Topic : 08/02 "I Love Myself!"

What is wrong with you????  Your not serious, right???      The parents need to be locked me for child abuse!!!  If feel deeply sorry for your step child!!!   Do the child a favor and get out of their lives!!!  It makes you wonder whose the grown up in these situations, apparently not the person who wrote this email !!!!!

I agree with you 100 %.  I feel for shannon.  She has lost not only her mother but her father as well.  Her father is clueless.  If she was having anger issues at 4 yrs old then you should have sought out help for her then.  Loseing a family member is hard on anyone.  But to lose your mother at such a young age and have her replaced so quickly.  THat is a shame.  And why is the Stepmonster making all the rules for Shannon.  Just because she isn't a kiss up like the other sister she gets dropped off at a school.  All the stepmonster wants is to get rid of Shannon. 

I do agree with some people about Shannon's actions and I do believe that she has owned up and taken responsiblity for them.  But the Dad and Stepmonster are CLUELESS!!!   HOw they could sit there and say they don't understand why she acts out and the other sister is ok is SICK.   I feel for you Shannon and I hope you are able to find love and happieness that you deserve. 

  This show was a sad disappointment and really had nothing to do with NPD.  

  

 It was about a dysfunctional family and how they fueled each other into being less than they could be. 

Step mom and dad were so blind they couldn't see the forrest for the trees.  Shannon was a selfish moody little jerk who is fueled by all the controversy and has no incentive to give up her behavior.  All the people in this show need therapy and to get over themselves!!! 

  

LAME! 

  

There needs to be a show on NPD!!  The real thing....The dangers, the causes, the red flags examples of people who have it!...the whole kit and kaboodle!! 

  

Ns are tremendous abusers that profoundly impact the people around them in a multitude of ways...it is a scarey thing!!! 

  

Come ON, DR PHIL, get with the program and address the real deal!!! 

  

  

  

  

 I have never even imagined such a blatant example of someone playing the role of a "step-mom" but is actually human garbage. Her vile attitude needs to be turned in on herself. Thank God Dr. Phil will be able to give that poor girl the tools to start to dig out of this sad situation.

The father should be so ashamed!!!! What is that horrible person's excuse for removing the deceased cancer victim's pictures from the house? OMG, stone her now!!!!!

What a misleading topic name.  It had nothing remotely to do with loving oneself.  Further, it had nothing to do with Narcissistic Personality Disorder which is the topic I was tuning in for.  Perhaps it should have been titled "Blended family disasters."  Also, if Shannon's behaviors pre-date her bio mom's death, perhaps she is a "demon seed."  Borderline Personality Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder could also be looked into.  As for the parents, the father is weak and whipped by that so-called "wife" of his - what a wretch!

Wow...Talk about the 'Evil Stepmother'! personified. And the Dad...talk about brainwashed...and not being able to have a thought of his own! There were two people on this show who were narcissistic...and Shannon wasn't one of them.

   

I hope you dont feel like all these negative posts about the step mom are anything like your situation and I'll tell you why. You have said something that is so important, that the step mother on the show never...ever once said.... "We need help..." If she had said that, even once, it would have changed alot of peoples opinions......Take care.  

   

After seeing the show today I feel that while Shannon is out of control based on the tapings we saw there is also some emotional baggage and damage that she is experiencing.  Her father seems to have been so busy between grieving the loss of her mother his wife/widow and finding a replacement mom that he missed his mark in taking a break from relationships with a woman for himself and deal with the healing of his daughter.     

   

I wonder did he ever stop to think that with her mother dieing of cancer this is obviously no easy thing to deal with for adults let alone children in their early teens but the questions would be how long had Shannon been allowed to be "disrespectful" in general towards her parents BEFORE the cancer and if she was not that way before her mother was diagnosed then why didn't he get her some counseling during her mother's illness in order to prepare her in the best possible way to face life without her mother?    

   

It's not easy to loose a parent at any age and when you do and then have the only parent you have left more involved and interested in finding a mate to replace that loved one so soon it brings out anger, rage, disrespect and so on.  I feel that the step-mother is ABSOLUTELY UNBELIEVEABLE!  She obviously has no TRUE mother love or instincts because if she did, she would've known coming into that relationship that Shannon needed love, SPACE and TIME to heal and adjust.    

   

But she was being self-centered as well by coming in trying to fill shoes that were not meant for her to wear and then take over.  WRONG MOVE!  There's so much more I could say but I will pray for this family and hope that they truly follow Dr. Phil's advise and start the healing process in order to move forward as a family unit.  

These parents take no responsibility for anything.  How dare that father be so spineless as to let this woman treat his daughter this way.  My husband was murdered 5 months ago and we have two young children, 7 and 11.  I would never put a man ahead of my children.  My children are the absolute most important aspect of my life.  I do not know how anyone can loose a spouse and begin dating so soon after, let alone moving the new lover into the home.  I know it's the furthest thing on mind is dating, just because my husband is dead, I am still very much in love with him.  This poor young woman feels like her mother didn't count in her father's life and that he has now chosen another woman over her.  He has his "new" family and they just through her away.  I know Dr. Phil is trying to help but I personally think that this young woman needs to get far away from her family.  They are only going to cause her further pain because I don't think this is a misconception on her part, I think they figure either she can accept Mommie Dearest are she doesn't belong in the family.  I think her father is a pitiful excuse for a parent.

This girl has got it going on about NPD!  If you haven't read her post about today's show, please do so. I would love to know where she found this information; it is awsome!  There is also another post I saw about the possibility of Shannon having Histrionic Personality Disorder.  I have my psychology textbook in front of me as I type, and I would be much more inclined to agree with the Histrionic diagnosis rather than the Narcissistic.  People with Histrionic PD, in layman's terms, are drama queens or kings that can appear - at first -  to be  

very friendly and loving.  As the relationship matures, the histrionic will become increasingly more demanding.  Also, like many other brain disorders, histrionic and narcissistic have many symtoms in common; so, it is very difficult to make a diagnosis right off the bat.  Dr. Phil was correct in not  

giving a firm diagnosis for Shannon on today's show.  The whole family needs professional help.  

It was tragic telling Shannon that the family was going on vacation and then taking her to an institution.  There is plenty of blame to go around in this case.