Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

First of all...I am female.  I can't believe no one has ever come up with this option before.  If the mother wants to make the decision by herself to keep a baby, then the father should have the option to automatically decide to give the baby up for adoption TO THE MOTHER!  Doesn't the mother have that option?.....mothers make adoption decisions all the time.  This should be a law for an option for the father and passed at the state and national level.  This should be an AUTOMATIC option without thousands of dollars having to be spent by both parties for attorney fees.  Why should the mother get all the choices?  This solution would give the father the opportunity to decide what happens to his own life without someone trying to control him and force him into something he does not want to do or be!  This may also help cut down on girls/women getting pregnant in order to trap a man or to get money.  If it is the responsibility of both mother and father to raise and care for an unplanned child, then the father should have a say equal to that of the mother of whether or not to give birth to and/or keep the child.  Girls/women...if you want to keep the baby, then do it with the knowledge that the father either wants to father the child with you, or you're on your own!  I hope this young man wins his case....his stand was and is very clear. 

I agree with him.  I am a 27 y/o mother of 3, 2 are ours, 1 is his.  The one who is his, her mother decided to not be her mother and my husband wanted her and kept her.  She has no contact with her biomother and we do not receive a drop of money from her.  It may seem sad, but it's not.  She is better off without her biomom and better off not being jerked around by courts and everything else that we could put her mother through and therefor her as well.  My husbands brother has a different father than my husband and their mother forced him to see his father and call him even though his dad made it clear he didn't want him.  His brother is now in his 20's and think everyone owes him because his mom made a big deal to him about his dad not wanting him instead of just letting him no she loves him and that's all that matters. 

I also have a friend who's girlfriend told him she was pregnant, he was excited, then she got an abortion and acted like it was no big deal, even years later he thinks of that child and is hurt.  I think Men should have a choice when it has to do with THEIR child.  I think they should have the same rights as women, and if they do not want the child, they should be able to "abort" all rights for that child.  Yes they should be responsible, but so should the women.  If something fails and one decides to keep the child, the other should not be held responsible money wise or in any other way. 

I'm sorry but a puppy and a baby are two very different things.  As far as men's rights are concerned.  He is choosing not to be in the child's life and make a public mockery out of fatherhood.  This will be incredibly harmful to the child someday...so this should be about HIS rights..are you kidding? 

I'm a little shocked at all the animosity toward men here. "Use your hand!"   

" Keep your pants on!"  "Think with your brain."    All these things can be said to the woman, too.  Shouldn't she have kept her pants on or used her hand if she didn't want a child? 

I get tired of the "accidents happen" refrain, too.  Yes, accidents happen but people who ignore traffic laws have many more accidents than those who obey them.  Ladies, if you don't want to raise a child by yourself, if you think your future children deserve a secure home with married parents; then get on the pill, don't forget to take it and use a spermicidal foam before actual sexual encounters.  Your chance of an accident will be about one in a million. 

Sorry I disagree, Matt had total choice, everytime they slept together he could have used a condom, he CHOSE not to, making a conscious choice everytime!  I do not necessarily belive she had an Opps I got pregnant moment.  Maybe she was told by a medical professional she could not get pregnant, we dont know!  It is really harsh to judge when we dont know her story. 

For Matt to be able to decide after the fact is ludecris, 1st of all he took the chance by not abstaining from intercourse or using a condom, 2nd, he is not the one to carry the child, it is not his body!  He decided to have sex, he cant change his mond now!!!!  And finally, Dad's walk away all the time and ignore their children.... 

apparently the "I am not ready for a child and have decided to be a deadbeat" ploy is alive and well. 

I think Matt is looking for noteriety and is disgustingly naive, what kind of father does that to his child, and undoubtably she is his daughter!!! 

A question to ponder.... if safe sex and being conned is a concern, why would he take the chance of getting VD, realistically speaking, he was not concerned about diseases either.  He is a hypocritical idiot and should be ashamed! 

First of all...I am female.  I can't believe no one has ever come up with this option before.  If the mother wants to make the decision by herself to keep a baby, then the father should have the option to automatically decide to give the baby up for adoption TO THE MOTHER!  Doesn't the mother have that option?.....mothers make adoption decisions all the time.  This should be a law for an option for the father and passed at the state and national level.  This should be an AUTOMATIC option without thousands of dollars having to be spent by both parties for attorney fees.  Why should the mother get all the choices?  This solution would give the father the opportunity to decide what happens to his own life without someone trying to control him and force him into something he does not want to do or be!  This may also help cut down on girls/women getting pregnant in order to trap a man or to get money.  If it is the responsibility of both mother and father to raise and care for an unplanned child, then the father should have a say equal to that of the mother of whether or not to give birth to and/or keep the child.  Girls/women...if you want to keep the baby, then do it with the knowledge that the father either wants to father the child with you, or you're on your own!  I hope this young man wins his case....his stand was and is very clear.