Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I think parents need to have a place without kids. I try to make are bedroom a sanctuary for us. No toys, very, very limited time with kids in bed (i.e. a couple times a year). The nursery is next door to our room, so there is only 5 feet 6 from my bed to the crib (with a wall & 2 doors inbetwen). When our two boys (now 6 and 2) were newborns, I left the doors open. Now I keep them closed. 

After each child was born our marrige had a rough time. We recently began focusing on each other again. I realized that I had stop making my husband a priority. Since I started making him a priority not only is he happier, but he is making me happier and both of our kids are happier. I had been struggling with our 6 year old, but since we started making our marrige a priority his behavior has gotten much better and he is laughing a smiling more. There is no doubt that having a happy mom and dad makes the boys happy too. 

I'm so tired of men being the villian and women the poor victim in these situations.  Would people be accusing the girl of having "unprotected sex" if she had not been taking the pill while Matt used a condom?  It's considered protected sex if one person is using a reliable form of birth control; and the pill is usually 99.9% effective. 

I agree with Matt.  He was misinformed if not out and out lied to by the girl about her chances of getting pregnant.   He was not given any choices down the line about abortion or adoption.  

It's the woman who has had all the choices, so if a she decides that she is going to have sex before marriage, not get an abortion if she gets pregnant, and not put the baby up for adoption then she should also decide to support that baby herself.  Otherwise, she just might want to [i]get married[/i] before she starts having sex.  Marriage is the tried and true, time honored method of finding out if a man is committed enough to a woman to bear his children.