Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I only have one question for Mr. Dubay...  

If you do not want to be a dad then why not just sign over your rights to the child?  Then you won't be financially responsible and when the mother finds someone who will love her and the baby then he can adopt her.  The only link you will have is your DNA.  If you did not want to be a dad you should have used a condom EVERY time!  Miracles can always happen and it doesn't matter if the doctors say you can't have a baby and you are on birth control it can still happen, but if you had used a condom every time the exposure of your sperm would have been greatly limited and thus the chances greatly reduced.  The fact that you think you or anyone thinks that men and women could be on equal ground on this issue is insane.  You are not the one with this child inside of you.  You are not the one that feels him or her growing and developing.  You are not the one the grows attached after nine months.  So for you to say that you don't want to be the father and that the baby should be given up is awful.  Have you not thought about the mother and how she feels in this.  Again, if you don't want the responsibility just sign over your rights.  This is a ridiculous case that is a waste of the Supreme Courts time and engry.  Either take responsibility (in whatever way financial or more if you want) or sign over you rights so maybe one day that baby will have a father who will love her without hesitation.  

God does not put a baby on earth for no reason.  Matt needs to grow up and be a man.  He's been put in a position to be resposible and be a real man.  I don't think that he's going to have a problem not being a father again.  What woman in her right mind would want to have sex with him after something like this?  There a roles that men and women have to play in life.  Mothers and fathers are one of them. 

Nothing frustrates me more than watching mothers force the biological father for support and responsibility. If they would just step back they would see...you're better off cutting the ties.  If anything needs to be setup in court, it's that the fathers that wish to not have responsibility to be completely eliminated from any possible future ties.  Sure they should be held responsible but the girl could have also used protection.  If she does not want a baby she can place it up for adoption.  Why can't the man have the same choice.  Do you really want that child growing up knowing that his father's wallets there because you made him?  And that's all it's about..the money.  He will never emotionally be there.  You truly do not want a man in your child's life that has those feelings.  But there does need to be something done thru the courts so that the father does not come back 10 yrs and suddenly want to bond.  I feel if you can't step up to the plate now, you can't wait until the financial responsibilities are passed THEN step up.  Or better yet, if they want in their life, tally up what he would have been responsible for and send him the bill.  He can visit when he pays the bill.  Again I feel you really don't want this influence in your child's life.  Women need to stop clinging to the hope that "he'll come around if just plays with the baby".  You both were responsible for conceiveing the child.  You chose to take ON the responsiblity.  And good for you!  Now enjoy raising your child to be the person you hope for them to be.