Quote From: dedwardsDear Dr. Phil,
I am an advid viewer of your show. I record you everyday. I have to admitt you struck a subject that I am passionate about. I have very strong opinions about the rights of women and babies.....and with this new case ......men. I am a wife or 15 years and a mother of two. One child of which was an unplanned pregnancy. I am so tired of hearing about women's rights and their bodies. Babies have no rights at all until they are born. How bizarre is that!! We treat stray puppies in this country better than we treat our unborn children. Some women would not blink twice at having an abortion, but wouldn't kill a stray puppy that they didn't want. As you can guess I do feel that abortion should be illigal, with the exception of rape, incest, and the life of the mother. Women do have the right to choose.....the same choices that men have....before the baby is ever concieved.
I do feel that men and women currently have completely different rights in this area. A man can only control a limited number of factors and they are ALL prior to conception. He has three choices abstenence, condoms, or a vasectomy. ALL other forms of birth control and ALL other options are controlled by the women. Also keep in mind.....when it comes to contraception....the only thing a man can lie about is that he has had a vasectomy or that he is stirile. It is really obvious to the woman whether or not he is using s condom.....Can't exactly lie about that. Virtually ALL forms of birth control for women are "HIDDEN". The pill, the diaphram, spermacides, IUD, etc.....are all internal.....and virtually impossible for the man to be 100% sure that the woman has actually done what she says she has done. Yet if he actually trusts her.....and she has lied...he is still responsible for that child. And remember after conception......he has NO CHOICES about the child. The woman still has multiple choices.
Since the baby is in the woman's body....the father has ZERO say. What if the father actually WANTS the baby.......if the mother chooses to abort..........he has no rights at all to save his own child. Women have all of the control in what happens to his life and his baby after conception. How is this right or legal. IT IS descrimination based on sex. If the mother chooses to keep the child then the father is automatically responsible......WHY????.....Why does ONLY the mother have the right to choose adoption. If and only if the mother decides to give the baby up for adoption, does the father THEN have a new option to fight for custody of the child. It is an amazing double standard that we have put up with for decades.
Just another thought....for those who are pro-choice. If a baby is NOT A LIFE until it is delivered......(especially since late term abortions are still legal in some states)....why was Scott Peterson convicted of the MURDER of his unborn child. Is it only murder if you DON'T have an M.D. behind your name?? You can't have it both ways. Either an unborn child is a life or it is not.......they are not only a life when they are convenient.
Dr. Phil I have to say I was a little disappointed to see that you to placed ALL of the blame on the young man. If he had used a condom consistantly and it had simply failed....would that have made a difference for you.......but even if it had changed your position....it still would be no different for him legally. Even if a man does EVERYTHING right in efforts to avoid pregnancy........if the woman gets pregnant he is still automatically responsible for that child for the rest of his life..........unless of course the WOMAN CHOOSES adoption.
A final thought for all women.......please remember we currently do have this much power over a man's life. Be wise, be responsible and honest with your partners and spouses. Be pro-choice PRIOR to the conception of a child. After all,........after conception....your life and the man's life will never be the same ...No matter what choice you make.
Excellent points. Especially here: Dr. Phil ... you to placed ALL of the blame on the young man. If he had used a condom consistantly and it had simply failed....would that have made a difference for you.......but even if it had changed your position....it still would be no different for him legally.
I've heard stories of people who used condoms correctly, they DIDN'T break, and the woman retrieved the used condom from the trash and made herself pregnant with it. THOSE men are still made to pay. So much for the man's right to choose BEFORE conception....
(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep? Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.
(1) I'm a against abortion. Period! Unless the mother's health is in jeopardy.......I say let the little human being have a life. 
