Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

The only way to be 100% not to become a parent is NOT have the egg and sperm meet!!!  There is only about 3 days in the month that a woman can get pregnant.  (each woman is different so see your doctor for additiona information)  If matt really didn't want to have children he should have inquired as to when his partner was ovulating!!   He sounds like a big baby that doesn't want to take ANY responsibility for his actions.  Bottom line--If you have intercourse, you could make a baby!!  So before things get heated you need to ask yourself--If I have intercourse I could get pregnant /become a parent.  Am I ready for this?  If your answer is NO then intercourse shouldn't be engaged.   

This is just my opinion.  Also,  

Why can't (doesn't) Matt sign his parental rights over to his ex-girl friend?  

Until a man can carry a child for nine months and has the torment of the changes of a pregnancy, he CANNOT make these decisions.    

I find it strange, living in Michigan and knowing about this case for a while now, that we actually have people in this country that would agree with this totally careless and unapologetic "kid" and stand up with him saying that he has "RIGHTS".  PLEASE>>>>>  I am so ticked off that I could scream.    

How can you have sex with a woman, and NOT wear a condom in this day and age, and be so angry at the woman for getting pregnant???    

He should be thankful that he does not have 25 million diseases and be grateful for ONLY for a pregnancy.      

He guy..... Get off your "moral" and "give me MY rights" soap box.  You had sex without a condom.  DEAL WITH IT!!!    

WHAT A JERK!!!!  WHAT AN IDIOT!!!  WHAT A COMPLETE BRAIN DEAD FOOL!!!!!    

When my husband was thirty years old, the exact same thing took place.  They dated for about two months and had sexual intercourse one time.  Both acknowledges this and both also agee that she lied to him when she stated that she was on birth control and that she had a medical condition as well.  She was 32 years old and My husband feels that she was at a point where she wanted a child and saw a great oppotunity to do so.  He had a great job and income, home, etc... I did not know him at this time so I was not apart of this situation, however I did come into this when the child was 14 months old.  I could see that they clearly did not get along and I have tried to keep my opinions to myself and let them make decisions, communicate, etc.  My husband took responsiability from the start, he was devasted like I am sure this man is because this is not how he planned for things to happen and under normal circumstances people do not choose to do things backwards, but things happen.  The problem that my husband had to deal with is he was taking responsability but because he did not want to have a realtionship with hte mother she did not want him to have  a relationship with the child.  He did not even know that she was pregnant until the baby was two months old.  So he had a lot of trust issues with the mother because of her lying to him and with holding information.  She tried to control him and his visitation so much that he had no choice but to take her to court and get a judge to decide a visitation schedule.  She wanted the check every month but would not let him see her unless it was convienant to her.  He won the legal battle and he got joint custody, half the time, she is now 11 years old and doing great.  She has her own room complete with everything you could want or need and my husband coaches her softball team, we take her to school and pick her up.  we try to limit as much contact with the mom because of hard feelings it seems to make it easier on the child because there is less tension for her but if we do have contact we are cordial.  It seems like if her moms life is not going well then she makes things hard for everyone.  We just try to live the life we were handed and go on.  I know that he will regret not being apart of his childs life and a person has got to question what he is trying to get out of this for himself.  He is obviously needing or wanting attention.