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Created on : Thursday, April 13, 2006, 01:22:17 pm

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(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep? Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.

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mtigerlily

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April 21, 2006, 7:34 am PDT

Equal Rights

Women have fought for years for equal rights. It amazes me that so many women will deny the men in their lives equal rights after our own struggle. If a man believes that there is no possibility for a pregnancy, and has informed his partner that he does not want to parent then a decision has been made. If she becomes pregnant and chooses to keep the child, then that is her choice but the man should not be held responsible. As a women in my 20's, I know women who get pregnant to trap men into a relationship. It is a gross practice, but it happens. Currently men have no protections against this type of entrapment. I personally hope that Mike's trial goes all the way to the Supreme court and then men are given the same choices in parenting that women are.

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mybucks06

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April 21, 2006, 7:34 am PDT

Oh Please...

Oh come one....that woman needs to kick that man to the curb. She can do bad on her own why fight with someone who clearly does not want to be involved. They were having sex and they both should know how babies are made regardless of what she said he should take percautions on his end. My dad did not want to be involved in anything with me and my mom did a wonderful job raising me on her own. So..I say screw him! Pregnancy will never be equal....a woman carries the child for 9 months and has to experience everything that comes with it once a man does that then I suppose women will be equal to men!!!!!!

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April 21, 2006, 7:35 am PDT

Don't put down all men

Not all men avoid their parental rights. My husband has been fighting for his parental rights for 11years now. Because the mother chose to trap another man when he asked for a DNA test after the baby was born. He has taken care of his daughter from her birth and found out he was not listed on the birth certificate when she was about 6 after seeing her name on a prescription bottle. The mother refuses to get anything fixed and is reeping the rewards of receiving child support from one man and us providing clothing, shoes, haircuts and other financial stability. Why is she permitted to get away with this??? IT IS FRAUD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not to mention the emotional instability it causes the child. Now I know all about dead beat dads. My oldest daughter is a victim of this cercumstance. But she is lucky enough to have my husband to stand in and provide for her. I live both ends of the spectrum on a daily basis. I don't neccessarily agree with Matts situation. But I do agree that Men do not have rights when it comes to the eyes of the law and it is wrong!!!!!!!!!!

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April 21, 2006, 7:35 am PDT

Roe vs Wade for men

Women don't really have that much of a choice when it comes to pregnancy. Many states are doing everything they can to ban abortion. When a woman gets pregnant and she chooses to either abort or put the baby up for adoption then she is usually told that she should have just refrained from having sex. It is so easy to say oh well you can abort it or put it up for adoption. But after a woman has carried a child for 9 months she becomes attached to it and abortion can take its toll on a woman too. She could spend the rest of her life wondering what if about that child, it has its mental toll. He claimed that she was on the pill at the time but everyone knows that the pill is not 100%. If he didn't want to be a father then he should have just kept it in his pants in the first place. I think that men need to learn how to take responsibility for their actions and not just blame it on the woman. Afterall he took part in it too.

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April 21, 2006, 7:35 am PDT

Baby Wars

This guy needs to suck it up and stop making excuses for his decision. Be a man, he made this baby and now he is dismissing the responsibility from himself and onto his ex-girlfriend. What a weak "man"!! He wants pity...poor him, What about the baby??? Welcome to life, it's not typically all planned out, wouldn't it be nice if we could pick and choose everything we did and didn't want, and when we wanted it and how we wanted it. Give me a break, what world has this guy been living in? Sometimes the best lessons learned and best experiences are those that are not expected. He's missing out!!!

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April 21, 2006, 7:35 am PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

I do agree with Dr phil , This will be a way for dead beat dads to get away with not paying child support.

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April 21, 2006, 7:35 am PDT

dead beat daddys

if men can read then they would see that on the box of condoms that it only works 99.9 % of the time. if you choose not to use the protection then that 99.9% because 0 %.that also works with any kind of pill or whatever a women can use. if men can choose to get into bed with a women "just for sex" then they should choose to big the bigger person and live up to their choices. its not the childs fault that the dad is an @$$. i have a beautiful little four yr old that was concived out of love and we only "just having sex" and i was on the pill and we even used other protection. and you don't see my husbond running scared with his thing between his legs. that man needs to grow up and be a father.

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April 21, 2006, 7:35 am PDT

Men being fathers

If this person didn't want to be a father, he should keep it in his pants. I would hope by now he knows how to make a baby. If he wants to have intercourse without the threat of being a father, then I think he needs to head over to the "other side" of the sexual species.

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April 21, 2006, 7:35 am PDT

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Come on Dr. Phil. Give the man a break. If she decided to have an abortion or put the child up for adoption would he be involved in that decision? NO!!!!!!! He made it very clear to her that he did not want children and she told him she could not have children and that she was on the pill. Why suddenly is he the one that should take all the responsibility for this? She sits there all angelic like and expects him to pay child support and be the good FATHER. Oh please. She knew how he felt and she should shut her trap and take care of her baby. As my mom always told me, "you made your bed now lie in it". Men do not have equal rights when it comes to pregnancy and you know it. I am a woman and I cannot imagine wanting a man in my life or my child's life that did not want to be in it to begin with anyway. And the child support issue is just a means of her just getting attention.

who says that he is taking all of the responsibility she is the one raising and nuturing this child. i feel that he is just a no good loser and i am sorry but even if you are on the pill you can still get pregnant because it happened to me twice. whether he wants to be in the childs life or not he is still financial responsible just as the mother is i agree with another message board legalized dead beat dads what kind of excuse does mattt have for being such a cold hearted sob. this is his child and the whole world is looking at him now thinking what a loser he really is. if he didnt want to have children then he needs to cover it up when hes playing because in the back of everyones mind while having sex should be that the other partner could get pregnant that is the risk that you take. so if your not ready to have children then you should think twice before you have sex. and i think this gyuy should be put in a mental hospital becasue he really has some issues. yes i do feel that men should have a decision but when it comes to the baby already being here and being 8 months old then now its to late for him to be saying that he shouldnt have to pay child support why should the mother be the only one to take care of her.?????????????/

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April 21, 2006, 7:35 am PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

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..I know in a number of states, the biological father *can* sign away his paternal rights....there must be something along those lines in the state where Matt lives where he has this option. If he's so sure he doesn't want to support this child in any fashion, then sign the paperwork and move on.

In most cases the father must show just cause to have his rights released.

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