem that Shannon's father has a mind of his own, but seems that Hillary controls him.  

It seems like Robert is somewhat of a wimp and needs to put his daughter first & should have when she was 15! 

  

I DID NOT like at all the smart laugh from the step-mother when you, Dr. Phil, asked why she felt the need to mention a grade point average at that point. 

  

I think it is absolutely not positive parenting to lie to a child and throw her in a school in Mexico!!  Funny to hear this school is now closed!   

  

I was a single parent with a strong willed male child and did NOT have any major problems.  Had the typical teenage problems, but we worked through it. 

  

These people are NOT treating Shannon as a person! 

  

I cannot believe that the father & step-mother are NOT taking any responsibility for this!  The Step-Mother needs to NOT be the person to set rules!  I wonder if the father let Hillary control everything. 

  

Dr. Phil...I do NOT think that Shannon has conned you at all; I've seen too many of your shows and your not a person to be conned.   

  

Hillary needs to get a clue!!! 

  

  

 Where do i start?!  This is just insane.  Are these parents just that oblivious to the fact that they have created this "monster"?? They are in a serious state of denial, and Dr. Phil i cant believe u didnt lay into them as much as they needed u 2!  To the parents, u need to wake up and crawl out of the little fantasy that you have no ownership in this situation. Stepmom, u have no idea what you're doing to this girl, and quite frankly, i dont think you even care!  Dad, you are driving your daughter away from you, which seemed to be the goal anyways. You are being so damn selfish, u dont even deserve to have either child in your life. Stepmom and Dad: did you not hear what Dr. Phil was saying? He laid it out there for you in plain english, and even painted a few pictures, but you just looked away as if he was talkin in jibberish. You people are just too arrogant  to admit what you two have done wrong. You have centered your whole outlook on being the victim. Dad, u definately have created a bad situation for your children, and made it worse by bringing this woman into your life. If there was a problem with you and your daughter's relationship, that should've been mended before you brought another obsticale into the situation.  To Shannon, don't give them a reason to treat you like crap.  I would strongly suggest changing your childish behaviour, that way the real idiots are in plain view.  Once you've mastered that, move far away from the family that continues to push you away. You can start a new life with less anger and resentment being held against you. Good luck to you!

I am so angry I could spit nails. Dr. Phil did miss a lot in his own words "by a country mile". I have a daughter that was diagnosed with NPD along with several other PDs at age 15 by several different doctors and quite frankly he did not fairly see the family's side. Perhaps the parents were negative, but after you spend time with a person that literally drains all the emotion, joy and hope out of a situation, it is very hard to be positive on any aspect. When you are dealing with an NPD you are ALWAYS waiting for the other shoe to drop and the only relief you have is when they are not around. Yes, it is sad for the person afflicted with NPD, that they are not wanted for very long in any setting, but lets have some empathy for the poor family that has to deal with a manipulative person. It gets old and there are few resources to help people in situations like this. I think Dr. Phil missed the mark by such a long shot that he should readdress this disorder and instead of fight the family that already lives in hell, give people some options on how to deal with the problem and people will actually be able to use.

Unfortunately this poor girl is never going to get relief from these parents. You can tell by the fathers response to Dr. Phil that he is not going to believe anything a Doctor says that would remotely say that there could be anything but the girl is a demond child.  I think he and that "step-mother" are awful.  For her to refer to one child as her daughter and this child as his child is horrible!  To drop her off at that school in Mexico is awful.  That girl will never be treated fairly in that household and will never have peace in that family.