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Created on : Thursday, April 13, 2006, 01:22:17 pm

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(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep? Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.

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akmhgs

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

Okay Im 19 years old I met my husband when i was 15 years old and we got pregnant. We took responsibility hes 20 and im 19 now and are raising a 21 month old precious girl!! We are both in school. I am majoring in Elementary Education and my husband is majoring in Microbiology and hoping to get accepted into Optometry school. If were doing so good and can take up for our responsibilites i dont see why anyone else cant. I dont beleive in Abortion i think its very very wrong i dont care what situation your in unless its in any harm to the child or the mother, but there are so many people in this world that cant have children and would do whatever it took to adopt. He needs to step up to the plate and take responsiblity for his child. I mean come on its your flesh and blood. Children are what people live for. Even people think they are so responsible to have Unprotected Sex or sex at that they need to stand up and be a Man. He makes himself look very low . It really shows what a person people really are when they cant even be there for their child. I think that the girl needs to do whatever she can do to keep child support from him. IF he cant be there for the child he at least needs to pay for what he has brought into this world.

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

He had a choice

I don't think that I have ever heard of such a selfish individual. Perhaps he did not want to be a father, but that is the risk that Matt took when he chose to have sex - protected or not - there is no guarantee. And because he did not want to be a father, he is willing to walk away from an innocent little child, who didn't ask to be born? It is a hard lesson to learn that you don't always get what you want. Next time he should think twice about doing the deed.

As for Mel, I guess we should all be thankful that he does not have children since he is not even clear on what consensual sex means. Simply put, if you choose to have sex, then you assume all the risks involved - and these days, there is far more than pregnancy to worry about. Ask someone who contracted HIV through unprotected sex if that is what they consented to, and see what the answer is.

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

what is this world coming to

a man well i dont think that he should be called that said that he doesnt want to be a father then like many others he shouldnt have had sex! it is that simple sex was designed not only for pleasure but als for the reproduction of the human race! i know what it is like to be a single mother not receiving child support and having a deadbeat for a father of my son! my son is now 18 months old and i have not received a dime! and now for this issue to come up it makes me sick to my stomache! if they can lie down with a women knowning that sex results in a baby then try to use to constitution to back out of paying it shouldnt be i do think that there will be a epidemic of the deadbeat father tryoing to get out of paying their support!

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

Baby wars

I don't believe that it is a baby war but parent war instead. Also if a man doesn't want a baby unless he says so then he better not have sex at all. Al so what gives him the right after the child is born to say he isn't going to help because he had NO say in having the child. DON'T HAVE SEX THEN.

Linda

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

innocent children

How could you deny a child, no matter the situation she is yours and she is innocent, be a man and take your responsibility like a man not like a whimp. It is a shame that people like you are even allowed to reproduce, so many people would love to be parents and here you are having the mircale of life that God has trusted you with and you throw it away. Go get a VACECTOMY!!!

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

Baby Wars

The only 100% effective form of birth control is to abstain from sex. If you are not willing to abstain then there is a risk you will become a parent. Risk equals possibility and possiblity equals responsibility.

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

Men not wanting to be fathers

I don't blame a man who does not want to be a father. I also know that there are ways that HE can avoid it, abstance is the best. Keep your hormones in check & remember if you don't want to pay, then don't play. NO child asks to be born!

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

women have the right.....

women have more of a right then a man when it comes to having kids because women are the ones that have to carry them ...... now if the men had the right and the women didn't ... women would have to carry babies against their will..... ok matt said he didn't want to be a father yet well then he should of worn protection to make sure she wouldn't get pregenet ..... now if it was a woman that didn't want to have kids and the man did... then what would he and she do???? ..... i just think since we women are the ones that have to carry the baby then we have more right ... but yeah its not right to get pregenet knowing the man didn't want kids yet .... yes women have the right to be able to carry a baby whenever they are ready to but we also have to make sure the man is ready

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

Wake up and smell the coffee, Matt...

...you are a father! You can't undo this, you have to deal with reality, here. The child exists! Do you really think the courts are going to side with you? They are going to tell you that you are an adult, and can take care of yourself. But, this child's rights will exceed yours. She can't take care of herself. The real problem in your head, is that you think you are paying the mother. Get over it! $500 a month doesn't begin to assist your child in living. It doesn't even pay for her childcare, while Mom has to work to put food on the table, and a roof over her head. Grow-ups can choose what they want from life, from housing to playthings; but babies HAVE to have baby food and formula, and diapers, etc.

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April 21, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

THANK YOU!

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Matt is a very immature person. If he wasn't ready to be a father, he should NOT have been having sex at all. Nothing is 100 percent protection except ABSTAINANCE. He is a very selfish, immature jerk, who is trying to capitalize on his lack of morals. If he would have saved himself until marriage, he more than likely wouldn't been in this situation.

Nothing is 100%, except NOT HAVING SEX.

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