Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I don't know if this has been brought up already, but *no one* held a gun to either one of their heads and demanded they have sex *without* protection -- that's the risk you take if you behave in that manner sexuallly...and EVEN if you do use protection, there is always that chance a pregnancy can result. Bottom line -- if you don't want any unplanned children, be SMART about it..use something (and even use a back up form of birth control) or, don't have SEX ! Real simple.   

Both of them did have choices, and it's too bad that both adults here couldn't have come to some sort of agreement, instead of resorting to what's going to end up being a very nasty legal battle...and I feel very sorry for this little girl...what's she going to think when she grows up ? She's going to have a LOT of questions...and no doubt, some very hurt and angry feelings toward this man. I can only hope her mother can find someone down the road who will act like a real father toward her.   

It's a shame this has to come down to a legal battle....and sadly, I think the one who's going to end up losing the most is that sweet little baby.   

I agree with the fact that THE choice is made when a couple commits the act which creates a baby. If no baby is wanted, abstinence is the ONLY answer. (Every other method is unreliable, and abortion is MURDER. )  After that, if there is conception, both parties are responsible!  

  Matt is a very irresponsible young man!!!What a beautiful child and she looks just like Matt.I understand that he does not want to be a father at this time.well there is a very easy solution to this problem"DON"T PUT IT WHERE IT DOESN't  Belong" 

   None the less the beautiful baby is here so deal with it and be glad that God chose you to be her father.If you ever lose a child like we did you would be pleased to have one. 

   Thank you, 

                    Helen
 

    This man didn't want to be a daddy, if that was the case, he should have kept his plumbing in his pants. Whether or not the woman in question could or could not have children, when you make the decision to have sex, you make the decision to take all responsibility for what ever comes (pregnacy, std's, or what ever). God created us with the tools to procreate. We also need to remember that sex is for the MARRIAGE BED and not the search for the conquest. 

      This man needs to either get over it and raise his child, or not have sex until he is married. 

       Children bring joy to one's life that can never be descibed, only experienced. 

    By the way, his lawyer is a complete idiot. 

I am a father of 4 and grandfather of 11...  My four childred are from two different mothers, two each...  In both divorces I was granted custody of the kids...  The first time because my first wife and I lost our first daughter to Crib Death in 1969, and then she had two back to back tubal pregnancies and got extremely depressed and wanted out of the marriage and asked me to take the boys...  I was glad to do so even though at the time I was in the Military and it almost cost me my carrier, but it all worked out...   

My second wife and I had two children, son and daughter...  When we divorced we agreed to share custody, with my son staying with me and the other boys, and the daughter living with her...  She ended up in an abusive relationship, and six months later she asked me to take the daughter which I was glad to do...   

My problem is that in both cases I was never asked about, or was offered any child support from either exwife...  Yet when its the woman is left with the responsibility of raising the child or children its the first thing that comes up...   

This is why this story about the young man who feels his rights were violated hits close to home with me...  I hope that he wins his case, and that people wake up...  Women have fought hard for equal rights under the law, and although we are not totally there yet, fair is fair...   

Jim