Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I find this whole issue aggravating.  I can't believe that this issue has come up for discussion.  I am watching Dr. Phil at the moment and I want to comment on the man who doesn't want to take responsibility for his new baby girl.  He feels that he has doesn't have the same rights as his baby's mother and that he should have those rights.    

I agree with Dr. Phil when he commented on that man and woman making a conscious decision to have sex.  That always comes with a risk for consequences.  There is always a chance no matter what (besides abstinence) that a woman can become pregnant with sex.  When any two people have sex they must keep this in mind.  I've been with my husband for 9 years and we have been having sex for about 8 of those years and never once did I get pregnant until we TRIED for our first baby.  That was because we used condoms and I was on the pill.  But, even still we knew that it could happen and were prepared every month just in case pregnancy did occur anyway.  It would have been a very, very slim chance, but nonethless, a chance anyway.  If that man didn't want to have a baby, he should have taken the reigns and put on a condom despite the fact that his partner was on birth control.    

My other opinion is over equal rights for men and women.  That man complained that the mother of his baby had more rights over whether they would have a child than he did.  They both had the choice when they had sex and yes, she does have more rights as far as whether or not to get an abortion or put the baby up for adoption.  I agree with the man on this aspect.  But, what I do want to say is that he is a man and she is a woman.  We are different.  No matter what anyone says or does, men and women are different.  Not everything can be equal.  A man will never be pregnant or give birth.  A woman will never have testicular cancer.  Our society is so caught up in making everything equal that we forget that maybe somethings can never be equal.  As a man, this father just doesn't have the same rights past having sex.  That's just the way it is. Men and women, in general, should realize that not everything can be the same for both sexes.  Men have the right to wear a condom and have sex and the privilege to choose so.  Women also have the right to wear a condom and have sex and the privilege to choose so but also the responsibility of being pregnant.  Do men have this responsibility?  NO.  A man cannot choose for a woman to have an abortion or give her baby a way.  But technically if they don't want a baby, they have have the right to wear a condom during sex to prevent the pregnancy in the first place.  

Take care of your daughter and stop being so selfish!!  

These were two adults in a commited relationship if she told Matt, that she couldn't get pregnant and/or was on the pill then he had no reason not to believe her.  Why should he have worn a condom she told him in good fatih that it essentially wasn't necessary.   

It is her fault her child doesn't have a father Matt told her in no uncertain terms that he DID NOT WANT CHILDREN!!  Matt is not the bad guy here, children are not for everyone. 

P.S. I am the married mother of two little girls 

     How long have we all gone with most men just taking responsibility for just becoming a father? Years and Years..... I cant believe that just because a young guy that wants to "feel good" at that time and knows that there is still that chance it might have been a small chance but its still there  and still  goes without protection doesn't want to take care of the child that he "donated" sperm to, because he's not ready to be a father is Bullsh*t.  Thats just another way of being a deadbeat dad and he is trying to make it a legal thing. Its stupid i mean all that money that he is paying out for the lawyers and all that should be going to the baby that he helped create. You can never know if you can or cant have kids unless you don't have the equipment to have kids, there are miracles everyday and instead of thinking that its a burden on you  he should think of it as a miracle and I'm sure thats what the mom was thinking when she conceived.  

       Anyone that has gone to school and taken health class  knows that if you take the chance of laying down with anyone with or without proctection there is still that chance of having a child. The only fool-proof way of not having a baby is not having sex at all!!!!  Unreal, the lengths that guys will go to not pay for having a child, and it always seems like its for selfish reasons too they never think of the baby involved.  Its sad really