Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

He was man enough to have sex with her... So he should be man enough to help take care of this baby.... How does he know that she didn't lie about not having kids... Maybe the Doctors and the test were wrong... That does happen.... I just want to tell him to his face be a man and help...  

I'm a married man that was living with my wife before marriage and had a child. I didn't feel I was ready to be a father at first was scared and nervous. but I stayed around I chose to take the chance and I feel that its not my right to tell her that she has to do anything to her body. and I feel that the mind is part of the body and for me to say hey you have to give this kid up is violating her just as much as if she said I am giving the kid up you have no say is to me. I feel that if you take the chance you take the responsibility. I think more people and I do mean people not men or woman people need to take the responsibility of there actions and live with the consiquinses  

Are you people insane or simply cruel.  Does the term "Crib Death" mean anything to you?  

I can understand the parents not wanting a child in bed with them, but a BABY?  

I had no problem with my kids.  1. When they were tiny (nb - 7 or 8 months) they were in their crib right beside my bed.  Gradually I moved each one out.  It took me ~a month or two.  I left their door open and the light in the hallway on.  They could hear me.  If they were very upset, I went to them.  

2. I would NOT let a baby cry for even one hour, let alone any longer than that.  AND I would never even think of letting a nursing/bottle baby alone in a room with the door closed.  My second born would stop breathing occasionally thoughout the night.  I would wake automatically and rub her back through the crib slits and she would start breathing again.  How could anyone do that if the baby was in another room with the door shut?  

3.  As for the pacifier fights I've witnessed...I just don't know what to say.  I gave my kids a pacifier and when I needed a few moments to warm up something for them or they were simply overtired, I would make sure they had it.  At 8 months each, my kids threw the pacifier across the room and refused to ever have it again.  I know, I was a working mom and I tried to give it back to them, no go.  

My kids are healthy and have kids of their own.  I have no complaints about their behavior, especially when I see what other familys go through.  

Honestly people, most animals know how to raise their offspring, but humans??????????  

As for listening to doctors, don't you have a mind of your own?  Use some common sense!  My doctor I listen to when I need medical advice.  When my doctor (unsolicited advice here) told me to bottle feed instead of nurse, I told him um hum,,,,yeah and then went home and nursed.  I honestly don't know how bottle feeding moms do it...stumbling around in the night, knocking into things and by the time the bottle is warm, the kid's asleep and the mom is awake.  It's soooo much easier nursing, just turn over and grab the kid.  My heart goes out to those moms who can't nurse. 

Here's the flip side of the coin. What about fahters who want to be dads but as another member stated, can't pay the pimp fees to see his children?   

Woman can't legally keep fathers away from their children but they do all the time due to arrears owing. New relationships. Or just plain moodiness. This to is wrong. NON- EQUAL RIGHTS!  

As a former single mother of twelve years I am at liberty to say the following about women: if you can't afford to raise a child on your own then you should not crawl into bed in the first place, never ever expect a man to either pay or help raise a child should you get pregnant but if he should choose to have a relationship with that child you can't and shouldn't make him pay to be a parent.  

If Matt doesn't want to be a "Dad" and there's a difference between dads and fathers than he shouldn't have to be. (anyone can be a father but it takes a real man to be a DAD) He should be able to give up his parental rights just like a mother can. EQUAL RIGHTS!