Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I agree with you 100%!!  I pray that you and your child will be blessed a thousand times over -- so that the abuse you suffered will no longer have a hold over you!!   

YOU GO, GIRL!! 

Take care and God Bless!! 

I may be a minority in this I know, BUT I have, for a long time I have felt as though the child bearing issue was extremely one sided.  (and Yes, I have children of my own!)  

Women have ALL the rights when it comes to having children.      

Courts automatically presume that women are the better suited parent.      

If a woman gets pregnant and does not want a child, she has options (yes abortion or adoption).  Men have NO options.      

The BIG issue here is that she lied! - If a woman tells a man she cannot bear children then she alone should have the responsiblity of the child IF he does not want children.  She should have kept her mouth shut!    

If a man decides that he does not want children he should have that option.  Along with that option, he should also have to sign a legal document stating that he will never have contact with that child and if he should decide to (later in life) then he should have to pay back 100% of the assessed support for the child.    

If he chooses to step up and do what the law (now) states he should do, he should (perhaps) be able to claim that child as a tax deduction at the very least (which does not always happen).    

A woman can decide that she does not want "her" child to see its father- whether out of spite or concern.  A man must then go to court, if he chooses, to get that right.    

With ALL that said!  I do not EVER think this lawsuit will go anywhere.  It would set a precedence     

that would have men in court from now till dooms day!  I think their opinions would NOT be based on whether the issue is right or wrong, I think it will be solely based on the repercussions it would have on past, present and future cases.  

wrong.  You are obviously a man.  Pregnancy BY DEFINITION is a condition that takes minerals out of a woman's body to create the baby.  Gestational diabetes can happen without warning.  So can Pre-eclampsia where the blood pressure of the woman goes through the roof and she is then in danger of proceeding to eclampsia which is a FATAL condition if not caught early and the fetus/baby delivered quickly.  Regardless of medical advances, pregnancy can still be a very dangerous condition to a seemingly healthy woman.  Women still DIE IN CHILDBIRTH from placental abruption, placentas which attach too deeply and pull the uterus inside out after birth, the uterus can refuse to "firm up" after delivery which leads to hemmorhage and other complications that CAN NOT BE PREDICTED.  What you're saying is if the man wants the baby and the woman doesn't you want a court to FORCE her to carry to term and risk her health and life?  Men are never placed in danger of health and/or life by the conception and carrying to term of a baby.  As a woman who IS currently pregnant the idea of the things that CAN go wrong scare the daylights out of me!  Pregnancy is not quite as dangerous as it used to be - but it can still unexpectedly cause a major hazard to women's health and lives and NO PERSON can predict when or if something will go wrong so NO PERSON can compel someone to continue a condition that CAN cause lasting damage and possibly death.  BTW - there are also consequences possible in a healthy pregnancy such as urinary incontinence which would then have to be surgically corrected. 

Medicine will be able to allow men to carry babies to term in the furture.  The technology is coming.  There is a case in England where a woman carried a baby OUTSIDE of her uterus for 8 months and delived via c-section.  When that happens, I fully expect "baby transplants" to become viable options for those men who want kinds when the woman doesn't.  Until that day - MEN have no right to dictate what happens to WOMEN'S bodies.  The idea of allowing this is morally, medically and ethically repugnant. 

Why doesn't the "forced" father just sign his rights away? If he has no legal claim to the child then he shouldn't have to pay child support. If he is seeking visitation, then he should just shut up and foot the bill. I don't know what state they are from but I am from TX, and in TX you can sign your rights away or have your wages garnished.  

Matt's take on this can only be called excessive irresponsibility.  What if the question was not about becoming a parent, but HIV, herpes, or some other STD?  If you're going to pull you pants down, you have to assume responsibility for what happens next.  Only you are responsible for your actions!     

Don't blame the woman.  This situation is certainly akin to a "blame the rape victim" scenario and simply turns my stomach.  I'm sure she didn't step into the bedroom thinking "I want to be a young single mother."  Grow up Matt!   

Oh, and the lawyer is an idiot.   

I usually would never take the time to write a letter, however this subject deserves one!  I want to know why the baby does not have any rights.  No one asked her to be given a dead beat, selfish, money hungry father!  Matt absolutly had the choice the minuite he decided to have sex.  What,  is no one suppose to take responsability for their own actions?  To Matt I would say watch out!  I can only imagine the number of people that will be fighting your attempt to get out of child support and pass any law that will let all the other dead beat fathers get away with not taking care of their children.  If you knew you didn't want a child you should have spent the five dollars and worn a condom.  It would have saved you a lot of money in the end and I know that is what matters to you! 

What happened to you that you could be so selfish?  I am really sad for you that you have chosen this path.  Your baby will hopefully be ok, as long as you stay away from her.  As beautiful as her mother is she will hopefully marry someone nice and they will be lucky enough to be a father to your little girl.  She is a gift not something you throw away!  As for you,  If you don't want to take part in her life then you should never be allowed to have any other children.  If you get out of paying child support they should make you get snipped;  the rest of us don't want to pay for your bad decisions! 

Please reconsider what you are doing to this sweet baby girl!  I hope the mother will keep you away from her so she never knows you abandoned her~