Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Uh, I think you're the one who needs to "hold on there".  What Mom do you know who is completely done with her "burden" -- physical or otherwise -- after simply giving birth?  Their work is just beginning!  Every day that child needs -- food, love, interaction, bathing, doctor visits, schooling, sports activities, reading, care when ill, religious education, etc., etc., etc.  (Many of these needs require a great deal of physical activity on Mom's part to accomplish!)  And just because her child turns 18, she won't EVER stop being his or her "Mom"! 

So as to "who bears greater consequenses?  The one who steps up to the plate and takes the entire responsibility of the life these two people created.  If Matt Dubay was that adament about not wanting "the consequences" he should have taken his "responsibility" seriously and used his own birth control (condom) rather than expecting someone else to do it for him.  This act is his reproductive right -- but with rights come responsibility and he must now accept his and support his beautiful daughter! 

I heard about this case awhile back when it first hit the headlines, and my initial reaction was:  this guy is either totally naive or a total jerk.  I mean, come ON.  Most of us have heard stories about men who wind up as fathers after their girlfriends tell them, "Oh I can't get pregnant, I'm on the pill."  It's gotta be the oldest trick in the book.  Surely it must've occurred to Matt that this could possibly happen to him too?  I also learned way back in 6th grade sex ed class that abstainance is the ONLY 100% guarantee against pregnancy.  Perhaps Matt wasn't paying attention back then?  

I appreciate Dr. Phil devoting time to this issue on his show and asking this guy (and his lawyer) some hard questions.  I don't know what kind of loophole in the law they're going to use to back their case, but when I was taking tort law classes as part of my degree, we learned that mitigation of damages is a huge part of the plaintiff's case.  He's got to prove that he did everything possible in his power to minimize his risk.  If Matt had been wearing a condom, then yeah, maybe he'd have an argument...but he wasn't.  He didn't take any action, he just sat back and said, "Oh, well, I told her I didn't want to be a father."  As if he had no control over it.  

As far as women having all the post-conception choices...hmmm, I wonder, if Matt had been the one who was pregnant and carrying that child, would he have made the choice to terminate?  Or give the child up for adoption?  Dr. Phil was so right when he said that we don't know what we're going to do in a situation until we're faced with it. Sometimes things look unfair from the outside, but you just try walking a mile in their shoes...  

I think the biggest tragedy of all is this child who will grow up knowing that her father never cared for her.  She didn't ask to be born, she didn't sign up for this, yet she is paying the price.  I hope and pray that someone will come into her life who is a true father figure.  Matt is right about one thing, he's not her father.  He's just a sperm donor.  

Finally, I love how Matt's lawyer commented that Matt is a great guy and will be a great father one day.  Yeah, that's assuming there are any women left out there who would want to have a sexual relationship with a guy who is now *infamous* for shirking responsibility and rejecting his own child.  Maybe there is justice in the world after all.  :-)   

This is a perfect example of man hating sexism. Lets consider adding one key point to women's slogan regards abortion: 

" Her body, her choice... HER *responsibility* ! " 

In an age where women have MANY means to void legal parenthood, POST coitally, it is nothing more and nothing less than man hating sexism to DENY men any such legal rights. 

Lets remember that abortion ISN'T a natural thing, that Legal Abandon Laws ( In 40+ states now ) 

AREN'T natural things, and so on.  

Either men should get legal post coital choices or women should have such post-coital choices 

as men get right now: NONE. 

Anything else is pure misandrous sexism. Ptui. 

Oh, one more point to the sow who posted this sexism: Men do the lion's share of the work that keeps society running. When women are ready to do *as much and as well*, then maybe equal 

rights at work might be tolerated. Hows you like that ?