Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Why should the reponsibility of birth control rely solely on the woman?  Why did he not protect himself the best he could?  He said in the beginning he used a condom.  Why did he stop if he did want a child at "this point "in his life?  He had the option of not having sex.  He chose to ingnore the consequesnces of his action and live in the moment.   He does have an option.  He can relinquish his rights as the father of this child.  No child or support to pay for that child.    

Also, knowing how Matt would react, why did the mother even ask for support?  She chose to have the baby knowing he did not want one.  Shouldn't the care and support solely fall on her shoulders then?  The only probelm with this situation is that we don't have the WHOLE story.  

My son was out of our room at six months old, but my nine month old daughter is still in our room. They didn't sleep in the bed with us they slept in their crib or in the pack and play. Our daughter would already be out of the room if it was up to me, but my husband says but she still wakes up some at night. Lately she hasn't been waking up, but i agree parents should have their alone time. I don't get much alone time because my husband is in the Navy so when he is home we don't have a lot of time. I say stand your ground and sooner or later she will give in because she will miss the intimacy.  

he gave up his rights? then so did she.. 

thats the point isnt it...the men have rights too.. 

if you look at the bigger picture..men have always got  the short end of the stick, when it comes to the poor victimized woman..oh wait .....she's a mature smart woman with choices, that is untill the hard choices come up,,then she's a victim 

If he carried the baby for nine months and gave birth to the baby then it is his right to give it up for adoption. He did not do this, she did. He does have a choice. He is choosing, at this time, to not see the baby, feed it, or comfort the baby when she is sick. He is not being forced to do any of this and is not choosing to do it either. I see his point, but no one is forcing to be a parent. That is his choice. He said he has not spent any time with the child, could this be because he is afraid that he will change his mind and want to be a parent.   

I am a 54 year old grandmother of 4 girls. I have two sons.  I have seen how some girls/women manipulate guys with pregnancy. As well as guys shrugging off their responsibilites as a father.  

I truly believe man should have something to say about having a child of their own.  And if there is a pregnancy, they should have just as much right to what happens with the child as the mother. If some guidelines were put in place it might curtail a lot of fatherless children being brought into this world.  

I also believe deeply in prevention. A man is as as responsible as a woman preventing pregnancy. That should always be taken into consideration.