Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

you got this perfect whoever is above me! and the man(or little boy in this case )DID have a choice, by having sex or not, by wearing protection or not, by gettin fixed or not..   

Losers that try to get out of responsibility  

these men only care for themselves... HELLo this is a human life were talking about...   

you made your choice, it may have happened as a mistake, like my pregnancy did... But my twin girls are the best thing that has ever happened to me, i dont love them because i have to! i love them with all my heart because they are a part of me, and bring so much happiness and joy in my life  

get a clue assholes...  

keep it in your damn pants!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

In regards to the Roe vs. Wade debate--legally, I think he is actually correct. Morally, I think he is 100% incorrect. Okay fine, he didn't get the choices she did, but now there is an existing child that needs his love and support. Many women that plan to give a child up for adoption quickly change their minds once they meet that child. If he were to actually meet his child, he too would probably feel the need to protect and love her. 

okay i might understand if he had worn a condom and it failed,but he gave up his rights when he decided to go at it without it.yes women have choices, but do we have a choice when we are in a commited relationship and the man or boy in most cases takes off and we end up alone. honestly if he truely was adament about not being a father he would a worn a condom. not to bag on fellow females but some aren't always truthful about birth control. he should have listened to the big head and abstained then he wouldn't have to be going through this at all. 

I am married and have 2 wonderful children.  I cant imagine my husband not wanting our children.    

REGARDLESS if you want children or NOT if you have sex and get pregnant you stand up like a man and take care of your child.  It doesn't take one person to get pregnant it takes two.  I dont care whether or not you planned it.  If you are old enought to think you are to have sex you are old enough to take care of the child.  So,  quit pouting that you have a child and realize that a child is a blessing from God and He obviously thinks that you are ready or you wouldn't have a child.  

Maybe that is God's wake up call on you.  I feel sorry for your parents since they had a child like you.  What if they just gave you up to someone else.  How would you feel?  Oh I am sorry you must not have a heart Right??  

Besides all of the moral and ethical obligations that Matt has to his baby, I'd like to address his legal defense. Matt suggests that he wasn't given the right to decide whether to have baby. I think that and his attorney should look at how children of divorced are handled according to the court's perspective. Althought I am not an attorney, it is my understanding, that unless parents who are divorcing are able to present to the court that they agree that they should have join custody, then generally one parent is awarded custody. That parent is the legal custodian of the parent. The other parent who is not the legal custodian is unable to make mulitple decisions regarding to the unbringing of that child, i.e. religous education, participation in extra curricular events and the ultimate day-to-day responsibilities of that child reside with the legal custodian. 

In any case, this is somewhat like a divorce /seperation before the birth of the child. I can't imagine the courts awarding the custody of an unborn child to a man. As odd as it sounds, while the child is in womb, at the very least, temporary custody of the child would naturally belong to the mother. 

This all may be way out there. But the bottom line is, that Matt is in the situation that many fathers find themselves in......responsible for their choices, but without much legal authority. It's not the fault of the court. If Matt was so adamant about not wanting a child, there were certainly additional precautions he could have taken. 

It happened to a friend of mine. His girlfriend telling him she was medically unable to get pregnant. And then she did. My friend took the high road trying to be a good father.   

After a year she left him for another man, constanlty aggravates him for money, demeans him and encourages him to have less involvement with the child. She can do whatever she wants witht he child while he is subject to her whims.  

Women have many legal protections and recourses that men do not. There is not equal protection under the law for men on this issue.